I said when I was pregnant with my daughter that I was not going to let her get into the habit of sleeping with me. When she was a newborn, she slept in a bassinate beside my bed. At about 6 months I started her in her crib in her room, but I was constantly getting up to check and make sure she was still breathing, so if she woke up, I would rock her to sleep or put her in bed next to me. I am a real light sleeper, so I didn't worry that I would lay on her or anything. As she got older she started sleeping in her bed all night, but she got into the habit of needing the tv on to go to sleep or getting out and getting in bed with my son. Or she will cry and ask me "I sleep with you mama?" I really don't mind if she gets in bed with me most nights, but my husband hates it cause he says she kicks and pinches him all night in her sleep. He gets mad at me if I let her, but I have gotten so used to her being in my bed that it worries me when she isn't. How do you handle this subject?
2006-09-20 15:42:29 · 12 answers · asked by LittleMermaid 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I say it worries me, cause I am a paranoid person anyways and my daughter is a momas girl through and through, and I always think the worst when she is not with me. When she is in her room, I have her baby monitor up as loud as it will go so that I can here her breathing, I check on her upteen times, and am always afraid that the house will catch on fire and I won't be able to get across the hallway to get her out. I know, I am really paranoid.
2006-09-20 15:45:37 · update #1
I'm sorry the pinching, kicking cracked me up...I feel for your hubby...I would make your wee one sleep in her own bed, mommy and daddy need alone time, even if its quiet time.
It is understandable you feel the way you do about wondering what ifs, but mama you need to relax, your baby will be OK. Did you know someone who lost their baby from SID's, or some other childhood thing??? Cause that can make someone paranoid...
And your little girl isnt the only one that needs the TV to fall asleep LOL this 43 year old, old lady needs the TV to, its a bad habit, now tell me to stop LOL....
She will cry at first, but tell her she is a big girl now...Make the room hers, deco it in her favorite things, like a princess room or whatever she is into. Let her pick out stuff to hang, her bedding, this could be fun for both of you....Daddy will be thankful....
2006-09-20 17:32:18 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, I'm a single mom, I had very few choices and one of the ones I made was to let my son sleep with me. It was comforting and relaxing and he was right next to me. As he got older, he still expected it. It suddenly became a serious problem. It got to the point where I couldn't get to sleep on time for work or for anything else. It started to take over his developmental skills. He was attending a daycare and was unable to develop his problem solving skills. Now, I'm not trying to start a fight, and I'm not against a family bed, but now I have four children. My husband and I have a blended family, there are too many of us to make that a possibility. He's also in the Navy, deploying several times, we have found it very hard to get reacquainted when he returns if our bed was full. My husband and I have discussed having another, but we both know that there is no way we can have a family bed. It's not right for everyone, it's wonderful for others. I enjoyed it when I could and now I know what's right for me and what's right for my guys. When they're sick or scared, absolutely, they come into our bed and cuddle and I wouldn't change that. But I know that I have to make time for me and I have to make time for husband. The kids we have is not the glue that holds us together. Both sides have legitimate issues, but choose what's best for you. And don't let the "experts" say anything that might make you feel bad for it...half the time it they don't have kids. Enjoy them while they'll let you.
2006-09-20 23:09:36 · answer #2 · answered by cwbyrdr23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband used to work at night - and both of my girls slept with me from the time they were born. When my first was born I had a little crib she slept in beside the bed - then she moved into the bed when she got bigger. My second slept in a bassinet beside the bed and the older was in the bed with me. When the second got to where she slept all night she slept in her room which was right next to mine and was no more that 20 steps from me. Then when she got a little older she piled into the bed with me and her sister.
I basically did this because my husband was gone at night and I did not want them to far from me. Well.........when he started working during the day - they still wanted to sleep with me!!!! They would make pallets on the the bedroom floor every night!!!LOL - Anyway they are teenagers now - and they both sleep comfortably in the seclusion of their own rooms.
My advice - don't worry about it. If she wants to come sleep in the room - let her make a pallet or get her a little air mattress and stick it next to your side of the bed. She will eventually stop.
2006-09-21 01:03:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had that fear problem but I also realized that I was being irrational, I loved having my son in bed with me but when you want to cuddle up to your husband and a child is in the middle its hard. Also I need a lot of room to sleep and that makes it so crowded. My son started waking up in the night and climbing into to bed with us, and now my husband works nights so its nice to have someone next to me. But since hes used to it on the nights my husbands off it makes it hard so what I do is after he falls a sleep I move him to his bed. I put a fan in both my kids rooms since they were very young and found the noise knocks them right out. Plus useful on hot summer days. Id say for the sake of you and your husband make a compromise a couple nights with you and a couple nights in her bed, just let her fall asleep in your bed and move her, that way you get some quality time with your husband.
2006-09-21 00:14:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its a tough habit to break.
my 10 year old daughter still asks to sleep with me.
i loved sleeping in my mothers bed when i was little, her bed was always more comfortable than my twin bed.
my daughter is the same way. she claims her bed is so uncomfortable. so i have my 1 year old and my 10 year old both hogging the sheets at night.
but break the habit as early as possible. lay in bed with her for the first 10-15 minutes or so until she falls asleep. make that a habit and eventually she'll get used to it.
2006-09-21 00:01:55 · answer #5 · answered by Denise 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love when my kids want to sleep with me, but sometimes it's hard to sleep 2 adult and 2 children in a full size bed. LOL
2006-09-20 22:53:18 · answer #6 · answered by jackie b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son is two and he sleeps with us. We all enjoy it - well, there are those moments when you wake up from a hard kick in the face but otherwise it is very pleasant.
2006-09-20 22:45:24 · answer #7 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son is 2 and he sleeps with me too, i have the same fears of fire etc and sleep much more soundly if he is next to me!!!
2006-09-20 22:49:57 · answer #8 · answered by bec 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i let my first daughter sleep with me and now my second daughter sleeps with me. i feel more comfortable with her right next to me.
2006-09-20 22:52:02 · answer #9 · answered by kat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well this is a hard one...I let it happen on occasion and to this day my 15(gilr) and 11(boy) year olds like to have at least one night a week!!....and I now kinda regreat it...it is nice to have that...but hard to break!!
2006-09-20 22:53:24 · answer #10 · answered by Crystlclear43 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋