I love this man so very much. He is afraid to commit. Help?

Answer 1

I hate to say this, but if he loved you as much as you love him, he wouldn't have any fears, he would want to spend the rest of his life with you.
Cut your losses now and move on

Don't settle for less than you deserve

Answer 2

Don't force him because that is grounds for him to cheat and not be 100% into your relationship. Let him make the move and if he's moving too slow you have to find the strength to move on. Is age a factor? A bad relationship? Whatever the issue is try to talk to him about it, but if the relationship is not 50%-50% then it's not worth your time! Be blessed.

Answer 3

you love him so much do he love you the same way and ask him how much do he love you and why is he afraid to commit to you there a deep hiden reason he is not commiting but if he love you the same then you'll get your answer good luck

Answer 4

I am sorry - there is nothing you can do.

If he is afraid to commit, it probably has nothing to do with you.
He is just not ready. You cannot make him change.
Some of us take a long time to mature.
And some people really prefer a single life. (believe it or not)

Good Luck!

;-)

Answer 5

You,dear, have a long and bumpy road ahead of you. Try asking him straight out, why he's affraid to commit. If he's honest, his answer will tell you all you need to know.

Answer 6

the short answer=if you don't have kids or want kids this could be the greatest time of your life.you'll never really get to meet this guy or any other guys if you don't see that the same freedom woman want in the marriage, men want to control with out marriage just to see what you do next. and you can still marry him later, ((he may not see marriage as the way to see each others as equals)). the respect is gone out of it if the relationship moves to marriage in alota guys eyes. and i know that woman have been trained to percieve their additudes from a long lost( idle )=i will do a blog on this some day too,of womanhood. to this goddess i've never seen i've studied the depths of the training each woman worshipers,back to the story,i triped over a hope chest,, oh where was i..therearen't ways that he has a leg to stand on once he's legally in a binding court decree, the fun and games are over.cold marriages start the day the weather changes and that's that ,can you see yourself at the worst times you'll ever think anyone can have and see your self getting him through it to, can you understand that the questions that are up for grabs here is you don't get married are the same haunting that my make it just another terrorized hated filled getto in the mind if it goes bad, i tried to always understand that if i lose it can't i still not kill my self over it. and alot of really bad things have passed through the ranks of people wanting to hear and analize marriage alot among themselves before they ever discuse it to any woman, you just don't see that they see, that you don't see,they just don't see the shallow side of as being "legal"or fair, (once things don't go his way it makes lil' or no difference)=golden rule of fastisfaction+ (this is a word i design to designate both satisfaction and fast desires,fastest satisfaction)=fastisfaction,on.on,because many marriages are based solely that the guy provides and the girl can takes her money and do what she wants without any commitment to the marriage , that legal,her income is not subject to marriage: with so many ideas that you may not of heard guys talk about, to other guys,you could be under-informed on additudes out there today.today you hear story in the paper, two beers and the cops were there and half the assests of each of you are gone in a heart beat..they give you a guilt trip just to make you pay up it's a scam that has is
too old and been worked to death by the court system.yadda yadda,their money went= to the "system" and nobody beats the system and the system is part of the scalping of married people it's just fact=the business of gov't is business and your legal paper is their business,business as usual in america,guys do time in the slammers for any and all related dislikes of gender in the police stations out there, its customary to have only the signed statement from a woman at the time she picks and this will get them thrown to the dogs, curtesy of the local states attorney office in your area, where a man has to have more legal ramfication to get a charge to become valid. not equal! when commiting gets out of the way the guys usually can become more anamated and real but if the (wet blanket) type of psychology get him down he is in a condition where he's unfamilar with the extreme consequences of once you go through the doors there's no way back.if life has doors that can led you to further examine the person you want to be with then take them because guys will always be there to help you stay at a level that will always give you= "the i want to be married to you feeling" YOU MAY ALREADY BE A WINNER+my point is that feeling is what it's all about not the marriage, on the other hand alot of woman do not see achieving this with out marriage has little rewards and many love lives have been lost to the fact that women don't see the man standing in front of you the way it is,only they want to apply changes to move when it may be the best spot but have other plan to move it , we all see life as doors and some doors and self explanatory and will remain set in psychological (go no go)assumptions as you wander though your thoughts, set thing have good sides to them and bad side too them each will stigmatize the given factor that they exist at all, but some facts are slow or never revealing about what you don't know and going through some doors never can be back to where you want to be, is t important to a guy, if you love him,or you are a head game all you have to do is give him the altimatium and be a controller and this will either be good or it will be bad."change is where something was"when was can't be what is then the door closes, but if they going gets tough the tough get going and the marriage gets run over before it was enjoyed by all,buyer beware is not that unfamilar in the case of embarressing situations that we all want it to last a life time and few get it right. hope your are the lucky few or.............. go through a battle of pre- agreements til you get to common grounds

Answer 7

Has he given you and reasons not to trust him?????
Sorry misread question. How long have you guys been together? It takes some time.

LOL unlike me. My husband asked me 2 weeks into our relationship.
>.<

Answer 8

Just hang out with him, if you don't already, then gradually start to flirt, if you're not already. Finally ask him out.

Answer 9

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