I have always had a pretty irrational (hopefully) fear of love and commitment because society has impressed upon me that men are unhappy with their wives. I've never wanted to get married because I don't want to be "the wife" who gets ignored, abused, cheated on, resented, taking for granted, etc... Am I crazy?
2006-09-20 15:35:27 · 36 answers · asked by farynblue 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Marriage is what you make it. It depends on how the couple handles their marriage. I think that God binds two people together in marriage because he believes they can make it work- it's destiny. Choose your partner well. Personally, i think the man must love the woman more.....
2006-09-20 15:50:02 · answer #1 · answered by mikee 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The wife that gets ignored is the wife who is not giving the man what he needs. Something is lacking in the relationship and he's goign to go somewhere else to get it rather than talk to you, so keep communication open in the relationship. The abused wife is not anything you would do, it's the man's anger issue, which you should be able to sense during dating. It's not like he suddenly becomes abusive when you get married, that's not how it works. But let me just say, getting married doesn't provoke any of these things, it's the way you communicate with eachother after getting married. You ahve to understand that even though you're bonded together, you still have to respect eachother just as you did when you dated.
2006-09-20 15:43:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably depends on the individual. Not all men cheat, ignore or abuse. Maybe you feel that you would become that sort of wife if you got married. It takes two people to make a marriage work, and blaming the man is pointless. Most men will treat their other half well, if they do the same for them.
2006-09-20 15:40:32 · answer #3 · answered by Wotan210 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not crazy, i love my husband to deaf, but we have disagreements about some of the crazy things but we don't hate each other, we have learn to work threw our problems, if there was love in the begin then there will be love in the end, i love my husband for all the good things and the bad things we have been threw together, the couple that you see have been married for 30-60 years they have been cheated on, ignored, abused and taken for granted so don't think every marriage is peaches and creams, believe me when i tell you i am still trying to get it together on my end, i believe i act like a man just don't care but deep down i do.
2006-09-20 15:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by siobhanwebster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not crazy, because my own brother feels the same way. After seeing the B.S. that my other brother and I went though with out ex' s he does not want to get married anytime soon. I for one went though some of it. I will tell you I am very afraid to be with someone again. I know the next person I date will have to be very patient and maybe a saint. That would be the day.
2006-09-20 15:41:56 · answer #5 · answered by vickie g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't get married knowing you're gonna hate your wife or abuse her or cheat on her... if someone does that then they need some serious help....
Every single Human has faults not just men but women as well.... If you fear all this before even getting married then you have extremly low self esteem...
2006-09-20 15:40:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all not all men hate/resent their wives and second of all you are not crazy, your just being cautious that's all. Maybe someday you'll meet the man you want to spend the rest of your life with. Take care.
2006-09-20 15:38:21 · answer #7 · answered by Shannon T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that's terrible that you think that. There are so many men that worship their wives and the wife doesn't give a damn about the husband. any hatefulness can go both ways. Just make sure you find yourself a good guy before you settle down.
2006-09-20 15:38:02 · answer #8 · answered by newyorktocountry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"I don't want to be "the husband" who gets ignored, abused, cheated on, resented, taking for granted, etc... Am I crazy?
answer:
I must be. I married 3x and in all but one of them all of the above applied only opposite of your situation. I was on the receiving end.
2006-09-20 15:38:30 · answer #9 · answered by fun_guy_otown 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not every guy is like that, just like not every woman dotes on her man. Everyone is different and generalizations don't fit everyone. You are not crazy, just a bit cynical or skeptical of love and commitment. When you find the right person you will really see what I mean.
2006-09-20 15:40:07 · answer #10 · answered by Babel Bella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. but you cetainly need to get over that fear
it is a chance and a gamble but when you love the man you are to marry it does not matter
don't change on him and don't let him change on you
if you have problems in your relationship realyze that everybody does whether it is about dishes or sex life learn to love him and help teach him about how to love you
and the biggest thing is to communicate
but then again I am only twenty one, a male, and not married so I am just fueling off of the things I have heard!
2006-09-20 15:39:02 · answer #11 · answered by Beano4aReason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋