They "hung out" a few times in Feb and March before I met him. We have been together since May and I found out they still talk and email. Her boyfriend does not know either. I am pissed!
2006-09-20 15:26:16 · 30 answers · asked by lisa1984 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well if he's made any type of verbal committment to YOU.. then yeah.. he's cheating... and whoever said oh leave the poor guy alone needs to be smacked in the head with a louisville slugger... I don't blame you for being pissed.. I would be too!! I say get even with him... tinkle in his soda or cologne bottle... rub his toothbrush in the toilet or something!
2006-09-20 15:32:19 · answer #1 · answered by someone s 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do like all the answers you got. But I will tell you. He may not, but it could get to that. And right now thinking about it all the time is going to make you go right insane, and you could be worrying about nothing. I would look for signs if he is or not. For example, if a guy is definitely cheating or interested in someone else. There is usually no way to hide it. As much as they may try. He will STILL act different in some way towards you. See if things he use to do or say before have been diminishing. Also, sit him down and just talk to him about it.....whatever you do, do not jump into it and act like you are accusing him. That might take a turn for the worst. But just sit down with him and let him know you are a little worried and see what's up. Also Keep an eye out. I know that sometimes it is frustrating to see your guy talk or even hang out with another girl, but sometimes we look too far into things and we think something is going on that really isn't. BUT don't assume that he may not be either. BUT the hiding around is not good either. It would make me a bit worried too if they were sneaking around. Also if he is not, then there should be no reason to hide it. Keep your eyes open, but not to the point to invade is privacy. Things will work out girl!
2006-09-20 15:35:14 · answer #2 · answered by ♫~Princess~♫ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you consider cheating. If I was in your place, I would b e pissed too...Are they talking as if they were planning to get together eventually? Does he talk to her over the phone while you're around or will he let you read what he emails her/or she emails him? And last does she know he has a gf?
2006-09-20 15:30:08 · answer #3 · answered by julieanthony469 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be ticked too. Consider this...if it were reversed he would say you were cheating on him. You know this. So, I'd confront him about what's been going on...but be ready for what he might say. Maybe he's had these feelings for her all along but for whatever reason it didn't work out. It might be he's still keeping things w/ you just in case it doesn't work out w/ her again. I wouldn't tell her bf. That would just make her even more available, yeah know?
2006-09-20 15:30:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not exactly cheating yet but it's going to be. Not cool that he's doing that. You have a right to be upset. You might as well walk away now because it sounds like he's still fishing for someone else.
2006-09-20 15:29:02 · answer #5 · answered by sunssecret 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you SURE that's all he's doing? Chances are the phone calls and e-mails may have some thing to do with meeting times and places. Ask him not to correspond with her and see what he says. Maybe if you can't trust him you shouldn't be with him.
2006-09-20 15:49:16 · answer #6 · answered by unicornfarie1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that happens to me I would really be mad at him.For me flirting is a big NO NO.Its an insult that he would still flirt with other girls in spite of me having his gf. But give him also the benefit of the doubt.Talk to him.Tell him what you feel and listen to him also. If he doesn't want to stop, then its up to you to decide wether to fight for it or end it.
2006-09-20 15:39:09 · answer #7 · answered by nini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i bet if they are not in the sheets he's wanting to be i know personally i only talk to old guy friends when i'm wanting to get up with them not just for friendly conversation however how close are you and your boyfriend getting maybe you guys are getting really close and he's just making sure everything else is out of his system so to speak
2006-09-20 15:29:14 · answer #8 · answered by short_and_sweet_72101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Find out if he still has feelings for her and then act appropriately. If it bothers you that much, ask him to stop. If he cares about you, he will. Be sure to explain that it makes you uncomfortable and be calm when you talk to him. Good luck!
2006-09-20 15:29:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not be actual cheating, however, if it causes you hurt and pain then perhaps you need to reevalute whether this is the right person for you.
2006-09-20 15:30:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋