I'm 18 and even know some ppl think its too young to have a kid, I think they are wrong. I have a good man and I feel this is right.
2006-09-20 15:19:50 · 14 answers · asked by loveliliekisses 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
My dream is to have kids.
2006-09-20 15:32:19 · update #1
I had to answer this question.I'm 18 and i'm 27 weeks pregnant, I have a great boyfriend who i love and who can't wait to be a dad.He's a great man and works very hard to support me.We are just moving into our new flat.I'm continueing with my studies.But my baby will always come first.We will be moveing to live where he works within a few years so we can all be together. We are so happy. I think you should follow your heart.someone once said to me that the best sort of mum is young. So she her baby can grow up together. Go for it
2006-09-20 15:30:54 · answer #1 · answered by donna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm glad you have a good man, that is a good start! Are you too young at 18? Well that depends - are you soooooo over going out and having fun with your friends and dancing and drinking - oh wait, you have even BEGUN to drink yet! I had my first baby at 35, and let me tell you, I could not have coped any earlier than that at all!! But that's just me. Are you ready to be completely selfless? Are you ready to have no sleep to speak of for 2 years? Are you ready to get annoyed with your good man for no apparent reason because you are so tired and apparently you are the only person on the face of the earth who can EVER do anything to make the baby stop crying? Are you ready to go through some entire days never having had free time enough to shower or even change out of your pajamas? Are you ready to put any career plans on hold for at least a year? And think down the line some too - when you hit 21 and you CAN drink, you will have a 3 year old. A 3 year old who still wakes up in the middle of the night sometimes and STILL only Mommy will do when it comes to comforting her. Are you ready to have a 3 year old saying "NO!!!" and running off when you ask her to put her shoes on because Mommy has to go to work? I mean, you need to think about everything that's involved, and think about the long run too. Until that baby is out of your house, you are totally responsible for everything that happens with him or her. It's an 18+ year committment, not just a 9 month committment. Being just 18 yourself - what do you think your mom would have to say about this idea? That's going to be you one day, with your own 18 year old wanting to have a child! It's just so so so very demanding. The first thing you have going for you is that you are asking for advice, and you intend to listen - that shows a great deal of maturity, so I am sure you are far better prepared than many of your peers are, but is this life what you really want right now, when you can have it at any time in the next 20 years? Thanks for listening! And good luck, whatever you decide.
2006-09-20 22:36:12 · answer #2 · answered by Sandi 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you want children that is not a bad or wrong thing. I am a junior in college right now and I am 6 months pregnant and am working. Being pregnant did not and will not stop me from going to school. If anything, it makes me want to succeed even more. If you have someone you love, you can support and love a child and can put that baby before your needs then by all means have a baby. I think age is irrelevant. People all mature at different times. Just remember that a baby is a full time job 24/7.
2006-09-21 11:00:29 · answer #3 · answered by beAn*s MoMmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you are in love, able to support a baby and you both truly want a child then there is no problem there. I am 19 and have a 9 month old and I have no regrets at all about having a baby young, I couldn't imagine my life without him.
You just need to make sure that you have the time and money for a baby. It takes alot to raise a child and if you are in college then your time may be limited. It would not be fair to the baby if you didn't have the extra time.
You just both need to sit down and weigh all the options. Good luck with everything. If you think now is the right time then don't listen to other people and go for it!
2006-09-20 22:27:13 · answer #4 · answered by kelley2387 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you don't have any friends that are around your age and have a child, then you really don't know the real deal. You should take other things into consideration like: How long have you been with him? How well do you know him? Also how are you going to support yourself? and your family? How does your parent's feel about this? How does your man feel about this? More importantly, where are you two going with this relationship? are you just going to be someone's baby mother or in the future, wife? You should really think about this before you do it.
2006-09-20 22:36:48 · answer #5 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All i can say is that i was very young when i had my first child and going to school was not easy. i also thought that i had a good man and when i got a little to hard to handle he ran. You have to have a college degree now to make it in the world and to raise kids. Good luck
2006-09-20 22:33:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a baby. Finish your schooling first. In fact, get most of your LIVING done first. Your youth only comes around once. Get out there and enjoy it. Finish college. Travel the world. Get established in your dream career. Because, I'll tell you, once those kids start coming, you will never have another chance to fulfil those dreams!
2006-09-20 22:29:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what anyone else says or thinks. All that matters is what you and your man want.
I do have to say, I would wait until you were through with college. It is possible but a lot more difficult than you realize to take care of a newborn, go to school and work!
Good luck and best wishes
2006-09-20 22:43:28 · answer #8 · answered by monroe1172002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way for sure.
Heres some advice for you when you do have kids in the future, not near future, give it some time before you do have them. I do think about been pregnant and the belly from time to time. I'm 24 yrs old now, will be 25 on December 30 of this year.
Don't even read the other posters or doctors or nurses or any others in healthcare field as well above or below here and their answers because they are definetly wrong for sure. The reason why is because medical birth hasn't been around since the beginning of time and has been here for since medival, spl times as I think. Personally, I'm not for this kind of birth, but when it is truly a medical necessary and not made up to medical necessary and scaring you and your family, friends, and etc. I'm not even milant as well as holadoc referred me to, but just wanted to you to aware of traditional birth as well. I know I haven't been pregnant or give birth yet, but that will happen in the future. Since ever subscribing to Mothering Magazines and like how I see things now from the past. Also, I volunteer in Maternity Department at the local hospital by me, so I see, and etc there as well. I recommed you don't show up for your the rest of doctor's appointments or don't consult the doctor or its office or the hospital either pre regisation or admission test or the section, and so on. Definetly don't listen to your dh or any of your family or friends or doctor or others . Definetly get a midwife that's isn't mainstream or stuff like that. Also, please try to breastfeed afterwards because it's it much more better then formula. Breastfeeding as around since the beginning of time and formula was introducted last half century so breastfeeding is way better then formula again. Also, do attactment parenting more then mainstream parenting because again it has been around since beginning of time and not like mainstream parenting when it has been around for at least a century now. Think thats it and good luck with it.
2006-09-20 22:35:36 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica A 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It is wonderful to have so much love to share that you want to share it with a child. you can resolve this within yourself by looking within, and deciding what you want to give your precious baby. When you can give that baby what you want to give him or her, then maybe you are ready. Also try to think ahead, do you want to be a 28 or 29 year old with a 10 year old. Just thoughts, the decision is up to you. Good luck, I wish you the best timing in the world.
2006-09-21 00:58:14 · answer #10 · answered by Rose C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋