Is it fair to your back on your family if they contantly drive you crazy. And by "turn your back" I mean sever all ties and all connections and not converse with or see them again.
2006-09-20 15:12:59 · 22 answers · asked by qzone23 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes, if it is healthier for you.
2006-09-20 15:15:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
...Well. Coming from a hispanic perspective...I'm not going to say this impossible...because it's not. But wow. Something real messed up must be going on for this to be your ultimate decision. It's not wrong...(fair's not the right word) But it does become something that sticks to the back of your mind all the time. Unless you're in a situation so bad that your life depends on it? ((your future wise and physical self)) Life with your family becomes real stressful that becomes a pain sometimes. Everyone understands what you're going through, they just don't feel the same way you do, because we all react differently. And you're deciding to just up and go. You know what I would do? Contemplate and get to the bottom of the madness. What is it that they're driving you crazy about? Have you tried to talk to them about it? Do they know what's going on in your life to the point that they can understand how much stress this is causing you? When you have children...would you want THEM to turn their back you and never speak to you again? It becomes a decision that will ultimately affect everyone around you. Believe me...it will. And only with time will you understand what I mean. It will be a relief...but only for a brief amount of time...or maybe not. But You should really think about everything that's going on and why it is. Take care and GOOD luck man!!
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2006-09-20 15:30:55 · answer #2 · answered by ForeignTerritory 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody need their space, even you. Are you able to take care of yourself? Do you have a job? Do you have a place to live lined up? Do you have the means to pay the electric bill and put gas in your car? If you do, then get your own space.
Either way, thou, don't sever all ties. You WILL regret it. When all else fails, there is always family. When everyone quits you, there is always family. When buddies get married and move off, there is always family. When you get sick, there is always family.
This Christmas imagine you are older and by yourself; eating pizza watching an old black & white 'cause your roomate moved out and took his color tv with him. You are remembering how your family used to drive you crazy; but you would give anything to have them drive you crazy now. What about your wedding? What about grandchildren? Grandma makes a good babysitter.
Please, just think about it, seriously.
Good Luck, son.
2006-09-20 15:26:30 · answer #3 · answered by Deborah K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because they drive you crazy, No. You're the one that sounds crazy. Ignore them for awhile, only see them at family functions a couple times a year, but to sever all times seems very extreme. You didn't explain what kind of crazy things they're doing though.
2006-09-20 15:39:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have to throw it all away?
Why not set some rules for yourself when you interact with your family?
Just because you came to the party doesn't mean you have to play the games.
Like....calling just to check in....but not being drawn into their craziness.
Or...stopping by just to say hello....stay 10 minutes and then leave.
Cutting all ties is pretty severe and hard to come back from...think about a better way to get some control.
2006-09-20 15:20:46 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, my family drives me crazy too, but i'm still here with them. Well, half the reason is because i'm not old enough to live alone, but the point is, there family, adn family should always be together. Give them another chance.
2006-09-20 15:21:42 · answer #6 · answered by Answer Givererer. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...if you really want to say its fair or not..of coz its not. they are your family. the ones which will love you , care for you and be there for you no matter what. sure..tehy drive you crazy sometimes..but is part of you and blood ties are usually stronger than anything.
but then again it depends, how close you are with them and how they have been trating you. but from my experience and otehrs' around me, no matter what you do or how much you try you can never escape your family
2006-09-20 15:21:23 · answer #7 · answered by Andri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd probably seek some personal couseling before making a decision like this in haste. It isn't a matter of being fair or not fair .. it is more of what you feel you can live with .. and what you cannot. Good Luck ! :)
2006-09-20 15:17:17 · answer #8 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong to do that...family are the real asset to a person! dont turn your back even they make you crazy. Thats why they are called family! It makes your life more colourful and meaningful.. be thankful, some ppl dont even have family.
2006-09-20 15:17:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is unhealthy for you to remain close with your family, then I would say it's time to get away from them. Just make sure you know that your choice may be permanent. I'm not doubting that you have good reasons to do this, I'm saying make sure you are 100% positive this is what you want. Luck to you!
2006-09-20 15:25:25 · answer #10 · answered by CTMEDS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do understand where your comming from, i too have thought about doing this several times but i also know if anything happened to me i wouldnt have my familys support or help. Ive instead distanced myself from them but still keep in contact, theyre your family and you dont want to one day wake up and know youve screwed things for good.
2006-09-20 15:17:05 · answer #11 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋