How hard is it to have three kids? I have two and I know there was a dramatic difference?

Question

between one and two. I have two girls, three years and ten months. I have been wrestling with the idea of wanting to have another child. We can afford another kid and my husband wants one. But I know that when our family went from one child to two it was a huge difference. Is it the same with two to three? Or after you get past the first addition it seems like a cake walk?

Answer 1

There was 18 months between my first and second and 25 months between my second and third. It's strange, but 2 did seem like a lot more work than 1, but 3 did not at all seem like any more work than 2. Maybe I just got better at managing my time? I say go for it. A little extra work is well worth the rewards. As I said, I had 3, now grown at 21, 19, and 17; I really wish I had more- a half dozen? My husband came from a family of 9 kids and 14 kids in my dad's family. Or maybe I'm just going through empty nest or it's one of those cases of you always want what you can't have, LOL!

Answer 2

Every kid is different. I had two girls 13 months apart. Being that close together, most people thought it would be hard but it just kinda flowed. My son however is different. I had him when my oldest was 3 1/2 my youngest 2 1/2. He flipped the world on it's side! Even now that he's older(9 months) it's still new to me. He's almost walking already!!! I swear!!!! He is just a mover and shaker. Always has been. Into everything, climbing cabinets, getting in his sisters stuff, he's a whirlwind. Not like the girls at all. My oldest walked and talked early, but she was so calm about it. Every kid has their own way to come in the world. But I promise one thing, EVERY SINGLE child is and gift from heaven and though there may be hard times, you'll not regret it.

Answer 3

I have three boys,8,almost 3, and just turned 1. I have to say, it was pretty overwhelming at first, but after the whole "new baby" settling in phase, it was pretty easy. My oldest son always wanted to help, and the other liked to try to help to. The only really hard thing is to make sure all are getting enough attention. At first, babies do alot of sleeping and such, so it wasnt really a problem. But now for instance, I am potty training my 3 year old and the youngest one is getting in the way and jumping on him and wanting his own special attention and I am only one person! I think that if you prepare yourself for it in advance, it isnt that big a difference. I think that going from 1 to 2 kids was harder than adding the third. Good luck!

Answer 4

I have three and it was easier going from 2 to 3 than 1 to 2. My oldest girl is 14 then comes a 8 year old girl and 7 year old boy. The youngest two have always entertained each other and are best friends. I was the youngest of three, my sister has three and my oldest brother has three so it seems to be the magic # in my family.

Answer 5

My parents have three kids and we each are 2 years apart. My mom said it's easier going to the third one, because the oldest (me) is four and somewhat understand instructions. If your oldest is big enough, it's the same from moving one to two. You just don't count the first kid because she's bigger.

My mom said just wait a couple more months, so you have rest between the second and third. If you have the kids too close, it might be a lot of work. And if you're financially stable, why not?

Answer 6

well speaking as a mom with three kids all in witch three years apart 9yrs,6years and 3years old i have to say its not that much difference the hardest part is when they are all going in three directions and in that i mean sports like my two oldest are in soccer two to three days a week and they have it the same days same times and different spots so i go to one and my husband goes to the other ones and then we switch every other day so we can see each of them play now when our youngest starts i don't know how we are going to do it but other then this i really haven't had any problems and i love them all and would never change it for the world so i guess what i am saying is it just depends on you and your husband and on if you think you got the time and patients for it .

Answer 7

I personally don't have kids. But I have babysat kids and it seems, well i make it seem as if they were my own. I practically raised kids from birth u might as well say (with todays "WORKING" parents). I love it. I understand how you may feel it's NOT the time. But like some have said having children close in age is a PLUS, because they'll always have someone they can relate to. I have two other sisters (i'm 21) they are 18, and 17 and I have a 4yrs old brother... he seems like the oddball cuz he's soo far in age from us... so we kinda treat him as if he were our own ya know? it's weird. But still a BLESSING! With my sisters being close in age they definately got along better than I did with any of them... then when I was 17 I moved out and we all became really close. So yeah... it's a hardship to have 3 kids, but still VERY worth it all... look at the bright side... do kids LIGHTEN up your life? If so... GO WITH IT! BUT one thing to look out for... if you have two girls already and get a third. OMG lol... U know all the WOMANLY things... u'll go through HELL and back lol. Us three girls (NOT PURPOSELY) had major attitudes, and so my poor dad put up with us three and my mom at that... so yeah... HOPEFULLY u'll get a boy. Lol. But whatever the ... uuuhhh... dunno what i wanna say... but however you go about it ... NEVER regret what U did do or didn't do. (Don't do like my mom and dad... my brother came really late (accident) and it was extremely hard on my mom cuz she was alot older and really had a hard time, but with us three girls it did seem to help her cuz obviously we love babies... hehe... anyways.. I"m just blabbing GOOD LUCK with ur decision! :) (If ur in CT u should contact me to babysit :P )

Answer 8

I did not notice that much of a difference. My last two are less than 13 months apart. We only had 3. I wanted 6. One of my sisters-law has 3 one has 4 and one has 5. We all feel extremely blessed, especially now that we are all having grandchildren.

Answer 9

well for me, i was a very young mother. my kids are 10, 8 and 1. there are some days where they wear me out but those days arent that much.

i think it all depends on your patience level. i have alot of patience and tolerance for my kids but not other people's children. even after having my 1 year old which was a big gap between her and my middle child, it still hasnt been hard.

Answer 10

My family have 7 children. I am the 5th one. If fun and the family is noisey but happy.Our sibling are very closed kit. Now I am uncle to all my brother and sisters children. I have 3 kids, 19, 16 and ....4yrs old.