I know myself better than him, so should I let him go about making asumptions and diagnosises about me. Plus I dont really communicate with him well because I feel uncomfortable around him, like he looks down upon me. I cant even make eye contact with him. Please help
2006-09-20 14:51:04 · 15 answers · asked by loni_831 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
If this isn't a type of interaction that occurrs outside of the therapy situation, with similar types of people especially, then, yes, I agree with others that perhaps it's not a good fit.
However, if you do commonly feel looked down upon, don't run. In fact, take it up with him. You might want to take it up with him anyway. Be objective, if it's a put down take it with a grain of salt.
2006-09-20 15:01:33 · answer #1 · answered by Tall Guy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have felt bad feelings like that with a couple therapists I have had in the past....best thing to do is find a different one that you are more comfortable with. Maybe try seeking a woman professional rather than a guy, since you are female. But if you can't trust your therapist then you are afraid to tell them somethings, and you are not getting the true help you need. which really means that you are wasting time and money!
2006-09-20 15:14:49 · answer #2 · answered by bobbie21brady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't trust your therapist, you are unlikey to benefit from therapy. His job is diagnosis. Trust is earned, so listen to his recommendations. If you're uncertain, give him the benefit of the doubt. If you KNOW he's wrong, tell him so. If you lose your trust, find another therapist. If you give up on more than three by this test, the problem probably is you.
On the other hand, absolute trust is dangerous. You need to be able to critically evaluate the advice that may govern your life.
Find the balance and good luck.
2006-09-20 15:07:16 · answer #3 · answered by novangelis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a therapist you can feel comfortable around. I think that feeling comfortable and having chemistry with someone is important in order to be able to trust them. If you feel his aura isn't making you naturally open up, then switch. It doesn't hurt to do so. It is your well being after all.
2006-09-20 14:54:19 · answer #4 · answered by KISMET 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had a bad experience one time. You know what I did? Stopped seeing him... Just because he's a therapist, doesn't mean he's a GOOD one. Find somebody else; your feelings/emotions are more important.
Another issue may be that you don't like his "diagnosis" because you don't agree with it, or simply don't WANT to be labeled. If that's the case, you need to stick it out.
But..........I still suggest seeing somebody else.
2006-09-20 15:30:48 · answer #5 · answered by Snuz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You develop a relationship with your therapist over time......sometimes it takes awhile to trust him/her. Assumptions should be made by no one. Diagnoses should be done by a doctor. If you feel that uncomfortable with your current therapist, maybe you should consider seeking out a new one....
2006-09-20 15:03:55 · answer #6 · answered by Chelle 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are not making eye contact, then you are the one looking down.
Check out the therapist qualifications. Here in Paradise, you don't need any!
2006-09-20 15:48:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not understand why you are seeing him if you believe you know more than him and are not going to trust his diagnoses. Either you get a second opinion, just stop with therapy completely, or trust your current therapist until he suggests hypnosis and you wake up naked one time.
2006-09-20 14:54:14 · answer #8 · answered by TheDude 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He knows that you can't really communicate with him because you are uncomfortable...that is one of your symptoms. He sees the lack of eye contact and knows you are sick. These are little give-a-ways that you do need help. Good luck to you.
2006-09-20 14:54:38 · answer #9 · answered by Kitty L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very hard to get much out of a therapist you don't feel comfortable with. Get someone you feel comfortable with.
2006-09-20 14:53:59 · answer #10 · answered by richarddelightful 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋