How do you avoid no win situations within the family? What do you do if you are asked a whopping big favour which you are unhappy about accepting because it's cheeky, really inconvenient and involves risk? If you don't agree you're mean, if you do agree the favour is stretched (give a inch, they take a mile etc) and you end up having to deal with the fall out. Either way your family think bad of you. Should you give the favour and just accept their cheek or try to put your foot down. If you put your foot down how do you do it without looking mean and unreasonable? Oh and how do you get people to see your point of view when they are convinced the request wasn't cheeky, inconvenient or risky?
2006-09-20 14:49:24 · 9 answers · asked by nickip 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
it involves a house purchase from them, accepting to let them stay in the property during the move (for a few days then a week) and not getting the keys or access to the house during the time.
2006-09-20 15:03:40 · update #1
Tell them you will do it but only with proper legal papers being drawn up first - and they pay for that to be done.
2006-09-24 02:51:24 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your foot down all the way, learn by past mistakes, I know where you are coming from because my family are the same, not my immediate family but parents, brothers etc; give an inch and they will take you for the longest ride ever, you won't win so don't even bother entering the competition, it took me years and years of heartache to work this one out!! it is sooooo easy to say 'no' it just takes practise!! just remember, whatever you do or say won't be right and if you accept that you won't get upset, have no expectations of gratitude or anything and you will not be disappointed! do youunderstand me??
2006-09-21 05:17:24 · answer #2 · answered by pottydotty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can let them stay for few days but make sure you have the keys and access or they wouldn't move. It's really hard to refuse families.
But if you see that you are being taken for granted then you would haveto put your foot down and tell them that's it's time to move.
2006-09-21 03:45:31 · answer #3 · answered by Saphire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you can't do it and think of a good believable reason that they will accept... Alternatively, pass the request to someone else... Then only one family member will be upset with you and everybody will focus on them not you.
2006-09-20 21:56:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it your buying the house and on purchase day they aren't moving out?
Of course its annoying anyone else would have to be out of the house ,if it is this way tell them the completeion date will have to be put back you consulted a solicitor and he said if it is not vacated it can't go ahead just lie ,
but if they have no where to go tell them they can stay as guests but you want keys and into house on day of purchase.
2006-09-20 22:08:25 · answer #5 · answered by Nutty Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask a huge favour in return( ie. applying your hemmeroid cream) to see the tables turned.
2006-09-20 22:20:53 · answer #6 · answered by canadastani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i can't help you there,because you aren't telling me the favor.It depends on the favor that they are asking of you.No matter what you do,or say family will always love you no matter what
2006-09-20 21:55:36 · answer #7 · answered by silly_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the situation, can you be more specific?
2006-09-20 21:56:06 · answer #8 · answered by lilpinay 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't Know
2006-09-20 23:05:59 · answer #9 · answered by kevin d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋