we did it a couple times but he's backing out, he'll take off my bras and everything, we share a luxury apt, we sleep together, change together, see each other nude. what else can i do to turn him on?
2006-09-20 14:47:39 · 33 answers · asked by cutie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hmmm, i say dont rush him, he may be waiting for you, or maybe he wants to take it slow, their is nothing bad about that, i wish i had a man like that, just talk to him.
2006-09-20 14:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by louise 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well girl, tell me how did you do it a couple of times, and then say he backed out. And what does living in a luxery apt. have to do with sex? NOTHING. You are insecure and you are bragging. Your bf is hiding in the closet. There is nothing you can do to turn him on. He is gay. It is all in front of you. If you need to come on here and ask for help. Right there is a sign. A straight man gets turned on so easy by a female and can not stop.
Sorry but you are living with a man who wants a man. You can not change who he is. He is hiding in the closet and afraid to come out with his sexuality. He is hiding his sexuality behind you.
Here is a test, a true test. You have to find a male friend, and tell him of the situation. Ask him to come over for a few drinks. Let him get a bit cozy with your bf. See if any sparks fly, and no I do not mean face down, A$$ up either with the two guys.
You will then be able to tell if he is turned on by the guy.
You sleep with him, change clothes and see each other nude. If he is not gay, then he is just not attracted to you. But in all reality a man is a man. a man is horny all the time, and he will have sex with any female. The fact that he may not be attracted to you, should not prevent him from having sex with you. A man who is straight will use any women for sex. The fact he will not have sex with you when your giving it for free is the first sign that he is GAY......
2006-09-20 14:57:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is really really important to the health of a relationship for the man to come to the woman for sex, men are taught they should be "in charge" of this situation and my sense is you may have been taking some of that initiative away from him. Chill out on that and just be yourself, dress how you think he would like and do nice things but don't go overboard or ask him how he wants everything, just be you, there is a reason he got together with you in the first place. Try this for a month and see what happens, my guess is he will either get very hot for you, or you will figure out that he's not really into you and that you should break up.
You also don't mention your ages. If he is older he could have functionality issues. If you are both very young like say in your early 20s he might be a virgin and not sure what to do, or even not sure if he's ready. At any age, he could be someone who has been abused or raped (yes it happens to men too). So if the above doesn't work after a month but you are still close, then I would try gently talking with him about it, see if something like this might be going on, and if so then if you really want to have sex then ask him if he'd be willing to go for counseling either on his own or with you.
Good luck.
2006-09-20 14:56:29 · answer #3 · answered by kellyault20001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! you guys need to somehow open up a dialougue about this situation. Obviously there is a slight problem somewhere. Whether it be that hes waiting for marraige, feels shy and uncomfortable, or something else. The only way you can find this out is by having a conversation about both of your expectations in the relastionship, sexually and otherwise. Make sure to do this in a comfortable setting though because if he feels your are putting him on the spot he might be uncomfortable
2006-09-20 14:52:59 · answer #4 · answered by mccombspac 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well I can see that the first person started the chain here. Maybe he is not GAY, maybe he is not ready for sex. Does he get hard, when he sees you. If he does, then he is not gay. Maybe he is scared and does not want to deal with some of the repercussions that can come from sex.
2006-09-20 14:53:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many bras does he have to take off? If he has to take off more than one, then I don't blame him for backing out. I would turn around and RUN!!!
2006-09-20 14:56:48 · answer #6 · answered by x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should if your 20 years old or older i had sex lots of times when I was little (not abused or not forced too) I had sex with my boyfriends, but think about it do you want to have a baby? Even if he uses a condom you can get pregnant or not. Do you want to feel so much pain?
2006-09-20 14:54:52 · answer #7 · answered by Mariah W 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask him what he thinks will turn him on, but he does sound a bit gay, or maybe he is just really shy. my partner was like that for a long time, i dont know wats happened now
2006-09-20 14:54:22 · answer #8 · answered by Els M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take control and tell him you want to make love right now!
If that does not work. 1. He is cheating on you, 2. He is gay or bisexual, 3. He is playing you to think you are his girlfriend because if he wont have sex with you he is not into you.
2006-09-20 14:52:32 · answer #9 · answered by Bigboi47 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
find his weakest point things he likes doing, cooking , housework , or anything and try to shear with him from there he will be intrested in u the more. if he needs help kiss him and help don't just look at him. except he is doing it outside, bitter u know.
2006-09-20 14:53:06 · answer #10 · answered by diji 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait, im confused, you say that you have done it a few times,? all i can say is, if you want it honey go for it... maybe he's just not in the mood, or tired or something is wrong, if just trying it doesn't work talk to him. you'll get the best answers from him
2006-09-20 14:52:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋