Ok, i'm in 9th grade and this guy I think i'm in love with is in 12th grade and he's one of my brothers friends.Well one day at school in the morning I passed him a letter saying call me if you like me and my cell number was on it. Well that morning he wrote me back saying I think your cute but i'll be 18 this November and that wouldn't be good,and then he said he'll think about it (about dating me)plus he gave me his cell number and home phone number.So I told him that i'd be 15 in Oct. so we'd only be 3 years apart and he said ok. Well we kept passing letters saying how our day was going and stuff. Well one Friday night he told my brother at the football game that he thinks it's wierd talking to someone thats younger than his sister (shes in 11th),and that he told me that he did something illegal just so that i'd stop liking him.a couple days later I asked him at school if that was true and he said no.We havn't talked.I asked this dude to talk to him about me and he said i was cute.
2006-09-20 14:44:34 · 15 answers · asked by Jessica G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK so you think you are in love with an older guy
He thinks you are cute
Well as others have told you him being 18 and you only 15 means he should not go out with you. If he has sex with you at 15 yrs old he can go to jail for statutory rape. He has asked you to leave him alone and you should respect his wishes. Yes I know you like him but he is doing what is best for you both right now. Maybe when you are older he will ask you out. Then you will be old enough in the eyes of the law to be with some one older than you. And you will be mature enough to know if you really love him or are just infatuated with him.
~Don't rush in to anything life is waiting for you ~
~Good Luck~
2006-09-21 11:53:09 · answer #1 · answered by vtlovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, he likes you and thinks your cute, but as he told you once already- he'll be 18 soon and that could be a sticky situation for him- just for the simple fact that he can be arrested if you two decide to have sex after he is 18. I would just appreciate the fact that he thinks i'm cute and likes me and all- but leave it alone until you are 18 too. the age thing is not a big deal - but that only works if both of you are of legal age. I would move on and find someone else closer to my age so this situation will not come up again until you are 18.
Respect his wishes and be his friend- there is nothing wrong with that- just keep the bigger picture in mind and if you really like him- you'll understand and respect where his answer and choice is coming from.
overall i am sure he would respect and like you more if you tell him that you understand.
2006-09-20 21:52:01 · answer #2 · answered by shalirha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kiddo, let it go. This young man is turning 18, graduating from high school and probably going off to college.
You are cute, young, and nieve and he is not in love with you but is looking for the senior conquest of the freshman virgin. They all want that on their manhood resume.
You are a freshman and you have so many amazing things getting ready to happen.
You want to be single so you can date, go out with your friends, see the Rocky Horror Picture Show behind your mom's back. Drivers Ed, your drivers license, boys boys boys, and prom.
If you hook up with your brothers friend, you will end up with a broken heart and possibly knocked up which means you will never experience any of the things you need to experience.
Your freshman year is about flirting. Your sophomore year you should have two boyfriends. Your junior year you will have that one guy that you will date most of the year. Your senior year you will be with the love of your life, go to prom, graduate, and then...........
you will get a summer job, get ready for college, and then you will be like 18 year old who?
Good luck!
2006-09-20 21:52:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thinks he likes you but because there are laws in place that make you a minor - that is holding you guys back.
It's actually really good that he has stopped to think about these laws - (trust me there are lots of guys out there who simply dont care and that could lead to a whole other bag of problems) it shows that he's smart, he has respect for both you and the law and he's definetly a good catch at the end of the day.
It's obvious he likes you (coz he said you are cute)
i think you should see how things go, just being friends and just some advice dont listen to what anyone thinks or says, just do what makes you happy.
good luck!
2006-09-20 21:58:19 · answer #4 · answered by miss2sexc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
love is a really big thing. i know you think ur in love right now but most likely ur in lust. love is deep and powerful. just bc you think a guy is cute doesn't mean its love.
if he really likes you than it really wouldn't matter how old you are. what would your parents think about you dating an 18 year old? when i was 15 and a sophomore i met my bf who was a senior and 18. we fell in love and were still together. now I'm 21. my point is my mom didn't mind his age. will ur mom or dad care? i think you should straight up ask him if he wants to give you guys a try or not. tell him how you feel and let him make his own decision. i know exactly how you feel bc I've been there... i know your in a tuff situation so good luck with it. i wish you the best.
2006-09-20 21:47:04 · answer #5 · answered by Here2Help 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all your to young to even think about love!! Second he is going to be 18, there is nothing wrong with age difference but if he goes to college he isn't going to want to have a girlfriend he will be too busy thinking about partying. He is still young he is going to want to "shop" around before he makes any kind of descision on a girlfriend. If he doesn't go to college then he will still want to party and if you can't go with him he will still go and you will get upset. That will not be a good relationship for either of you. Chances are you will end up breaking up eventually.
2006-09-20 21:54:42 · answer #6 · answered by lem 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy playing games by not talking to you once in a while, shows that he has some plans up his sleeve. This doesnt take place in a healthy relationship.
Most probably this shows that he want to have a sex with you. He is bending you bit by bit by his strange behaviour so that you come to situation that you will be willing to what he wants. Be carefull. Afterall its your life. Once a mistake is committed it will be balck spot in your life. So be aware.
I only say concentrate on your studies, have good hobbies, spend time with your parents. Once you join a career you can think of better people and make better decisions. Dont take me wrong.
2006-09-20 21:55:40 · answer #7 · answered by donald 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You seriously need to chill on this guy. How can you even concievably think you love someone who you have never even been in a relationship with? Find a guy that actually shows interest in you, not one that is worried about your age, this shows that he is looking for a sexual relationship and nothing more. Don't let yourself fling around the word love too easily. Obviously what you are feeling is just lust, not love.
2006-09-20 21:48:47 · answer #8 · answered by Nails 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is lying to you girl. He think your cute, but he don't like you it's hard to say that. I think your choice is to tell him you love him and write him love note. I'm 12 and I know about love I've been hurt so many time.They call me a hoe, but I'm staying single for a long time so that name can go out of the category with my name in it.
2006-09-20 21:50:17 · answer #9 · answered by Mariah W 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he feels wierd, don't keep pushing yourself on him. You said nothing about wanting him to be happy That's not love it's infatuation or obsession.
2006-09-20 21:54:52 · answer #10 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋