i do not know what to do. i have to move out of where i am living in 1 month(a friends house). i have been trying to get a job for months but it is really hard where i live. no one is hiring. and i dont have any money. and my boyfriend has a job but it is not enough for rent and everything. how am i supposed to get an apartment or anything?!? and the worst thing is, i am pregnant. i am so worried about me and my child. i hope everyhting works out....my parents refuse to help me beacaus i am not their religion and they dont care about me. they wont even help me get an I.D. so i can apply for medicaid for my pregnancy. does anyone have any ideas please!?!!? and i am only 17!
2006-09-20 14:19:35 · 25 answers · asked by green march 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
email me dogmicjoe@yahoo.com and tell me what state you live in and i can help you. please leave your email so i can reach you faster. cuz getting back to yahoo answers is a chore.
2006-09-20 14:49:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a tough spot and only 17. There are many county programs for unwed mothers etc... Go to your local county office and inquire. As for a place to stay I'd recommend Salvation Army. Next, I'd try all I could to get assistance from your parents. I know that will be a stretch, but you'd be surprised how families can pull together in a crisis. Then finally, since you are unwed you may want to consider adoption. This does not mean you do not love your child, on the contrary. To adopt out a child to a married couple who have been unable to have children is loving your child to the fullest. It will give this child a mother and a father who is able to meet the needs of that child. Think about it. You are very young and my heart goes out to you. Our moments of passing pleasure and passion can bring years of misery and grief.
2006-09-20 14:34:23 · answer #2 · answered by swomedicineman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it seems hopeless now, but it is not. Call your local Social Services center and they can help you. They know what to do and how to do it. They can put you in contact with others who can also help.
I hope you and your boyfriend are in this together. The baby will be the biggest drain on your sanity and the greatest joy you will ever have. Don't worry. Do the best you can. With love, everything else will fall into place eventually. Later in life, you will actually look back on the hard times with fond memories. Right now you will have little to hold on to except your own family. Hold on tight. They will give you the strength to get through it.
Good luck.
2006-09-20 14:28:13 · answer #3 · answered by damndirtyape212 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you are looking for encouragement here, but what you really need is a kick in the AS*.
First of all, stop and think about where you are. Was this your plan? Did the people in your life that love you and raised you tell you that you were headed down a bad path?
I guess they were right, huh? Can you admit that?... That you were wrong (even though you were following your heart)? I'm not a big fan of religion, but they were right either way.
You need to grow up, and stop learning things the hard way. You need to get your own ID, and get services yourself. Stop being a big baby. You are going to have a baby, so it's time for you to stop being one.
2006-09-20 14:32:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go to the Department of Motor Vehicles where you can get your i.d. Are you sure you even need one for medicaid? You may just be able to use your social security card. Go to the Department of Human Services and see what they can do for you. They may be able to help you find a place to live. They can certainly get you food stamps and medicaid. Go to your area churches and talk to the pastors. Someone should be able to help you. What about the boyfriends parents? Has he talked to them? You are carrying their grandchild. I'm really sorry your own parents aren't concerned. I hope everything works out for you.
Ignore Poiser, she's probably never had a real major problem in her life. Fortunately she is so unlike everyone else in the world that she's never made a wrong decision and had to deal with it.
2006-09-20 14:26:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Don't give up; hope you get some good advice here; Don't pay any attention to what some Answers that persons might give you, here. You might want to contact any of these sources:
which might be listed in Tel. Directory as: Department of Family and Children Services; Department of Human Resources OR
(YOUR STATE - THEN ONE OF THE ABOVE); OR : Welfare Office; or a Women's shelter OR even a Police Dept. might be able to refer you to helpful sources; or You might contact a Pastor or other Worker in a local Church, who might be able to help you OR give you Sources of Where To Find Help - for You and Your future Child. / hope this helped somehow. Best Wishes and I will be thinking about you and Praying for You. Please Pray for me, also - if you believe in Prayer! I have Health Problems. I have Rheumatoid Arthritis and am Bi-polar (Manic-Depressive) -- the later --many years now.
2006-09-20 14:49:10 · answer #6 · answered by Brown Eyed Susan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All i have to say is things will work out. If you need an id there are places out there that will help. and for that other answer you got i guess i wont say nothing but tell that person to shut up because i was 17 with 3 kids and i managed to get by. ask around your town for help. hun, it wont be easy but believe me when i say this., it will get worse before it gets better. Hope the best for you.And anyway DHS should be able to help you even if you are underage.
2006-09-20 14:30:45 · answer #7 · answered by jm m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a hold of some of the churches in your area and see if any of them have any programs or agencies that might be able to help you. You might even be able to go to your local welfare office and they might know of a place that could help . You could even try your county health department or doctor,they might be able to put you in touch with places that could help you. I hope you find someone who can help you and that you and your baby and that everything works out for you. Hang in there and take care of yourself. Things will get better.
2006-09-20 14:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boo Hoo, so your 17 and pregnant, Alittle advice,
Stop feeling sorry for yourself. There are millions of un-wed teen mothers so your not the first and you won't be the last. Want to know what to do?
Make a decision do you want it or not? If the answer is no? Go to the hospital, apply for charity care, tell them your pregnant and want a T.O.P (termination of pregnancy) If not then go to the hospital and apply for medicaid (there's usually an office there too) go for prenatal care.
I would talk to my parents and tell them you need there
support right now to make the right decision.
If your parents don't want to help you ask them to write a letter stating they want nothing to do with you and your on your own.
Take the letter, birth certificate and Social to City not county and tell them your pregnant and living in the streets, ask can they put you up in a hotel or shelter. Apply for foodstamps too. County is only if you have kids already.
Ask boyfriend what does he plan to do if anything to help?
Ask him did he talk to his parents, maybe they will let you stay or Maybe not.
While your collecting, go back to school if you haven't graduated already, trust me, you just pushed your gears into overdrive your going to need education after you have the baby.
Research subsodized housing in your area (your grant or if your boyfriend works & you live together) they will go based on an income; no matter how much,and daycare, your going to need that too because
once you have the baby I think 3 months after they make you go back to school. Program for Parents can help pay
for it.
No one said it was easy!
I didn't mention adoption because although I'm sure it's good. I look at it like this, If you don't to wind up on some
show with your kid looking for you 18yrs later giving you the
guilt trip for dumping them off...don't do it. If you carry out your pregnancy
KEEP YOUR BABY!!
Good Luck
2006-09-20 15:26:42 · answer #9 · answered by lashawn0676 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Unfortunately abortion is NOT the answer to your problem honey, but adoption might be. Why, you'll feel the guilt of terminating your pregnancy, I've seen my best friend do this and in the end she was devastated. You have a live human being growing within you a real child don't give it up because people on this board tell you. Trust me, you can find help if you want to in your area. Email me for your local info and I can find you people in your area who can donate baby items, and furniture. Please email me. God bless you and your baby.
2006-09-20 15:55:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go to your local social services office...tomorrow!! They can probably help you with rent, money and health insurance. If there is a delay in that, live where the father of the baby is living..
2006-09-20 14:26:52 · answer #11 · answered by zoe 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋