my boyfriend of over a year thinks that i am cheating on him. I am not however.I want to know how i should show him that i am not cheating on him and i want to make sure that he doesn't doubt me in the future. I really love him and i don't want to lose him over this.
2006-09-20 13:55:34 · 16 answers · asked by if_you_only_knew1879 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he is that insecure then maybe u need to lose him I mean if he cant take your word for it ..... should u really prove anything other than love itself ?
2006-09-20 13:59:25 · answer #1 · answered by aaron 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't know your lifestyles. Like how much time you spend together etc matters. If you are with him a lot, then he will know you don't go anywhere or have the opportunity to cheat. And also, for you to cheat you must either go out or have male friends. Which isn't a good idea in a relationship.
Also you could show him this question, you could ask him what he needs/wants to feel sure of you. When you can't be together you can always let him know where you're at, what you're doing, when you will be back etc.
See, people are so quick to tell you to dump him if he can't trust you. They think people should trust you blindly straight away it seems. But the way I see it, the earning-trust part is more important than giving trust. It depends what the other one does, if they can be trusted or not. Many factors play a part.
I like to think of a trust-scale measured in %. It goes up and down based on what the other one does etc.
An honest person won't have anything to hide either anyway.
2006-09-20 14:22:21 · answer #2 · answered by Magnuna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is virtually impossible to prove a negative. If you are head over heels in love with him, you won't want to hear the rest of this. So, read it, file it away in your memory and sometime later, you'll realize how right it is. He's accusing you of cheating for a reason and it has nothing whatever to do with whether you are cheating or not (I believe you.) He's doing that to manipulate you, to keep you upset, and, in some incredibly twisted way, to keep you from cheating. It's a form of abuse. He will most likely to other manipulative things as well. I hope you get tired of his machinations before you become any more deeply involved because life with him will be a form of hell on earth. Remember this.
2006-09-20 14:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not cheating. He is. If a boyfriend says that you are cheating on him and he has no real reason to believe such, in all likelyhood he is cheating himself. It keeps you off balance so you don't notice that he is not available as much, hangs up the phone when you enter the room, doesn't like you looking over his shoulder when he is reading his email or other tell tail signs.
2006-09-20 14:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your boyfriend is paranoid, kick his butt. Don't proof anything thing to him, cause the moment you do it he will think you are cheating, that is why you try to proof your innocence, if he don't stop it will be better for you to lose him, this can get ugly once you married, are you sure he is not the one that is cheating, how is the saying "the guilty always look for the culprit behind the door"
2006-09-20 14:02:14 · answer #5 · answered by Pete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do to "show" him. He has the problem with insecurity not you.
Let me ask you something. Do you want to spend the rest of your life changing your behavior, watching what you say, and generally being fearful he is going to misinterpret something and become angry?
He has issues and he needs to get some help. Jealousy is insecurity not Love.
2006-09-20 14:01:07 · answer #6 · answered by Larry T 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's barely going to be long gone for a month. this could be a somewhat short term. Why could he be demanding approximately you dishonest? have you ever executed it earlier? if so, then he will concern. If no longer, then it in all probability won't take place to him. do no longer convey it up. do exactly no longer cheat.
2016-12-12 11:59:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship is based on trust...if he don't trust you and don't believe you when you tell him that you are not cheating on him then it will never work out betwen you both...unless you are doing something to make im think that you are cheating and not trusting you...maybe you flirt? or talk to all other guys? find out why he don't believe you and if he tells you why then stop doing what ever your doing that leads him to believe your cheating/
2006-09-20 14:00:32 · answer #8 · answered by liltexas36 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have never given him reason to think that u have then he is the one with the problem, some guys r overly jealous, and some accuse cuz they are up to something themselves...
its hard to have a relationship without trust.
2006-09-20 13:59:09 · answer #9 · answered by sunflower4140 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you did, or are cheating on him.
Then you dont deserve him.
If you arn't cheating on him and he is acting that suspicious, Then it would make me wonder if he isnt cheating on you.
Which means you have to decide whether you actually love him, or are just addicted to him, and afraid of being alone.
2006-09-20 14:05:20 · answer #10 · answered by scary g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him every little detail of what you are doing and where you are going at all times....that is if you want to stay with him. There are issues he has if he thinks you are cheating all the time. In my experience if they are accusing, they are doing it!
2006-09-20 14:00:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anna F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋