I'm 19 and just got engaged after 5 years of dating. My parents aren't exactly the most understanding people in the world, and I don't think they really have taken our relationship seriously. They probably will use school as an excuse, but both me and my fiance plan on finishing school anyways. We're hoping to be married within a year and a half or so.
2006-09-20 13:54:11 · 21 answers · asked by musicalromantic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Congratulations!!! :o)
I'm sorry to hear that your parents are not the most understanding people. I would think if you have been with your fiance for 5 years that perhaps they would have realized that you were, in fact, serious. But in any case... you need to be happy and excited for yourselves. Put together a plan and present it to them to show that you are serious. For example, tell them how you plan to finish school. Explain how you plan to afford an apartment together (or house)... explain your employment aspirations and the such. Perhaps they will take your engagement seriously if they have some reassurance that you both have thought things out carefully. Going to school and paying for an apartment and all the expenses can be trying. I'm not saying not to do it! Believe me, I say go for it. But your parents my not feel confident unless you show them that you are thinking everything through.
Just my two cents!
Good luck!
2006-09-20 14:47:52 · answer #1 · answered by PT&L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you are coming from, me and my boyfriend have been together since high school, but he gave me a promise ring last year. we are almost out of school now, so my parents are getting nervous when i mention marriage. The best thing for you to do to make you seem mature and serious, is to have your fiance to go to your parents and ask for permission. They will see that you have respect for them, they may over react but you will just have to show them that you are serious. Trust me, keeping an engagement a secret from the people who may have to pay for a wedding is not a good idea. Congratulations and Good Luck!
2006-09-20 17:06:57 · answer #2 · answered by MISS 84 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should invite his parents and your parents along with any brothers and sisters all out to dinner at a nice restaurant . Then as per tradition.... your Fiance should stand up with his glass in hand and say .." I would like to make an announcement.... I have asked _____ to marry me ... and to my great surprise she has accepted. We will be setting the date later but it should be between 12 and 18 months from now. So let's toast ____ and I . Here, Here!!!" You and your Fiance should be smiling ear to ear.
There can't be any 'Drama' you are in a public place!!!!
2006-09-20 14:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by kar_summers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're finishing school, yet you're getting married in less than two years?
Tell your parents, but explain to them that you are going to wait at least two years to become wed.
You're 19. You're going to wake up in a few years and realize that you weren't even ready for a marriage. You're still growing and changing. Don't believe me? Are you the same person now as you were when you were 15? NO. Same here.
Tell your parents. You're going to have to get used to communicating well anyway--it's vital in a marriage.
2006-09-20 14:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depending on the size/type of wedding you're having, it takes about 1 - 1 1/2 years to plan. You may want to tell them soon so you and your parents can start doing the planning.
Congratulations and good luck :)
2006-09-20 14:04:07 · answer #5 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 18 and me and my fiance got engaged a couple of months ago.we thought it would be hard 2 tell my parents coz im the youngest daughtor but they took it ok.and me and my man were only together just over a year when we got engaged but we have been living together since our 3 month anniversary so i guess my folks knew it was serious.if they do get a bit upset just explain to them that he makes you happy and they should be putting your happiness before everything else.good luck sweety!
2006-09-20 15:54:43 · answer #6 · answered by kezry_au 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to stop acting like children if you want anyone to take you seriously. You are hiding your engagement like you are hiding a cookie stolen from the cookie jar.
Have a meeting with your parents, then BOTH of you announce your engagement. Tell them your plans for the future. If they get mad, they get mad. Its your life. Be prepared though for them to not feel like they need to pay for anything. Stupid of them, but you can't fix stupid. Good luck!
2006-09-20 16:13:54 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that he is the one for you go ahead.Personally I think you are way to young.......I would say your engaged but make it a long engagement until you are where you want to be in your careers......marriage is great when it works.a absolute nightmare when it goes bad. Listen to your parents and ask them to listen to you. If you hide your engagement it looks like you did something wrong...your fiance should have asked your parents first.
2006-09-20 14:00:25 · answer #8 · answered by answering 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No easy answer for that one! Just tell them! Be sure to include the finishing school and year adn a half thing! Good luck!
2006-09-20 14:19:06 · answer #9 · answered by tammie b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you finish school first and then tell your parent. Who knows, by that time, they'd be so proud of you and happy for you being engaged.
2006-09-20 17:20:32 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋