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Even though my exboyfriend ended our relationship he would still say hi to me on msn. That has stopped now, but a few days ago he said hi to me after not talking to me for more than 4 months. I was helping my sis pack for Western university and I logged on msn and put "packing for Western" as my msn quote and he said hi to me right away. I was surprised cuz we haven't talked in like forever. Neways after the casual stuff he asked me if I was changing schools and going to Western but I said no and told him it was my sis. After that he didn't say anything so I asked him why he contacted me and he said that it was "cuz he hadn't seen me in awhile". I can't believe him, he dumped me like months ago and now when he thinks I'm going to another university he says hi. What's up with that? How can he have the nerve to still ask me what is going on in my life, and why does he even care?

2006-09-20 13:53:22 · 16 answers · asked by sweet kisses 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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I believe even though you and your boyfriend broke up 4 months ago, he still has feelings for you in some way. Sometimes after a break up, especially if its for no real 'reason', some ppl tend to still have interest in their ex's lives- he probably somewhat regrets breaking up with you also he could be miserable if he broke up with you for another person. Sometimes we like to know what's going on in our ex's lives bc we are miserable and it makes it worse when our ex's are 'moving on' without us. Also sometimes they 'want their cake and want to eat it too', meaning, they don't want a relationship with you but they don't know how to be 'friends' yet they still want to 'be in the know' with you and your life. I'd say, keep him at a distance, keep doing good with what you are doing and let sleeping dogs lie. Be nice, cordial and decent, but be careful and keep it short and simple IF you still wish to talk to him. Let him think about his decision and keep moving forward with your life. May God bless your sister in her venture off to college, and God bless you too for being a strong young woman...

2006-09-20 14:03:17 · answer #1 · answered by Nefrititi 1 · 0 0

Because even though he didn't believe things could work out romantically doesn't necessary mean he doesn't want to still be friends. Maybe he DOES care, and he just feels awkward, thus the time gap between talking to you. Just because two people break up doesn't mean they have to never talk or be interested in what happens to each other.

2006-09-20 20:58:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Well some guys don't give a damn about anything.....But why is he still on your MSN contacts?? If you're so pissed with him, why is he still there? I think you should move on, and don't let things like these get you all worked up, block him or erase him and find someone else! Good Luck

2006-09-20 21:17:04 · answer #3 · answered by hey_amt95 2 · 0 0

Uh, guys are dogs. I know I am one. I've been married three times and I always keep the "door open" for a little post-marital sex. Unless your ex was a real "kitty-cat" he's just keeping the door open.

Ex-sex is hot.

Not meaning to be offensive, but life is what it is.

Or maybe he really, really loves you and feels your every move.

Only you will know.

2006-09-20 21:09:36 · answer #4 · answered by Lance 2 · 0 0

Maybe, he just wants to be your friend, and he would have missed you if it were you leaving. My ex-boyfriend of four years just stopped at my house to talk to me about life, and thats pretty cool, i think it's awesome people can still be cool after a break up. take it for what its for.

2006-09-20 21:00:29 · answer #5 · answered by aswingerof2 2 · 0 0

It sounds like a similar situation I've been through before. He cares about you, but wants to be free but the minutes he thinks he's going to lose you, he can't contain himself but to butt in your business.

2006-09-20 20:58:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Don't talk to him anymore. If you see any "hi's" from him, reject them. After all, he was the one that dumped you; so now, if he thinks he's gonna have another chance, don't give him that satisfaction, and give him a taste of his own medicine of rejection.

2006-09-20 21:05:53 · answer #7 · answered by forest_without_sounds 5 · 0 0

maybe he was just wondering.. but when u give guys the cold shoulder they hate it cause they love when they have us wrapped around their finger so if he talks to you again just act like he doesnt really exist and give him short simple answers. itll bug the heck out of him

2006-09-20 21:00:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

maybe he still has feeling for u but he cant have a relationship right now

2006-09-20 21:00:43 · answer #9 · answered by Christina 1 · 0 0

is it wrong for him to care about u ? Maybe the relationship didn't work but i see nothing wrong with caring ,

2006-09-20 20:56:39 · answer #10 · answered by aaron 5 · 0 0

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