Ok, I have a 'thing' for a guy...let's call him Ck. Ck and I spend a decent amount of time together. We go to school together, have classes together, in the same club (both officers for this club), and we hang out together at school. Its gotten to the point where everyone at school expects to see me beside him or vise versa. Its never Ck or Cami; its always Cami and Ck or the other way around. He has always been just a bestfriend type of thing to me, but recently, a girl (we'll call her JC) came along and Ck (and his family) is really close to her. I also know her. She told me that she likes Ck and suddenly, a jealous feeling developed in me. I became angry, but I don't know why. She is pretty, smart, and nice. And I'm...well, not pretty or perfect like she is. Am I angry because I feel threatened? Or because I'm jealous of what she has? And if Ck is trully just a friend to me, why do I care so much about him and JC? I'm an emotional wreck. Please help. What should I do?
2006-09-20 13:47:20 · 11 answers · asked by .Cami.B. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The thing is, I think that Ck and JC are perfect for each other. Both of their parents like either one of them. And well...they have plenty of things incommon. For one, they're from the same 'world' (if you know what I mean). My mind tells me to be happy for JC, but my heart stings everytime I smile as if nothing was wrong. I'm not sure if Ck likes her in return, but even so, I still want Ck to be with her. I guess, to me, he'll be happier with her. I know its somewhat cruel to decide this without considering Ck's feeling first, but if you can see what i see everyday...their smiling faces when they're with each other...their joyous laughter...the way their spirits seem to intertwine with one another's... you'll understand why I'm an emotional wreck. I think the tears I've kept inside for so long is beginning to drown my heart. What should I do?
2006-09-20 13:54:55 · update #1
I think you should think about your feelings you had before she came along! Maybe you just feel your bestfriend is going away to a girlfriend My BFF felt like that and she hated him, we were always together until he came along. OR it could mean that you have feelings for him, but seriously think about your feelings before JC came along.. GOODLUCK!!! I hope you don't nag to him! dont do that...kay!
2006-09-20 13:52:09 · answer #1 · answered by Prncss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have feelings for this young man, I think it is healthy to be a little jealous of the other girl but not to an obsessive point. If you like this boy you should explain it to him just as you have online and discuss it with him. As far as you being 'pretty' beauty is in the eye of the beholder and if you don't like YOU then why would ck or any other boy? You must like YOU before you can like anyone else. I don't believe jc is perfect either, Im sure she has flaws and quirks just like all of us. So find something POSITIVE about you that is 'no match' for jc and concentrate on building YOU up and keep busy like you are with school, clubs, and other friends after your talk with ck and just see how things pan out. Don't take it personally if you do not get the response you want. I would suggest to keep an open mind and open heart about his reaction to your feelings for him so that you will not be too let down if he isn't receptive or too excited if he is. Remember only YOU can control YOUR emotions.
2006-09-20 13:56:11 · answer #2 · answered by Nefrititi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you feel threatened by JC because you feel inferior than her, you shouldn't feel that way, everyone is unique in their own way, and I'm sure she isn't as perfect as you might think, so don't underestimate yourself! And you are very close to CK, so you probably think that if he starts to notice JC he will ignore you and forget about you completely, if he's really your friend he won't stop talking to you only because he has a girlfriend or another friend....But if you think you might have feelings for him, then try to talk to him.....but maybe you feel the way you do because you're very close to him, that also happens between brothers and sisters and it doesn't necessarily mean they have something for their sibling, am I making sense? So just ask yourself that question: "Do I like CK as something else other than just my friend?" and depending on your answer, take it from there, and remember don't feel inferior than others, I'm sure that you have other qualities that make other girls envy you even that girl JC!! Good Luck
2006-09-20 13:59:18 · answer #3 · answered by hey_amt95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, Take it Easy... This is Life... It's just Tricky sometimes...
You're very good friends with him, obviously... And the Truth is, Friendship is the Foundation of a Good Romantic Relationship...
I'm not saying that the two of you should get involved further, I'm just saying that you may feel that this Girl Threatens to take away what you Do Have with him... A Good Friendship... As far as Jealously goes, that could be for all sorts of reasons... You need to ask yourself, is it just because she's attractive... That's not her fault... She was born that way... And more than that, Pretty much everyone has a Chance at Love, not just the Pretty one's...
If you're not interested in him romantically, than don't worry about it... Things Change... Relationships (Friendships) Change sometimes too... Do you want to Date Him? If the answer is No, than don't worry about it... If the answer is Maybe, well then you better let him know... Because he might be going off the Market soon...
2006-09-20 13:56:50 · answer #4 · answered by Corandero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm first off to whoever said up urs up there ^^^ you really dont have to care.. but then dont answer either.. your on here to listen to peoples questions as well as ask some.. you obviously cared enough to read her problem
anyways... ive actually had this happen before and i know exactly what you mean it sucks.. you could have feelings for him i dont know but .. if you did you probly would have noticed them without JC being around..you might just feel threatened that if they like eachother and date then you wont see him anymore and that he might have a different girl than you to hang out with.. everyone sees you as cami and CK and you dont want people to start seeing JC and CK .. hes your best guy friend and you dont want him to find another girl that he likes more than you. this could be wrong but thing about your feelings too.. you might like him.
hope i helped.. good luck
2006-09-20 13:58:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, may be you really don't want him but you also don't want anyone else to have him. I know that sounded really snobby and bitchy to say, but its really not. I've experienced this many times. Take some time to analyze your feelings for him and remember, you can't force yourself to like someone in a more-than-friend way. May be your afraid she'll come between you two and take time away from you two being together. Its tough sometimes but I guarantee if you don't really like this guy for more of a friend now, you won't down the road. But, if you do like him, be sure about your feelings. Then, take charge!
2006-09-20 13:56:17 · answer #6 · answered by Miranda M. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your best friends with this CK you could ask him if he likes Jc.You could tell him that you like him and wish to be more then friends ect. If he doesn't like JC and he like you try to make a move.
2006-09-20 13:57:47 · answer #7 · answered by Lawlwat? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should have a talk with your best friend and tell him you miss being with him and tell him why and then just try to be there if he ever need you and if your feeling goes deeper then friendship tell him before he get to involved with jc good luck
2006-09-20 14:01:16 · answer #8 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well apperently u have feelings for him freindly or more than that i say ask him about it i mean hes not going to give u a straight up answer like yes i like her or i like you but just keep talking to him and be there for him besides if the two do go out her and ck then they can break up u can be there for him and i gareentee he'll be yours
2006-09-20 13:54:19 · answer #9 · answered by stxplayer46 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have feelings for the guy, tell him. If you don't have feelings or concider yourself more than friends, then you don't have any room to say anything at all. It sounds like to me you have feelings and don't know how to express it to him. Why don't you, before the two of them get serious, ask him how he feels about you. If he says just friends, then you will know where you stand. If he says he wishes you were more than friends, then you will know where to go with the relationship. It's just my apinion, but I think you have feelings for the guy, but who am I to say.
2006-09-20 13:59:38 · answer #10 · answered by wanger55 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋