I met this guy who has a great personality and is really
sweet. The problem is that I am not attracted to him and
he gets jealous easily and he is really clingy. He would
call me everyday. I told him that I didn't think we could
ever be together and he stopped calling. Now I miss
him. Should I call him as a friend? Am I in love?
2006-09-20 13:19:53 · 40 answers · asked by *GoldenGirl* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been there, and the result was not that I was in love, it's just I was use to the attention. It's flattering to have any guy call us and act jealous but please don't let missing attention make you think you miss him. Someone cuter and greater will fill that void. Be patient, the best things happen to us that wait.
2006-09-20 13:24:35 · answer #1 · answered by lynn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Should tell him how you feel. If you're too shy, what i did last time is that i call my secret admire. Sometime i wrote letter and e-mail. But i can say, talk to him in person sure has the edge and more advantage.
Love is a lasting forever thing. So take your time. and no rush. Boys look at 2 things, prettiness and good personality. You know what pretty is. Good personality is the way u act and speak and how u behave yourself, also how u conduct yourself. They often look for good qualities. This is quite a tough area to improve. In other words, if they like u, means they really like u. If not, then, don't be sad and give up like others do, maybe there's still a chance u can improve.
All the best to u.
2006-09-20 13:36:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK... my husband is in the other room listening to music and NOT spending time with me, so GIRL just love the clingy behavior while you can. As far as just friends... that works too. I am sure you know that looks aren't everything. It is the attitude of the person that counts. If you love the person and not the looks then you need to just follow your heart. YOU KNOW WHAT... no matter the circumstance, always follow your heart. There is nothing better than proving yourself right when following your own instincts, and if you are wrong and learn from your mistakes... well, you'll know what to look for the next time, Just remember that life goes on no matter what.
(I couldn't really answer you question w/o knowing your age and all that.)
Start out as friends if possible. Get to know each other and you will know eventually. I wish you the best of luck : ) !
2006-09-20 13:32:59 · answer #3 · answered by Kristin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly no.
Clinging and jealous are red flags, you should try to stay away from him. Whatever other nice personality he has this destroys everything.
You miss him because you felt comfortable with him but it's not love. Well - I say that although not knowing you so I can be wrong. But it does not sound like love.
If you call him as a friend he would get the hope that you want to be with him, men are like that. He may not be interested in "just friendship".
Anyways - I strongly recommend that you do not hook up with him again.
2006-09-20 13:24:32 · answer #4 · answered by spaceskating_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes saying the right thing at the right time is impossible to do. you probably wanted him to quit bugging you all the time, so instead of saying "look friend, i care about you, as a friend, i like you and i really enjoy talking to you, but i can't talk to you ALL the time", "something has to give, we need some boundaries, lets agree to no more than one call a day", "if you can't respect that, than I'm sorry but i won't be able to talk to anymore". you told him "we can never be together because i just don't feel like you do". now you don't get to talk to this nice who you really enjoyed being friends with.
take a chance and call him, explain yourself this time, having had time to think about how you feel, what you want, tell him you miss TALKING to him, he's a nice guy, great personality, you never meant to hurt him, but you love him ONLY as a friend, if he can't handle that, than you'll understand, but you really do miss his friendship and the talks you had. if he agrees, SET THE BOUNDARIES!
2006-09-20 13:29:46 · answer #5 · answered by gelfin1028 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all... Ask yourself, do you miss him, or do you just miss having someone interested in you...
But if you're not attracted to him, that can cause a problem... And if he's clingy, that can also cause a problem...
If you want to be friends, you might let him know... But he might be feeling rejected right now, and may not be able to be...
2006-09-20 13:24:51 · answer #6 · answered by Corandero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you say "I want to be with you because you're an awesome person, but I have to live my own life, too. Maybe if we're not so clingy to each other things will work out better this time". Or something along those lines. Let him know you want to be with him, but you want a little personal space of your own.
2006-09-20 13:22:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think you are in love but I do think that you may be sending mixed signals. If you are not attracted to him and don't want him clinging around you then you shouldn't be worried about whether he calls you or not. Unless you have realized that you do have feelings for him. In that case you should give him a call.
2006-09-20 13:25:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I don't think you are in love. I think he might be a good friend but I don't think he would feel the same way. Sure you miss him! You miss his personality and sweetness.......but sweetie you had the courage to say what you felt. Your heart isn't in it. You know this.
2006-09-20 13:34:05 · answer #9 · answered by Girl Goes Back To The Future 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well no your not because you don't find him attractive and maybe the two fo you should be on a friend level. Noone like to be lead on, think about how you would feel?peace, Cool Joe
2006-09-20 13:28:45 · answer #10 · answered by Cool Joe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋