2006-09-20 13:14:30 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Wow sixteen and pregnant..Your bf should be the least of your concerns. You should be thinking about how to keep yourself from going on wellfare..Gees
2006-09-20 13:17:17 · answer #1 · answered by Candy S 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I had my first child when i was sixteen. It was very hard for me becuse i was imature and had no since of direction. To tell the truth you need to tell your boyfriend and see what he thinks, he might man up, if he don't then you figure out whats best for you (abortion) only if your not spritual. If you beleave in God getting an abortion is not the answer that baby didn't ask to be here. We all make mistakes and just becuse your young do not mean you can't make it. Do not drop out of school, it will be hard but you'll make it ,i did. If the dad don't want to help take out child support and leave it at that. Don't move away though that won't help you or the bab, you need as much help as you can get from your family cause that is who you should be worried about is your parents not some nuckel head little boy. But the best solution would be adoption there are alot of women that can't have children. And honestly if my mother wouldn't have suggested that i keep the baby and she would help i would have consider adoption, becuse i knew i had a long road ahead of me. But i made it and i have a college education and getting along just fine. So what ever you choose just think about your future first, and don't be all worried about that boy he is still imature, so tell him and see what he will say but take what ever he say and run with it becuse boys will be boys. You know what i meant by that.
2006-09-20 13:38:33 · answer #2 · answered by mylipshot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've read some of the answers so far, and I don't approve of the abortion remedy. It will come back to haunt you someday. I do agree with your telling him the truth, then sit down with both of your parents and discuss the situation. Should you decide to keep the child, the boy has as much responsibility as you in raising it. You can still attend school, though it would be a great responsibility, not to mention a burden on your parents. Marrying the boy would be as foolish as getting pregnant, since you're too young and he would resent being forced into it, so it wouldn't last anyway. No one has the right to make your final decision, but I would suggest having the child, putting it up for adoption to a good family, and move on with your life. Just use better judgement about your future from now on.
2006-09-20 13:30:50 · answer #3 · answered by dreamchsr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I wasn't going to answer this at first, but I will seeing as that so many people told you to have an abortion. Don't do that -- your baby is a human being -- it's your son or daughter, and if you do have an abortion you'll regret it for the rest of your life. Remember that every life is precious and there never has been and there never again will be another person like your baby.
But there are options other than abortion, and if you don't feel ready to raise this child there are many, many people who will give them a good home if you put them up for adoption.
But yes, tell your boyfriend, tell your parents, tell your priest or pastor if you go to church. Your boyfriend has a right to know because it's his child too. Your parents and priest or pastor can help you. If you want to talk to someone confidentially call the Crisis Pregnancy Centers, they will help -- their number is 800 395 HELP. Sometimes I like to goof around here, but this time, I'm very serious.
2006-09-20 13:27:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL YOUR BOYFRIEND.
He has the right to know. You both got down and spread your legs and now you should reap the consequences. ITs his right too.
Some people are against this, however, do you think you are too young to have a child? I have had a couple Ex Gf's Who hjave had an abortion, its always a option and will allow you to make a future for yourself, so you can have a future for your child later on down the road
You should talk to your parents and your boyfriend.
Life just got alot more grown up for you, and now you have to step into the picture and be an adult way ahead of your time.
Your state of mind right now is you can care for this child, but think about it for a moment, if this was true, you would NEVER have thought about moving away from this babies father. That is a very childish and immature thing to do, no offense.
I am 23 and I feel I am too young for a child. I wish you luck in your endeavors and sorry to hear this has happened to you.
2006-09-20 13:16:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, calm down. This is a big stress on you, and it shouldn't be.
1) Talk to your parents first. Before you tell your boyfriend, talk to your parents. You'll be surprised at their reaction.
2) Tell your boyfriend--running away won't solve anything. Trust me, he deserves to know.
3) Consider adoption. As a person who was adopted, it's the best thing you can give the baby--a future. I'm 22 and my son is about to turn 1. I didn't tell ANYONE for 7 months, and although there were two of us, it was so difficult to deal with alone. My fiance was there 100%, but raising a kid is so hard. Even now that he's older it's tough! I made it through college and graduated a few months ago c.u.m. laude. However, don't take this as a challenge for you. You deserve a life too. We all make stupid mistakes, but give this kid a chance too.
2006-09-20 13:24:19 · answer #6 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I definitely agree with speaking, you need to tell him and let the chips fall where they may, although i tend to think that your not gonna get a lot of support from a boy that age..most GROWN men cant handle that kinda news.. however ..you do need some support , every pregnant woman does..I really have to say that I DONT agree with abortion under any circumstances it is murder!!! and that's your baby..I know that for some woman it seems the easy way out..but ultimately it is not,,you will go through the rest of your life knowing you killed a part of yourself..life isn't always easy..you can be strong and do this,, and as far as the person who said about going clubbing and stuff..you know there are such things as babysitters !!! I can understand that your scared ,,but please be strong for you and your baby..and don't be surprised if your boyfriend dosent want anything to do with you or the baby.its his lose and he will regret it also when he realizes he has a child, a part of him he doesn't know,,and although hard you will be the better person..take care..i will pray for you
2006-09-20 13:42:11 · answer #7 · answered by joilong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I reviewed the others' respond. I believe that you should trust in yourself. You have to decide how strong you are. Now, so far you have all the sources that you can use. positive and negative. you are your own boss. It's all depend on what kind of support you have right now. According to me, a child is great gift to human from the god. we should never ignore it. It looks like you and your bf knew this will happen. Just work out with your bf. It could be a part of your feelings that been hurt by your family and you have to go outside to look for sympathy. So, knowingly or unknowingly here's a result. I suggest you Be courageous. there's is a will there's a way. first discuss with your family , then bf. Ask yourself how much you courageous. According to your situation, you are courageous. You can do it. talk to your bf. give baby a birth and you have so many ways to choose.
thanks
God Bless You.
2006-09-20 14:07:35 · answer #8 · answered by rupanzel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not the brightest bulb on the tree are you? Pregnant at 16 yrs. old.!!!
Yes he has the legal right to know and to support the baby. As a matter of fact, if he's older, he has committed statutory rape and could go to jail depending on the laws in the state where you live.
Why are earth are you having sex at 16?
Are you prepared to raise a child until it turns 18yrs? For crying out loud, it's 2006! You can buy condoms off the shelf in the drug store. There is no excuse for the situation you have found yourself. I don't feel sorry for you, both of you should have known better.
2006-09-20 13:21:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first..you should tell him.
Now that that's said-let me add my two cents :-)
At this stage it's important to take things day by day as this is a very overwhelming time for you I'm sure. The thing that shocks me the most is that everyone is giving options of either keeping the baby or aborting it--like those are your only two options. You could also put the baby up for adoption! If the decision is to not keep the baby, why not let someone else adopt him/her and give them a good home.
2006-09-20 13:25:47 · answer #10 · answered by eyescapes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok. you will get a lot of closed minded bashing assholes. i.e. the first 2 answerers. my advice would be tell your boyfriend. if he isnt a jerk, he will help you with the baby. tell your parents. they should help you to. go out and work and save up money while you can. there are welfare programs that can help you. just be strong and keep your head up. if you are considering an abortion, then look into it. you will have a chance to finish school and get on your feet. good luck! just dont run away until you know what you are running away from!! You are the one having the baby. do what will be right for you and your baby! dont think about anyone else unless they are there to help you :)
2006-09-20 13:19:33 · answer #11 · answered by sx_rx_rocknroll 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋