i am with my boyfriend for three years and have a daughter together but his ex`s are one of my biggest problem,frist they do not live here in the usa but they are still in my life,one of them call him everyday sometime three or more times for the day she use his last name in her yahoo id she write letters and use his last name,he also send her money and did not tell me about it i found the papers and confront him about it,he claim when he need help when they were together she help him out but he send money more than one time,she send card and pic and love letter and he tell me not to worry about her,the other one also send love letter and pic and say he his the love of her life ,the other call send email,all these woman are getting on my nerve,i love him and he love me but he is trying to be nice to is ex `s and thats my biggest problem what should i do
2006-09-20 13:11:06 · 21 answers · asked by carmelrose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK, well its cool that they get along so well! If i were you i would not mind them talkin on the phone whatever...but the love letters are alittle to much! You cant blame him for it cause he can not control her.....If i were you i would talk to her and say that its cool for them to be friends, but as far as sending your man love letters....that has to stop...just handle it in a mature adult way!
2006-09-20 13:16:32 · answer #1 · answered by Itisme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is rarely such a thing as staying friends with your ex's!
He must not be done with them...they let him play the field and he likes it. No one deserves to be put in that situation and I can't believe you are going for this. How would he feel if it was the other way. Obviously he has not discouraged any of them because he likes it and his main squeeze is willing to be placated by his pathetic reassurances that he is this great guy who really loves her! Wake up honey he is playing you, he is so full of crap I can smell him from North of the border!
So if you ask him to finally blow them off he will most likely get mad, if so that will tell you every thing...if he won't be done with them he is still interested in them period. What a schmuck does he think you are really that desperate that he can just say all the right things but not back any of it up with action? I guess only you can answer tha one eh?
2006-09-20 20:22:07 · answer #2 · answered by Shannon Day 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yowee ! What a mess !
If you didn't have the daughter together, I'd suggest you give him the royal boot, but since you do, that complicates things.
He needs to stop "having his cake and eating it too" which means that he's living the way he wants, with women yearning over him and one to keep him warm at night. He sounds selfish, in that he refuses to PERMANETLY cut off his ties to the other women, AND he refuses to make you his legal wife, and your daughter out of the "bastard" status.
If he really loved you and was committed to you and your daughter, he would step up to the plate, be a MAN, cut off ALL prior ties, marry you, give your daughter his name, and move on in life with just the three of you as a FAMILY.
Go see a marriage counselor. Get the man to Church so he can learn about a Man's role in a relationship and how to treat you properly and with respect.
2006-09-20 20:13:09 · answer #3 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not trying to be funny but what is wrong with you if my boyfriend has 3 bitches calling him, sending mail, and he's giving money. I would be mad too but you need to let him know how you feel and if he tell you that it means nothing then let him go. He must can't let them go and 9 times out of 10 these exes are around for a reson and you need to figure it out, But also do what's right for your daughter.
And Good Luck
2006-09-20 20:18:37 · answer #4 · answered by Scooby_doo06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate with him your worries about her.
All in all, there's not a durn thing you can do about her. You can ignore her, and you can look at it as a jealous girlfriend who wants him back.
Talk with your boyfriend and explain how you feel. Come up with a solution, and ask him to tell YOU before he sends her money since you two are co-partners. Don't discount her because she's his ex, but listen to him.
Do you trust him? If you do, then you have nothing worry about.
2006-09-20 20:13:54 · answer #5 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming that you knew about these women after you started a family with him. So if he does not have any children with these women he needs to change his phone number and stop trying to "be nice" to them. You need to flat out tell your boyfriend that he cannot send them money and try to intersect their mail and send it back unopened to them. This may not sound nice, but you have a child with this man, and if you love him you need to do what you need to do in order to keep your family together.
2006-09-20 20:16:55 · answer #6 · answered by SAChicky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly loves you he wouldn't be doing all that. Sounds like he's playing you. If I were you I would give him one chance to get them out of his life and move on.... otherwise, kick him to the curb. Good luck.
2006-09-20 20:14:18 · answer #7 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump this loser before you end up like the previous girlfriends/wives... with kids you can't afford to take care of. Get a clue.
2006-09-20 20:14:10 · answer #8 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay. yea, it is soooooooooooo time to let go. that is too much drama for one relationship, forreal. he is sending money and cards and gifts and goats over there. lol. time to hang it up boo, he is not true to you, his feelings are obviously with "them". wow, you don't have one that's hanging around, you have two. leave him (them) alone.
2006-09-20 20:25:01 · answer #9 · answered by *HOT*GHETTO*MESS* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's such bs! If he really loves you he will stop receiving love letters from ex's
2006-09-20 20:13:52 · answer #10 · answered by lorylyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋