There's this guy that I like and I've had a crush on him for 2 years. We've known eachother since birth but we don't really talk except for the occasional "hey" I really like him and I can't stand not telling him but i'm afraid that if i do he will reject me or make fun of me. I'm not really sure if he likes me or not. He's really a shy person and i don't know if he could ever get up enough nerve to ask me out. Should I just get up my courage and ask him or should i just hang back and see if i explode from all of these emotions first?And if so what would be the best way to approach him about this so without embarassing both of us?
God bless
~~Krystal~~
2006-09-20
12:57:25
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♪Krys♫
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Family & Relationships
➔ Singles & Dating
I'm really not the most popular girl in school, nor the prettiest, but i think i have a great personality...I guess i'm just really afraid of rejection....
2006-09-20
13:12:14 ·
update #1
Should I go with the friend digging for info, the letter, or just ask him in person?
2006-09-20
14:02:22 ·
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Always remember, the best way to remove a bandaid is to yank it right off. In simpler terms there is no way to avoid those first feelings that you mistake for embaressment. just go up and tell him how you feel. you will see there was no reason to be insecure in the first place. you will never know unless you try and if you dont it will bother for a longtime.
2006-09-20 13:05:19
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answered by oderus138 2
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Hi. Gee, your situation sounds like the plot for a really sweet movie. Sigh. What to do? Well, you have to do something. That's obvious. But if you have known each other for so long, don't you have someone you know in common who could give you at least some idea about what he thinks of you before you go public, so to speak? If not, then I would ask him out by telling him that you would like to ask his advice and would be happy if he would go with you for a long cup of coffee. That is a very low key "date". And saying up front you want to ask his opinion is faltering. Tell him its because he has known you for so long. Now, what to ask? It needs to be something that gets you close to talking about feelings. My first thought: tell him you are wondering about your future (which is true!) and that you just are not sure where life is taking you. I bet his response will reveal a lot about him, and, invite him into a closer relationship with you without being scary for either of you.
2006-09-20 20:06:15
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answered by Isis 7
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If all you do is say "hey" - then it doesn't look like you'd be risking a deep friendship by wanting to take it to the "next level." Don't explode, whatever you do... the worse thing he can do is burst into tears and run away. Just quietly approach him, in private, and ask if he'd like to go the movies or something... if he is painfully shy, the movies will allow the two of you to "go out" without really having to have a HUGE conversation. Really, it seems the worse he can do is say no and then you can go back to saying "hey" to each other.
2006-09-20 20:01:16
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answered by Anonymous
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Hey!
Well if you feel more comfortable writing him a letter, then do so....and tell one of your friends to give it to him.....But you could also approach him and try to ask him if he would like to hang out once in a while, to see a movie or something....Depending on his answer take it from there....Everyone is afraid of rejection, but is something that we have to go through in life.....We have to take risks, that's what life is all about.....And if you get rejected don't feel bad, you wouldn't be the first or last girl in the world to go through something like that.....So approach him the way you feel more comfortable with, like I said a letter could work, or just ask him to hang out!! Good Luck
2006-09-20 21:28:39
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answered by hey_amt95 2
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hey you guess what when i'm being shy or wanna tell some 1 how i feel all i do is write a letter and give it to him in the night time so he can sleep on it and dream about you so it makes it more exciting. if u want i'll help with it, here is how to start it. Dear guy( ur guy's name) i the reason i'm writting this letter is b/c i wanna let you know how i feel. i know we've been b/f for a long time and i hope this letter don't change our relitionship. i just want to be honest and hopefully u'll do the same. its up to u to do the rest. GOOD LUCK
"Eia"
2006-09-20 20:04:55
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answered by EiaMaria 3
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You might consider Writing him a Letter...
Don't spend much of your life worrying about Rejection... Rejection can hurt, but it can also help you get over someone so that you can move on...
If you just don't do anything, it will drive you crazy...
So make some sort of communication with him...
And ask him to let you know what he thinks, and or how he feels... Tell him he can Write you Back too...
2006-09-20 20:19:40
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answered by Corandero 2
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maybe you should consider getting someone to ask him does he likes you or hint on it! most long torm people who have known each other that long usually go into an relationship but is that persons best friend.. and tell em' every thing secrets and all and just want to stay close friends.. but it probaly will work out take the chance!!
~~~hope i helpp~~~luv~~ya!!
2006-09-20 20:03:35
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answered by Keke Shawty♥ 2
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I would get to know him and eventually ask him to hang out.
2006-09-20 20:00:51
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answered by nickname 1
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Tell him you are having feeling for him?
and go from there and see how he reacts.
2006-09-20 20:01:52
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answered by Homeboy 3
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Get your courage up.
2006-09-20 20:19:34
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answered by Niceguy 6
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