So my ex just broke up with her bf a couple of weeks ago and I wanted to start hanging out/be friends again. Our break up was on good terms and we remained friends (just not hanging out type). Im not going to lie, I miss her. I want to start hanging out again and take things farther. How can I go about doing this? Would just calling out of nowhere (like tonight) and seeing what shes up to/if she wants to go play minigolf (or whatever) seem like "oh he so wants me back" to her? This first "hangout session" just feels like the big "first impression" all over again to me.
I know she's my ex and yes part of me thinks Im crazy for trying, but the other half of me thinks I'd be crazy not to try.
And honestly (unless Im doing it wrong) just "asking" her to start dating again and telling her how I feel doesn't work.
2006-09-20 12:52:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hmm, if you dont wanna have the 'he wants me back vibe',
call her if you want, but invite her to come out with a group of friends you both share.
if this goes well, and you both enjoy each others company, then you can try and ask her to come out 1 on 1 next time, for like lunch or coffee.
if you hit it off, good luck!
- hope that helps
2006-09-20 13:35:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Should tell her how you feel. If you're too shy, what i did last time is that i call my secret admire. Sometime i wrote letter and e-mail. But i can say, talk to her in person sure has the edge and more advantage.
Love is a lasting forever thing. So take your time. and no rush. Girls look at 2 things, handsome and good personality. You know what handsome is. Good personality is the way u act and speak and how u behave yourself, also how u conduct yourself. They often look for good qualities. This is quite a tough area to improve. In other words, if they like u, means they really like u. If not, then, don't be sad and give up like others do, maybe there's still a chance u can improve.
All the best to u.
2006-09-20 13:46:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her, and tell her you heard about her break up with the bf. Tell her that you know how tough breaking up can be, and you want her to know that if she needs someone to talk to you will always be there for her as a friend. During that conversation, you will be able to judge from the way she talks to you if she is interested in picking up with you again, either on a friends or more than friends level.
2006-09-20 12:58:01 · answer #3 · answered by theissuequeen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It's not wring to call her and see if she wants to hang out. If you 've been friends even after the relationship, she won't think anything about it unless you start giving her some hints. Relax, it will work out. Don't over analyze everything and everything will be fine.
2006-09-20 12:57:20 · answer #4 · answered by Thot77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ring her and drop something like 'oh hey haven't heard from you in a while and i miss your friendship so do you wanna go bowling tonight?'
that will tell her that you value her as a friend but still it isn't a real date. if she asks is she can bring a friend don't be offended! if she wants to know if its 'just us' then say 'oh i don't mind if you bring a friend along but im cool if you don't want to either'
if shes busy then invite her around another time. be direct but yet not too direct in case she still thinks your a jerk and earn back her trust!
2006-09-20 13:15:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
since u guys broke up so short ago, try calling her and become the hanging out type friends and later once you guys are close try asking her out again cuz girls arent the hugest fans of out of the blue stuff so i strongly suggest that u wait and hang out and when you do ask her say somthing like i really like you and i was wondering if we colud pick up where we left off....GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-20 13:02:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't go out just you and her- get a group of friends together and then invite her, so it doesn't seem to date-ish.
2006-09-20 12:56:01 · answer #7 · answered by The New Mrs. Nguyen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friendly date can help.Show her first that Ur still concern about her.Take time before telling her Ur feeling.
2006-09-20 13:06:16 · answer #8 · answered by jeayuma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should call she might feel the same way...
Good luck!
2006-09-20 13:02:44 · answer #9 · answered by cremedelacreme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares?
2006-09-20 12:56:27 · answer #10 · answered by Mystery Guest 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋