Today I was talking to this lady I'm sort of friends with. I had told her I went on a blind date. So she was asking me about it. I said he never called it's been a week. Then I said I really didn't care because there was not chemistry for him. So then she said maybe he felt the same way. I mean is this kind of insulting. I had not chemistry because I wasn't attracted to him. Is she trying to say he wasn't attracted to me. If that's the case that's kind of mean. I would never tell someone that.
2006-09-20 12:50:56 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds more like she was giving you a plausible reason on why you haven't been called. she was possibly trying to console you and commiserate with you, try to give her the benefit of the doubt.
2006-09-20 13:06:01 · answer #1 · answered by kiss my wookie! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wonder what you think is the reason he hasn't called you again. Even if the two of you had a good time, If he sensed that you were not interested, he probably would not call ...why allow himself to be "shot down" by your refusal to see him again? Why is it ok for you to feel that way (no chemistry), but NOT ok for him to have similar feelings? How is that an insult if he does not care for you? Do you want him at your feet, just so you can say "go away"?
In any encounter you will have your way of seeing it and the other person has theirs. There is nothing wrong with not being attracted to each other. It provides the opportunity to keep moving on.
2006-09-20 13:07:47 · answer #2 · answered by Mandel R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I would take that as an insult. Not being attracted to somebody doesn't mean there isn't any chemistry. You can't judge a relationship by physical attractiveness (you never know, the not-so-cute guy down the hall may be the sweetest, most caring person you'll ever meet). I think she was just making a point.
2006-09-20 12:55:41 · answer #3 · answered by Pigskin Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said there was no chemistry for him.
She said maybe he felt the same way.
You did not tell her that you didn't feel chemistry BECAUSE you weren't attracted. You just said that you didn't feel chemistry.
So how the hell was she supposed to know what you meant? People aren't mind readers.
All she meant was that maybe he didn't feel any chemistry with you either. Afterall, if you were acting like you were uninterested, because you weren't attracted, or didn't feel any chemistry, then why the hell would he feel any from you?
Yeesh. Get over yourself - people aren't in this world with a sole purpose to hurt your feelings, I'm quite sure that wasn't her intention. Thicken up your skin, and maybe stop being so judgemental about people's appearances and maybe you won't feel like everyone's judging you.
2006-09-20 13:19:12 · answer #4 · answered by Lara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was not an insult... You had just told her you had not chemistry for him... So why are you taking it so bad... She was just saying maybe he felt the same way as you did... If there was no chemistry there for you.. Then why are you so worried if he calls you back or not......
2006-09-20 12:55:05 · answer #5 · answered by levita45 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. Probably she is one of those very nice people who always want everything to work out for the best for everyone. It's better (and more optimistic) to think that neither person on a date felt the chemistry than to think that one person did and the other didn't. I've cut her some slack here.
2006-09-20 12:53:53 · answer #6 · answered by Thomas C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though we don't want to hear it - not everyone is going to be attracted to us. It is a possibility that he didn't feel that spark with you or maybe he was a little perceptive and picked up on the fact that you weren't really feeling him. If that's the case, you should give him credit for being smart enough to figure it out and not waste your time.
2006-09-20 13:03:09 · answer #7 · answered by sunssecret 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not mean. She just meant he probably feels the same way you do. Nothing wrong with that. You went on a blind date. You weren't attracted to one another. Move on.
2006-09-20 12:53:21 · answer #8 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No she wasn't insulting you. She was probably just saying that is why he hasn't called. Why do you care? You don't like him, so is he supposed to be in love with you? Don't let that stuff get to you. I'm sure she didn't mean anything rude by it.
2006-09-20 12:52:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No she is just trying to help me make sense of it all. Call him and say hey and see what happens. i did it that way and I have a date for This Saturday nite. He wsn't there but he called back the next day and asked. So try it. It will atleast make you feel better
2006-09-20 12:54:59 · answer #10 · answered by flsunfungirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not an insult, it's just a realistic guess. Just as you weren't attracted to him, he may have felt the same about you. It's not the same as saying you're not attractive, it's just he may not have felt the "spark". You're beeing waaaay to sensitive about the issue.
2006-09-20 12:56:13 · answer #11 · answered by Sandy Ego 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋