Single dad with kids?

Question

I am single dad with 3 kids(live with me) single women with no kids seem to back away once I tell them is there another way to apporach it or should I just look to date single moms who are in the same situation I am in because they understand

Answer 1

Be honest with them, nothing else you can do. Why does it have to be a single women. A single women most likely does not want all your baggage. So you may have to stop the single ladies and date some ladies who as some baggage also. Sorry, but single ones what their own children, not yours.

Answer 2

I'm single, with no kids. Yet. I'd date a man with kids - but only on one condition: He'd be open to having more.

Part of the reason a lot of women shy away from men with kids is that most times those men don't want more kids - with them. I'm here to tell you that I know I want my own. Doesn't mean I couldn't love another woman's children should I fall in love with their father - just means that I want to have my own too.

That said - there are women out there that don't care either way. I have a very good friend who married a man with a 6 year old 10 years ago - she's a better mother to the girl than her real mother. They never had a child together, but she looks at this girl as if she were her own flesh and blood.

They're out there - but you need to always be honest with what you have and what you want. If you know that you don't want more kids - be HONEST. Don't say "maybe" or "not sure". That right there will get you ignored by both types of women.

Answer 3

There isn't another way to approach it.. you have a great deal of responsibility on your life, you have three little lives depending on you, and any woman you choose to spend time with should be special and caring enough to not only accept your situation, but embrace it. Single moms are not necessarily the only ones that will (in fact, some of them will back away from you as well), so all you can do is find those special people and get to know them. And ones that back away, well, do you want them in your kids' life anyway? (I'm a single mom, btw, and have had relationships with guys without kids, so it is possible..) Good luck!

Answer 4

There are plenty of single women who don't have kids out there who will be completely comfortable with your situation. It just takes finding that special someone. It may not be your kids that are getting in the way; it's more likely it's you. I'm sure you don't want to hear that, but look more in to what you are doing. If you're talking about them constantly, then that could be a turn off for someone who don't have kids. They can't relate. Do fun things on dates & let it be all about the woman you're with. Don't talk about all the material things you have or had in your life. Women get turned off hearing those things. Good luck!

Answer 5

It doesn't seem like women with kids have trouble getting men without kids - so it shouldn't be any different for men. Maybe it's the kind of girl your going after. Don't sugar coat the facts - be upfront about your situation. It's very noble (especially NOWADAYS) for a man to take charge of his childrens' lives. Any woman who can't see the sacrifice you are making and be impressed by it isn't worth the time. And don't settle - If you WANT a woman with no other children - then get one. You never know who you'll run into .. perhaps a woman who can't have children of your own and would jump at the chance to love yours : ) Children are a gift - not a crutch ...

From: A Happy Mother of 3 : )

Answer 6

I would think that most women would be attracted to a man who is raising his own kids. It's not often you see someone so dedicated. A single mother might have an easier time understanding because they've been in that situation as well. The only thing you can do is be honest, and hope you meet someone who doesn't hold it against you.

Answer 7

Many years ago I ended up with my three sons, a single parent. They attended three different schools in the same town. At first I dedicated all I had to taking care of them. Two were into sports, the oldest was into music. When I began trying to date again, it sort of happened by chance. You have to be upfront with the ladies because with three boys it would be impossible to date. I finally met someone that was a single parent (through work, a customer), we included all the kids. They appreciated it. We told them for the time being we were not going to get married or live together. After about two years, she was transferred across the country. We still stay in touch.

Answer 8

If certain women back away from the fact that you have kids,,,then they arent meant for you in the first place. There is some women out there who would love you AND YOUR KIDS. my man came into my house knowing i have a son,,,and takes care of the both of us very well. You will find a women that will love the chance to be with you and your kids...Maybe yes it would be better for you to meet single moms that do understand. You are a great dad thats obvious...someone will be lucky to have you.

Answer 9

Be honest. Always. Most single women without children just don't want to get involved with a guy who has children. Try women who are in the same situation as you. They can relate to you better. Have you tried Parents Without Partners, or Catholic singles or something along those lines?

Answer 10

I had the same situation in 1988 minus I child. I was not looking, but I met a beautiful lady with 2 children of her own, and now the children are grown and we have 5 beautiful grand kids. I myself was never good at trying to find the right person for me, but when I was not looking the most wonderful thing just happened. Good Luck to you my friend