My fiances friend keeps hitting on me.?

Question

My fiances friend keeps hitting on me. The problem is I don't really mind and have considered cheating on my fiance with this person (who by the way is married). I know this is not right, but I can't stop thinking about it, there is so much electricity between us. My fiance and I have been having some problems and at first, I blamed it on that, but I really don't know what to do about it, I am afraid something is going to happen, his friend is doing work on our house and it is inevitable that we will be alone together a lot in the next few weeks. I work a lot from home, so do have to be here. any advice would be appreciated.

Answer 1

If you take the next step you will regret it, the problems you and your fiance are having are between you and him. Look at it this way, the friend is really no friend at all and he is a real big jerk for doing this to his own wife. Just keep the conversation brief with the friend while he is there and when you can get out and just not be there. Acting on these feelings will hurt many people besides yourself. Play dumb with your fiance and tell him one of the things that the friend is saying to you and ask fiance what do you think he meant by that. This will give fiance a little heads up about his friend and he might say dont worry about him no more. If you feel that infatuated about the friend then go to the restroom and have a little fantasy time and just when you get close to coming quit what your doing and leave the bathroom and this is what you can expect from the friend if it ever comes to be, he will get off and you will be close but no cigar. Good luck.

Answer 2

If you are engaged and thinking of another I'd rethink the engagement. I know people say well I can look but not touch. I think that's a bunch of crap. It's a fleshly thing. If the other person is married and doing this and you are seriously are thinking of an adulterous relationship don't you think it would hurt the wife? Also don't you think that if you were to do that it would never get back to you fiance? Secrets always come out. It is what you call the circle of life. If you don't want a relationship thats like that (of adultery) don't put it out there. I am a very faithful person and i have been cheated on by everyone I have ever loved. I am married and I know he's cheating but will not admit it. I don't know why I have this in my life. I don't want anyone to ever feel the heartache I've felt. It's a desire of my heart to have a happy marriage and I have not recieved this yet. If you don't love this person enough to think not only of your own feelings then don't get married. Why get married to only go through a divorce, a sin against god.

Answer 3

Since you are having feelings & there is so much electricity between you & this other person, you need to figure out why? You might just be bored in your relationship & letting lust get the better of you. I know this isn't what you want to hear, but you should not have an affair with this guy. Have you thought about his wife, or your fiance? What about your family? There is too much at stake for such a little time of enjoyment. You are in a committed relationship; you will be breaking your integrity, if you have any at all. I would hire someone else to do the work at your house & definately reconsider your relationship with your fiance. You should talk with your finace & let him know about him hitting on you; I doubt he'd let him do the work on your house then! If it's like this now, imagine 5,10 years down the road. Think about how you'd feel if he betrayed your trust & had these feelings for another girl. I wish you the best & hope that you will be able to keep your integrity!

Answer 4

Do you want to risk your engagement, breaking up a friendship between two guys, missing a possible friendship with your fiance's friend's wife, or getting a bad reputation? Cheating would not be a good idea. If you don't want to be with your fiance than leave him for the right reason, and don't set a wedding date yet (if you have already, cancel it), you're not ready for marriage. The only way you should hook-up with his friend is if you & your fiance are no longer together & his friend is divorced. I know you're really lusting and aren't thinking straight, but if you cheat, somehow, it will get out. Use your energy to work things out with your fiance, if you really think you want to be with him. If not, it's time to sit down & have a talk with him about breaking the marriage and moving on (& by moving on, I don't mean onto his friend). When his friend is over do all you can to be out of the house or keep your distance, don't play on his advances, shut him down. Use your lust on your fiance, not his friend.

Answer 5

You will ruin your relationship.. Just because you are having problems don't mean for you or the other to add something more to the pot to stir it up... Its the forbidden fruit of course you want it but I advise you not to. In till you tell your spouse your having 2nd thought or breaking it off. Because once you step that invisible line you will want more and you will feel that you are getting away with it but in the end you will act differently you will change towards your spouse and you will have more problems then you did before... Think about what you have to lose and what you want... Also how do you know this isn't a lil test to see if you would... Then dear sweety you'll be left with neither...

Answer 6

you are only looking for comfrimation to cheat on your (fiance) which ovbiously does not mean a hill of beans to you if you are considering cheating befor u say i-do. ..fyi it is not electriicity it a bunch of static you've already done it and now you know you can't turn back the hands of time .if you really wanted your previous relationship to work these feelings would never have come out to where you are putting yourself in a very comprimising situation that will be even harder to get out of . and it's not just your fiance that would be hurt..........there is more than just you and him (the so called best-friend)involved..........his wife,kids (if any) yours or your husbands so called best friend's in laws,his mother father,your fiance family, that's where we loose our value a people we forget to draw the line somewhere.best friends are usually considered family ,then he can't truse you with his family..............think about it this way ask your fiance if its ok and see what he says

Answer 7

You know you really want "it" to happen. Let him seduce you! Feel your heart race and then turn around and pleasure each other. It's exciting when it's forbidden. I used to lay my wife's best friend from college before we were married. In fact, she was the Maid of Honor in our wedding. I'd make love to her, when my then fiance', would be at work. Wrong? Yes! Exciting and incredibly wonderful? Yes! In fact, when she'd ask me to pull out, I'd roll the dice and hit her with both nuts...WHAM! That made it even more exciting and dangerous. Talk about living on the edge. When she'd say "I can feel you swelling, don't c u m in me," I couldn't resist and she knew it! The bottom line is your "bottom." Drop 'em and give in to him. Remember, you only live once, and by the way, you're not married yet. Who knows? Maybe this is what's really meant to be. You won't know if you don't give in to the desires of his temptation. Make each other sweat in the heat of passion. Forbidden fruit is ever so sweet. Email me and let me know if you take my advice. I want to know how it all turns out (details).

Good luck!

Answer 8

If you are having these kinds of feelings toward someone else, this is not the person for you. Get out of this current relationship you are in and focus on someone else, who is not married. If this married person is hitting on you, how many other women does he do this too. I would not give in to him. Take it from someone who knows. The end result will not be worth it. I will keep you in my prayers.

Answer 9

If youare not sure You need to talk to him about your future marraige. As far as the friend well you know what is alright with you and not. You also know to expect some trouble if something happens.

Answer 10

You should get this out of your system before you get married . Because you know deep down inside that you are going to have sex with him . [e-mail]