What do you do to calm yourself down when you are really angry and irritated by some thing?

Answer 1

take a deep breath whilest telling myself that it is not worth getting so worked up about and then leave the area or room for a while untill ive calmed down.

Answer 2

Run, do not walk, in the opposite direction, as quickly as possible. Put distance between you and what upset you, so you can cool down and get your bearings again. Diffuse everything. This is a good strategy, because it helps you regroup so you can actually think of something to do, so you won't have to go through it again. Take your feelings seriously enough to get off by yourself with them to think things through, to see what really triggered your anger. Sometimes, it isn't what you thought it was. It might not have be a person at all, but a set of circumstances that ganged up on you when you were just tired, so if you blew up and said things that would make you blush now, you owe someone an apology, and a new beginning. It is the hardest thing in the world to calm yourself down if you are really, truly angry. Did you know that? Well, it really is. You have to catch yourself starting to get angry. If you can do that, then it is much easier to just shut that whole "I'm about to get really angry" cycle right off. When you get to a point in your life where you have managed to find the "off switch" on your anger, you are well on your way to solving everything that gets to you. It is futile to deny how angry you are. Everyone gets angry. The idea is for you to be in control of it, instead of the other way around. Don't let your anger push you around, and make you say things you'll regret later, but we all do it, don't we? Well, the bottom line is to calm the waters and clear the mud away. Sometimes you can make a phone call and admit to having been a damned fool, and just say a sincere "I'm really sorry" but other times, you just have to bide your time and let the river clear itself. Anyhow, this reply gives you some idea of where I stand on being pushed around by mood swings. Sent to you with good energies from Chris in South Portland, Maine, U.S.A. (I am 63 years old. I tell you that because if I get angry, and act like an idiot, I should know better!)

Answer 3

If I am really angry, I try very hard not to vent on the people around me. I usually go away, walk, sit down, do anything but be around the person/situation that is making me angry. With time and talking to myself I will calm myself down. Then when I am calm enough I will usually go and talk to the person who has made me feel this way.

I knew a girl once who used to get so angry, she would get in an unoccupied elevator and scream and scream from floor to floor....Im sure the people who wanted to get on the elevator would choose to wait for another one.....LOL

Seriously though, the thing that calms me each and every time is go to the beach or the lake or anywhere there is water. It is so beautiful to hear the waves or the water lapping. When you look at the water and the sky and land around it, you will realise the world is such a big and beautiful place. You will also see the peace and serenity....its a great place to think...or its a great place to just clear your mind and think about nothing but what you are seeing and experiencing.

Answer 4

Anger is a real negative emotion and one that can do much harm if not controlled. It can get out of control very quickly and can turn to abusive anger. I am not talking about physical abuse only but mental abuse to someone else.

My partner used to very quick to anger, though he never physically abused me he caused me mental anguish for a good many years.

We have resolved this by me being more understanding and by him listening instead of just hearing and by trying to see my view point as well as his own. We have both learnt to bring humour into our lives more readily and we find that this helps more than anything.

I must add that many causes of anger are brought on by stress and in most incidences it is the stress that needs to be addressed. My other half has taken up badminton again and the change in him is remarkable.

So try and find the cause of the anger then deal with it, in a way that suits you best. And that does not mean lashing out at someone.It could mean taking advice from someone who has the know how to deal with anger management.

Answer 5

usually I flip out and have an argument into thin air. Oh what do I do to calm myself...........hhmm , i'm still working on that! I'll get back to you.

(recently I went on a holiday in ibiza it helped a bit and I met people there who did yoga as a way of life, i might look into doing it, as then one might RARELY ever get really angry very often which is even better)

Answer 6

first just move away from that thing, so that you dont have anything next to you that is irritating you
count from 1 to 50/ A to Z in reverse order.
take deep breath
Distract your mind by thinking about something else
Laughter thepary - it really works.
sing a song
go for swimming
think about something that is dearer to you.

Answer 7

I deal to the cause of my anger!!Well who's to blame if i punch whatever's irritating me..The thing that caused me to be angry lol :P that help's calm me down..

Answer 8

some deep breaths and counting 1 to 10 or until im calm enough..then i go out ....to shop....or i log on to YA and answer some questions

Answer 9

i personally .. look somewhere else stare there for a bit till i think is this really that important .. if that doesnt work i walk away and rant to someone ... i tell the people around me to ignore what im saying and to just let me rant away and then its out my system and i just plain forget about it

Answer 10

i normally go for a ten minute walk and think about the situation and afterwards talk to a great mate if possible that will understand just to get it off my chest.