how can i change the mistakes i make?

Question

i know what im doing wrong i just cant change. help???

Answer 1

most people do the same thing over and over expecting different results..you can change, anyone can.the question is how bad do you want it?? some people say they want to change or stop doing things they dont mean and so on..the truth is they really dont want to change anything,often times than not is because they are afraid..soooo if you REALLY want things to be differrent then you will take action to do it

Answer 2

You cannot change the mistakes you have made in your past. You are probably filling yourself with guilt of your past mistakes that you cannot forgive yourself, so you keep on making these mistakes. You need to be kind to yourself.....we are all human, we all make mistakes...it is part of the growing up process.

But if you are really feeling horrible about these mistakes and you feel you have hurt people really badly....a good technique and alcoholics use is in the 12 step program and I dont know what step this one is....but they write a letter to everyone they have hurt in their lives and tell them they are sorry. Some send the letters, some dont. Maybe this would work for you.

If you cant get over the anger yourself, then go get some help. There are some wonderful anger management classes around which will give you the opportunity to meet people who have the same problems you do. Group therapy is a wonderful tool, more because you see that you are not a "freaK" and there are many people out there who are suffering the same kinds of things that you are. There are good sensible advice that these people can give you to overcome your anger. If it is worrying you a lot, then maybe you need to go somewhere where they do have anger management classes.

Answer 3

First of all, don't say you can't change, say you won't change. Because if you truly were remorseful and you wanted to change, you would find a way to do it. You should ask yourself what you are gaining from indulging in these "mistakes". You are getting something that you need from doing this "wrong thing". So what is it? Does it fill a void in some way? Once you can figure that out, you should be able to START to change your behavior. Fill up that void with something positive. But it may be a long road with relapses along the way. Good luck and don't give up on yourself.

Answer 4

You can interrupt any unwanted behavior pattern. Try laughter--laugh at the behavior and see if that changes your mind set. If it does you probably will not know what to do--fill it up with positive things that you like. If this doesn't work try to step back from yourself and say things that you like about yourself. This will be an attempt to change your thinking with these positive self affirmations and then you can do what you choose. Another exercise is a meditation. Go to a 'special place' that you really enjoy and be by yourself. Say the self affirmations to yourself and really feel an object in this place, like pushing your fingers into a rock or sand. This helps with the connection in your mind. Good luck to you!

Answer 5

Remember: You CANNOT change your past, only you present and future. If you realize what you are doing wrong, the YOU need to do something about it, YOU need to stop. As much as others might want to help you no one can really help you in making the right choice, you alone will have to do it. God will help you ONLY if you are willing to change and sincerely ask for His help. Otherwise He will not interfere. So it will be a 3 step process:

1) Realize and admit what you doing wrong.
2) Make up your mind to stop doing what you are currently doing.
3) Ask God for help.

Trust me, it works.

All the best to you!

Answer 6

Be more specific on what problems you mean. And only through a time machine can you actually change these mistakes. the best I've been told is to learn from them by being more aware of what you are doing and it's consequences (by being more careful out there next time).

Answer 7

Well at least you are acknowledging that you are doing wrong. That is the first step. Pray or meditate on it. Just try to make little changes daily and keep visualizing yourself as the person you want to become and maybe some day you will be that person. Good luck.

Answer 8

You can't really change your mistakes. You can get something to make the consequences better. Most important of all you have to admit making the mistake. Live & learn !!!

Answer 9

You can't change the mistakes. They are done and gone. You can change the circumstances which lead up to them. These may be environmental, relational, vocational, and personal. If you find the M still hard to withstand, find a person willing to hold you accountable.
Hang in there. You can do it.

Answer 10

Quit fighting it, come over to the dark side Luke.

no, you are Evil and I will never be like you, Darth Vader!!!

Luke, I am your MOTHER!!!

First you be should be more specific, eating twinkies is not a mortal sin, and typoos are just typos. Next is to lighten up, everybody makes mistakes. Third, a mistake might be able to be corrected but it can not be unmade, time only goes one way.