i have a best friend who is out serving a two year mission for our church. he comes home in ten months and i would love to marry him when he gets home, but i dont know if i should just sit around and not date, or should i date? i just know that i want to marry him.
2006-09-20 11:33:50 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
the bigger question is do you truelly love this man. if you are looking around and not satisfied with what God has given you..how satisfied would you be to continue waiting for this missionary man? Presuming he will continue his missionary work, you may very well be left behind at times while he goes on his missionary trips. Are you prepared for this? Marriage is a serious thing...
2006-09-20 13:35:56 · answer #1 · answered by pixie1elf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooh this is a tough one. I went through this for a while with my bf and finally he realized what he was missing and came back. In your situation he can't come back even if he wants to. Well, this is tough. I don't think that it is fair for you to sit around and wait on him. I say go out and date other people. Have fun, and when he comes back then you can decide if you want to give things another shot. I know some people who have gone through the same thing and are now married. So, you never know, it can work. If it was meant to be it will happen, but for now, just get out and date and meet some new people. You can still date and have fun without letting things get too far you know what i mean? Keep yourself busied and preoccupied with friends, family and activities. Write or talk to him when ever you can to keep the lines of communication open. What about going with him? Is that an option? Just giving you some other options to think about.
2006-09-20 18:41:35 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm from utah so here is my experience. I would never not date while a missionary is out. Date as much as you can you'll either learn to appreciate him more or decide he's not the one. Dating won't ruin your relationship it will make it stronger. And the missionary thing rarely works out. Pleople grow and change in two years!
2006-09-20 18:42:02 · answer #3 · answered by Jaq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant love him or you wouldnt want to date, but him going off on missions and expecting you to sit by the fire baking cookies is completely unrealistic -why dont you go on holiday, have parties, go to christian functions and hope to meet other single eligle christians, get on a christian date site.however him going away fro 2 years and coming back in 10 months is ridiculous, there is a saying if you lvoed him you'd wait - - but --peopel have met, married and had children int he amount of time youve been waiting - bloody hell girl - LIVE
2006-09-20 19:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by Mercy J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he want to marry you? If he does, does he want to marry a woman who was dating other men while he was gone? If you can't be that faithful, then you aren't mature enough to marry anyone.
2006-09-20 23:21:10 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you know that he is the one, it won't matter if you date or not, ten months isn't really enough time to get serious with anyone, but nothing is wrong with socolizing.
2006-09-20 18:42:12 · answer #6 · answered by phobic_42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what would you want him to do?
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2006-09-20 18:41:15 · answer #7 · answered by sweets 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋