My bf dumped me cz he thought I was cheatin on him. his concept is that any guy I talk to after 12 midnite must be sleeping with me.With so less gals around, i get only guys to talk to and there is a guy who i would never even dream myself of getting hookd wth let alone whatever that follows but whom i like to chat with about intresting topics like business, politics who has free time only after 12. i go out in his car for a night ride but even though he is intrested in me, i nevr let him go further than saying what he likes about me. i hav always warnd the guy that i m NOT ROMANTCALLY interested in him and if he ever feels so, please not to contact me.i used to tell my bf abt ths guy and he warnd me to stay away frm the frnd.i had done so but sometimes, i went out wthout tellin my bf though i always kept the frnd alwys as a FRIEND and nothng else.my frnd knows how honest i m but few days ago my bf found out n stopped speaking wth me.i m pissed wth his mistrust in me but m sorry 4hidin
2006-09-20 11:14:24 · 21 answers · asked by Germane L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ha... girl i know exactly what ur talkin about... u see i too broke up a good relationship because he thought that i was sneakin around... haha but then... he was the only givin girls all these comments... i can tell u this... if the guy has some doubt in u... then just take a break.. thats what we did.. and about 6 months later we came to the conclusion that we were nothin without eachother... we both decided that b4 we thought of breakin things off...that we would talk about it...
no relationship is a relationship...without trust... :)
let him know that u have guy friends..
just like he mostlikely has lady friends..
and that doesnt mean that ur sleepin w/ them..
just because they call at odd hours..
doesnt mean anythin..
because i know that ppl call me at all hours..
when they need someone to talk to
i wish u 2 the best of luck
2006-09-20 11:22:13 · answer #1 · answered by LonelyChica 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to say this, but I believe that just about any guy would have dumped you for such behaviour. If you're having a hard time understanding why, just reverse the situation. Think about it honestly. If he carried on with another girl behind your back you would dump him in a heartbeat, wouldn't you? It wouldn't matter if he said they were just friends. I know you say it was innocent, but the cold hard truth is that you were acting like someone with something to hide and you broke his trust.
You have to respect the other person's feelings when you're in a relationship. Your boyfriend let you know up front that he was uncomfortable with the situation. You knew where he stood so you were being rather disrespectful. If you didn't like it you could have sought a relationship with a guy who would be more open to the idea of you having close male friends. Also, any guy who is willing to hang out with another guy's girlfriend at all hours of the night isn't up to any good. Sorry to say it, but it's the truth. Good luck in your future relationships.
2006-09-20 21:47:13 · answer #2 · answered by Little Girl Blue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you got what you deserved (sorry, honesty is the best policy). What you were doing was sneaking behind your bf's back. He had warned you to stay away and you went ahead anyway. Now, sounds like your bf has lost trust in you. Now, the most important question is - what kind of relationship can you have with your bf if he does not trust you by letting you T A L K to friends (male) in the first place .Maybe YOU should rethink the situation through and decide if you want him telling you whom you can & can't talk to. If he's doing this now, as you get more involved, what else will he decide you can't do.
2006-09-20 18:28:29 · answer #3 · answered by HolidayGurl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really not a good sign hanging around with another guy after midnight , going for drives, hearing nice things about yourself. You and your boyfriend should really not be together. You are being unfaithful in a non sexual way. Why is your b/f not saying what you wanna hear? Do you need this affirmation of your what - sexual attractiveness? Something aint right. Do you need a man/boy to get all angry and aggressive over you? Give him and yourself a break and end this relationship before someone gets really hurt (both physically and emotionally).
2006-09-20 20:00:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend doesn't trust you and you don't seem to be bothered about doing things that really annoy him. I can understand him being upset you're out late at night with another guy. Seems like you need to sit down with your bf and discuss what you both want from a relationship and if its not the same thing you might have to walk away.
2006-09-20 18:18:26 · answer #5 · answered by seaside_girl_03 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all i totaly agree with carolynn 2nd of all if your doing this type of thing you have sit your self down and realise that you may actully really like your so called friend and dont want anyone to know or feel embarressed ...you see you dont just get up in the middle of the night not telling your bf and run off with this so called friend for a laugh ... you must like him ... and yeah maybe this friend maybe not so good looking as your man ..keep it real and dont care what anyone thinks
2006-09-20 18:26:11 · answer #6 · answered by chaz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your b/f is right you are wrong. I bet if your b/f was doing what you are with a girl you would be angry and suspect cheating was happening, well you have no business being with another guy especially at night, I don't know why you feel that by telling a guy you are not romantically interested in then go for a ride at night , chat after midnight with him and you went out with him and lied to your b/f .grow up. you are a player. you are a joke..
2006-09-20 18:24:28 · answer #7 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, you like the attention of the friend guy or you wouldnt be talking to him after 12 midnite. Its cool if you acknowlege it. You may not like him romantically but there is something interesting about him for you to go riding w/ him and talking to him about different topics..Just explain to your boyfriend that you find comfort in your friend guy and that you are just friends...you do need to evaluate your friendship though. For some reason, you hid it from you boyfriend, think about it....
2006-09-20 18:22:22 · answer #8 · answered by Say It Again M'am 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ouch! If you're in a relationship with someone, it really doesn't make you look good if you're talking to other men on the phone after midnight...and going out for drives in their cars with them? Hmmm...
That's bad. If I had a boyfriend that was doing this...I would say BUH-BYE real quick!
Sorry to say, I don't blame your ex for dumping you. I know it sounds harsh...but I'm not really sure how to mend this one, sorry.
2006-09-21 03:09:47 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your'e enjoying the attention of your 'friend', but your'e not really being honest with your boyfriend, lying by omission. It seems like you might be testing your boyfriend to see if he trusts you, but if you care for him then you wouldn't want to upset him. I think your boyfriend is right not to trust you. How would you feel if your boyfriend was spending the early hours of the morning with a girl who he said was just a friend, but he sometimes forgot to tell you about it?
2006-09-20 18:25:28 · answer #10 · answered by crissylizb06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋