do you think it is OK to smack kids to discipline them?

Question

i think its very wrong. which kind a parent would think its ok to hurt kid!!!i really get so angry when i see parents smacking their kids.

i am not going to HURT my children .i will find other ways to discipline them.my parents never smacked me they always talked to me and i am very good person now! i can not believe you people who thinks its ok to hurt someone.

Answer 1

No. Smacking is violence, plain and simple. Parents need to find other methods such as time out, removal of privledges etc rather than hurting their kids. I have a friend that smacks her child and looks down on me becuase I refuse to smack. Might I say her child is naughter and so much more violent to other children than mine. Smacking is the domain of a parent who has poor conflict resolution skills and cannot think of anything for discipline than to use violence on their kids. But they seem so shocked when their kid smacks them or other kids/people, hmmm I wonder why!!

Oh and BTW DJ, I work in this field and those who have committed suicide are way more likely to have been hit as kids. It's not opinion, its scientific proof. I'd rather have a spoilt kid than a screwed up kid that hits everyone when they don't get their own way because they learnt it from Mom and Dad.

Answer 2

This is a difficult one. I was a very disobedient kid and got a good hiding off my mother everyday and I have no ill effects from this. I never got into trouble at school and have never got involved with the wrong crowd or crimes. However having watched programmes such as "Supernanny" (sorry I cant help watching that stuff) - it just goes to prove that with perseverance, there are other methods of discipline which can be effective. I do not have children so can not comment on direct experience. I do strongly believe however that firm discipline is vital from an early age and that a lot of kids are lacking in this

Answer 3

A smack is different from a spanking. A spanking is on the bottom padded area and, most importantly, is given for the child's discipline. A smack is usually given in the most easily accessible area (face, arm wherever) to the ANGRY parent who is taking out their anger, not disciplining. We spank but we do not smack.

Answer 4

Smacking is such a harsh word. I don't think anyone should be smacked, especially out of anger or in public. What I do agree with is that each child should have some form of discipline. Whether it's a spank on the hand when something is done wrong, that has been orally reprimanded, or spanked on the bottom. I do believe in spanking, not beating, not smacking, just spanking. Not like when I was little and it never ended until they got tired, but just when the child understands what he or she has done is wrong. Which, if properly understood, should be once.

Answer 5

I have spanked my kids and it is not with the intention of hurting them. Mostly I give time outs. Spanking are reserved for extreme offenses. Example : If I caught my 4 year old playing with the stove. First offense would be a time out of four or five minutes with an stern explaination of why we don't play with stove.
If I come back a half our later and she is trying again, she getting a swat or two on the behind and another stern explaination.
I would do this because I love her and don't wish for her be burned. Not because I am mad and seeking to hurt her. People can agree to disagree on spankings. Some kids don't need it , some need an occasionaI attention getter. I don't know if you have kids or not so maybe you have not had to make this choice first hand. For the record , I am not advocating BEATING children.
I do feel a slap on the butt now and then is really not that big a deal. Ok everyone feel free to give me thumbs down now.

Answer 6

No "timeout" is going to have the effect that a good old fashioned spanking is going to have. I have been a teacher and I will tell you firsthand that the children coming from homes in which they recieved "timeouts" and punishments such as those are far worse behaved than the children who recieved spankings. It truly IS in the best interests of the child. I'm not saying beat them, because that is over the top. What I am saying is that spanking was and is a perfectly acceptable form of punishment and has been for hundreds of years.

It's incredibly ironic how downhill society began to slide when the "timeout" generation hit puberty and showed the world what a childhood with no discipline did to them.

Answer 7

I have only spanked my kids a couple of times. Only on their butts and only if what they were doing wrong was really really bad. Talking and time outs are better. The last time I spanked was when my almost 2 year old wouldn't stop running toward the street. Talking was not working and this running into the street is something that could kill him. After spanking him 2 times for doing this he never tried to run into the street again.

Answer 8

1st of i don't have any kids of my own but i have watched 2 different forms of disciplines in my own family .

1) traditional slap on hand or bum
2) modern day approach to discipline the so called `time out'

unfortunately there is no right or wrong way of disciplining children for some kids time out and communicating with them works for others time out is a waste of time and they repeat the offence again so the only way they learn is by a tap

the current law states we can use reasonable chastisement as long as it doesn't leave any marks on the kids otherwise it can b classed as child abuse/assault

i personally prefer to use shock treatment IE raise my voice suddenly in fact my younger bros respond better to me than my own parents but i think its because i only have a go at them if they are naughty or their lives could be in danger depending on setting

Answer 9

The word "smack" implies hitting as a reaction, which is never good. When we punish our children we should never just react. It should never be done while angry and it should always be done in a way that it benefits the child.

That being said, I would never hit my child as a form of punishment, anywhere, anyhow. There are plenty of other ways to teach your child right from wrong, they just take time, patience, and sometimes a little imagination.

Answer 10

I used to think no. But I've seen how kids are these days, and now that I'm grown up, I now say yes. I used to get spanked and I've turned out to be more respectful and have better manners than many of my friends who didn't. I will admit that I had some resentment towards my parents for doing it, but now I'm happy they did. Time outs only work for a short period of time. Spanking or smacking on the wrist really gets the point across, immediately.