2006-09-20 11:07:09 · 33 answers · asked by simply.me 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
an essay question..
2006-09-21 09:18:45 · update #1
The parents of the teen should do what they feel is in the best interests of their child. If that is pushing for abortion, adoption, or supporting the teen in his/her decision to keep the baby, so be it. The fact remains that the parents have had and raised a child and the teen has not. They know the hurdles and they know the difficulties. Most importantly: they know their child and what their child can and cannot handle.
The decision is as much the parents' choice as it is the teen's since it is the parents that provide all of the support for that teenager and ultimately, for the child that teen is about to have. Any decision they come to should be broached gently and without a lot of yelling and fighting. Keeping a calm environment is key. Letting the teen know that they are loved no matter what is also important. I do NOT however believe that the teen's parents should leave the teen to make his or her own choice and then just support that choice. The parents DESERVE a say in what happens.
And I got pregnant as a teenager, so yeah, I can make these calls.
2006-09-20 11:15:41 · answer #1 · answered by A.R. 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry what exactly is an "accidental pregnancy" ? If you have reached puberty and have sex there is no "accidental pregnancy". Birth control of any kind only reaches a 99.9% effective. I think I have more of a problem with the phrasing of this question than I do the fact that two teens are having a baby. I think this should have said " If I am a parent of a teen who is now pregnant, what is the right way to handle this situation between myself and the other set of parents?"
2006-09-20 11:25:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anjanette A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in my opinion the teens are going to parents now! I am pro life I know that some people are not but I am so in my opinion abortion is no option...both teens should still finish school and if they love each other then they should get married if not then they should at the very least remain civil for the childs sake! I got pregnant when I was 17 my son is now 2/12 I finished school and I just graduated from college so there is no excuse for a drop out either. I got no help for anyone I just did the right thing and worked my butt off...
2006-09-20 11:14:21 · answer #3 · answered by JUst ask 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both sets of parents need to sit down and talk to the kids together to find out one what their plans are and two to offer advice and opinions. Then the parents need to work with the kids to earn the money for getting through the pregnancy. Although a parents insurance will cover a minor child being pregnant it will not cover clothes and other things a pregnant mom needs and the boy is just as responsible for this as the girl. If they want to keep the child that is something else to consider and the parents need to work together to insure both kids complete their education and explain to them that even though age wise they are still kids they will no longer live the life of one that now their lives will revolve around school, work and baby. The boy should be made to pay support for the baby and it should go to the parents that are putting a roof over it's head and food in it's stomach to help with all the expenses they will incur. More than anything they need to let the kids know that although disappointed they still love them and are there for them.
2006-09-20 15:23:46 · answer #4 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, let's define accidental unless the condom broke. It just sounds kind of funny, accidentally got pregnant. LOL!
Well, the proper thing for the parents of both the young woman and man is to be understanding and stand by whatever decision the two want to make. It is ultimately the young mother to be who needs the support and backing from her parents. There is really not much the young man can do because he is not the one giving birth. It is only the daughter's parents who must be supportive. Think about it, no matter what the young lady decides, the boyfriend has no say whatsoever. Good luck to you or whomever it is. I would hope too that abortion won't be an option versus adoption.
2006-09-20 11:56:56 · answer #5 · answered by sherijgriggs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parents should make the teens take care of their own responsibilities. That doesn't mean taking on a new child. I don't the the parents should let the teen still act like a child. I was a teen mom. I CHOSE to move out on my own the day I turned 18. I CHOSE not to go on welfare. I wish other teens would do the same thing. They shouldn't have anyone else taking care of their responsibilities.
2006-09-20 11:17:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too had an accidental teen pregnancy. My step mom forced me to have an abortion! I was 17 yrs old and she never gave me any options or even talked to my boyfriends parents! We wanted to keep it and his parents were willing to help us. But my stepmother saw it another way! She was more worried about herself being the talk of the town and family! That was 16 yrs ago this past Monday and you know something it still haunts me for what she did! I am still with the same man and we are married too. We have 2 beautiful little girls too. I found out through my family that they too were not happy with the decision my stepmother made. That child would have been 15 yrs old this year! I say work it out with your parents and his parents and go from there. If you decide you don't want to keep it Please give it up for adoption don't abort it!! GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-20 11:51:44 · answer #7 · answered by kolowski4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parents should be understanding and support you with any decison that you make about the baby. I am sure that most parents will be disappointed that there child got knocked up or knocked someone up, but it will all work itself out someday. I think that the teens parents should the teen get any help that is needed, like help them to find a doctor, help find someone the teen can talk to about their options (keeping the baby/adoption) and the parents should talk about the financial need of having a baby and how it is all going to be paid for.
Good luck
2006-09-20 11:18:39 · answer #8 · answered by Lara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first those parents should have either taught their children better sex ed, or kept a closer watch on their afterschool activities. But if a teen does get pregnant, the parents need to talk with the teen and both agree on a solution, whether it be abortion or having the baby. Neither solution should just be demanded of the teen, but having kids is a big deal.
2006-09-20 11:12:42 · answer #9 · answered by jamieinreno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right thing to do is to be there. I know that the teen probably wasnt expecting it but people dont think and they do make a few wrong choices which should never be called a mistake because having a baby is not a mistake.. The parents need to be strong and they need to know how to be there and show support.
2006-09-20 11:17:53 · answer #10 · answered by shorty Peraza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋