Do guys tend to look at girls even when they're with their gf?

Question

I am now going out with a guy, who always looks at girls (whose beauty ranges from medium upwards), even when he goes by my side. You guys know what? I am very jealous person. I can't stand it when I see him looking at other girls right in front of me. I know that everyone (either male or female) tends to take a "peak" at a passby beautiful girl. My bf even looks at those, whom he can't even see their faces, who seem to be pretty from the back. I get jealous all the time.
I have a question to guys: do you guys tend to look at girls like that? Or you guys tend to think that once you are in love with someone, you only know and think of your girlfriend. Even if she is not the prettiest, does she still appear as the most beautiful woman in your heart?
To girls: do you get jealous when your bf tries to look at other girls, who are even uglier than you? Sometimes, I think I should break up with the guy b/c whenever I see him looking at other girls, I always get jealous and sad. Should I?

Answer 1

Guys will always look at other girls. They always want what they can't have. ALWAYS. My advice to you is to just show him that it doesn't bother you. Let him see that you know you are good enough for him. You don't need to worry about those other girls, because you are the one with him. It will make him want you more.

If you break up with him you will only be feeding your insecurities and they will continue to get worse throughout your future relationships.

Answer 2

People look. It's just human nature. Some women make too much of it and some men are rude about it (your boyfriend).

You could always have fun with it - make a game of it. Give him 100 points a week. Tell him every time you catch him looking, he loses 10 points. If he finishes the week with 100 points he gets something special (up to you), 80+ points something a bit less, less than 80 points, he gets nothing. For more fun, tell him he can earn 10 points back by pointing out a guy who you might find attractive (this gives you a bit of power as you could always say the guy is not attractive even if you think he is). As far as whether he is technically "looking" or not - tell him it's your call, no debate.

Turn it into something positive, because, jealousy is a HUGE turnoff and pouty sadness is no fun to be around.

Answer 3

Whoa! One question at a time, please. Yes, it's perfectly normal for guys to ogle other girls. Get used to it, because it happens all the time and it doesn't mean that your boyfriend loves you any less or thinks you are less attractive by comparison. It's just part of what guys are made of -- they are very visually oriented. It doesn't mean anything, and two minutes later they forget all about that girl with a cute rear end and long, blonde hair. But if you make a big to-do about it, then you'll defeat your whole purpose. He'll start feeling trapped and before you know it, he's gone astray. My husband looks at pretty girls, and we've been married for 28 years. It doesn't bother me at all. It would bother me if he didn't look at other women -- he wouldn't be normal.

So quit worrying. Don't break up over simply looking. And I know you didn't mean to offend anyone, but when you asked if you get jealous when your significant others look at other girls who are even uglier than you -- better be prepared to duck because that was insulting, even though unintentional......Take care!

Answer 4

1) I think everyone looks, it is a natural reaction to look at an attractive person. 2) Are you insecure about yourself? 3) I can be walking with someone and see an attractive woman but I would never disrespect the person I am with. You can do a "quick glance" if you think the other person is not looking (and not too much of that either) but is not "cool" to be doing that.

If I am TRULY in love with someone she WILL be the prettiest girl in the world to me and I will not have a need to be constantly looking at other women. Be secure about yourself, there are plenty of SEXY people (with sex appeal) with may not necessarily be the most attractive persons. Is all in your attitude so have confidence and this guys disrespects you all the time, tell him how you feel and if he still does it, dump him and find a better man for you.

Good luck!

Answer 5

I love my girlfriend, I really do. I think about her all the time.

However, It doesn't matter if the girl that walks past is pretty, or hideous. We will still look. I don't know why. It irritates the crap out of me, but maybe I'll post another question.

Why do girls feel the need to display half their chest?

But I already know the answer! THEY WANT US TO LOOK

Before you accuse us of looking, cover yourself up. Low cut shirts might as well be painted Hunter's Orange.

If your guy is opening staring, then perhaps it is time to give him a talk. But don't be worried about casual glances. They don't mean anything, its just hardwired into us.

Answer 6

Like you said, everyone takes a "peek", same thing as looking. Maybe you should ask him not to make it so obvious in front of you. Don't be so jealous! Thats the kind of behavior that is going to make him do more than look! and its not very attractive either. But confidence goes a long way, so blow it off, you are the one that has him, keep it that way.

Answer 7

Personally I think it is disrespectful to look at other women/men when you are with your girlfriend/boyfriend. Don't feel guilty for feeling jealous and sad when he does this to you, those are your feelings and he should respect them...that is a sign of a good relationship, respecting each other's feelings and not trying to deliberately hurt them!!!

Have you told him that it bothers you? Maybe you should tell him (in a mature and calm way) how it makes you feel when he does that and see what his response is. If he respects your feelings and tones it down, then you have a good guy. I used to have a boyfriend who did it just to make me feel like crap...so if that is his reason you need to dump him asap because no girl deserves a man like that!!!

Answer 8

Don't get stressed. It is normal, to some extent. Now, if he is being very obvious doing it, and with total disregard for your feelings, there may be a problem. Tell him how it makes you feel.

I know my boyfriend will sometimes point out flaws in other females around. Of course, that boosts my confidence, but I now he is noticing the "cute" ones, too.

Really, it's normal, so don't let it get in the way of your relationship if everything else is good.

Answer 9

Change your perspective. He's with YOU not them. He CHOSE you over them. He will look, you will look (don't deny it) but when it comes to home time you're both with each other. Look but no touchy ;)

I suggest to let him know that you don't appreciate it (guy's aren't entirely emotionally intelligent) in a calm manner.

Leave the rest to trust and faith, worse comes to worse if your feelings overwhelm the relationship's worth, leave him. Otherwise it will manifest into this big biullshit ball of childish little games and taunts. Cut the crap.

Answer 10

I'm the same way. All I can say if that guys shouldn't look at other girls ,when there with someone .It's just like cheating . But first talk to boyfriend and tell him that you dont like for him to look at other girls. It makes you unhappy. If he wont understand and stop doing that . Then find someone else . Who wont hurt you like that and someone will understand. If he cares for you he wont look at other girls. I hope everything works out for you.