Ok here goes:
I’m 15, this girl is 13: ITS only 2 years
A few months ago, me and this girl were really close, we would talk and flirt all the time, and this went on for a while, well eventually people started talking about us, being so close, and wondered if we were dating. She started backing off big time, and seemed like something was bothering her. Well I asked her to the movies, and she said idk maybe. I took it as a nice way of saying no. Well she told her friends she just doesn’t know, because I’ve liked many different girls b4, and she just want to see if I could stick with her for a while. Well months passed, and we got further and further away. I wondered why? Well she and her mom are REALLY close, so I asked her mom. Her mom said she was just really scared, because we have been friends since age 7. Well then she told her friends she just doesn’t want to hurt my feelings. It got to the point were I couldn’t stand it anymore. So I emailed her this about a month ago
can we please talk??
I've got to tell you something, because, well, i just got to know.
I really like you, alot. And it seemed like you used to like me. But now, it just seems like you are really really trying to avoid me. I mean, i know youve been busy and all with swimmin, but like since carrowinds, we havent talked, barely any , at all. It seems like you just dont care about me. I mean, i feel so confused, because, for some reason, you just stopped talking to me. Why? I mean, are you trying to get me to take the hint? Or what? I mean i really dont know what to think. Tell me anything, tell me that you hate me, just please please be honest. Remember that thing at carrowinds, guys cant stand when girls beat around the bush? Well, if you dont like me, please just tell me straight up. My feelings wont be hurt. And if you do, but just arent sure, just tell me. I wanna be there for you, I want you to be able to trust me, and be able to talk to me, about anything
This is what she replied
hey,
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later.
This is what I replied
hey!!. thanks for being honest with me. I really value our friendship too, and if you don’t feel comfortable, because of ruining the friendship if something were to happen, that is cool with me.
Now to me, that sounds like two things (1) she doesn’t want to ruin a friendship, cuz we’ve been friends since age 7 or (2) shes just letting me down easy. But now she is flirting with this other guy, like she used to do with me. But she seems more comfortable around me than she did before. But when she sees that I am not going out of my way to see her, she seems to talk to me more, and flirt a little more, almost like she don’t have me anymore. And sometimes, Ill catch her looking at me, and when I look she’ll look away. And then sometimes, her body language, she just seems sad, like she wants to tell me something, or likes me or IDK what, its just she seems different since we talked about it. But I mean b4 she really seemed to like me, and IDK why she just would have stopped. , I mean I’ve like many girls, just none like this, When I wake up sheds the first think I think about, and the last think when I go to sleep. I just cant let her go.
My question is do you think she was letting me down easy, or is just scared, and what should I do about it? And please don’t tell me I’m too young
2006-09-20 10:44:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are not too young to date, but she is. If she was more mature emotionally she would be able to tell you straight up what she did or did not want from you. Besides you are also beating around the bush..Saying things in an email is easy, but saying things face to face have more impact. I'd say back off and let her mature a little emotionally..I'm sure if you have been friends for this long, you can still be friends until the time is right for something more.
2006-09-20 10:51:01 · answer #1 · answered by All I Hear Is Blah Blah Blah... 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off Drsteve ur an asshole, I agree with the woman above. This is prolly the 5th time that I've seen you answer a question in an asshole way. If your gonna answer a question answer it and keep ur rude comments to ur self.
As for the boy...... u both are still pretty young, give it some time. Maybe a lil bit later in life her mind will change.
2006-09-20 18:09:39 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is letting you down easy. If a girl is interested in you, they tend to go out of there way to make sure u know. Its very easy to get mixed signals from women. Keep ur head up and move on to the next.
2006-09-20 17:50:59 · answer #3 · answered by freak_oftheindustry 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
brother keep your friendship with her intact, cause girlfriends,will come and go but a girl that is your friend is a rare a truegift that you should not take lightly, she will be there to support you through all the other girls that break your heart and confuse you to the point of mental and emotional collapse, so hang on young brother,and appriciate what you have in her not what you want to put in her . know what i mean my man? good luck! ;-)
2006-09-20 17:52:17 · answer #4 · answered by chris w 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
WELL GIRLS CAN BE VERY FICKLE, ESPECIALLY SINCE SHE IS ONLY 13. SHE DOESN'T REALLY KNOW WHAT SHE WANTS. THE BEST THING TO DO IS BE THERE FOR HER, BE A GOOD FRIEND AND JUST SEE WHAT HAPPENS. IF IT IS MEANT TO BE IT WILL HAPPEN. BUT TRULY YOU HAVE YEARS AND YEARS TO WORRY ABOUT THINGS LIKE THIS. RIGHT NOW YOU SHOULD FOCUS ON SCHOOL AND SPORTS (IF YOU PLAY ANY) AND NOT WORRY ABOUT SILLY GIRLS.
2006-09-20 17:54:49 · answer #5 · answered by CHERYL 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she was letting you down easy and the reason she seems closer now is because she doesn't feel like she has to worry about telling you no anymore.
2006-09-20 18:13:11 · answer #6 · answered by Sippy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first your only 13 and 15 youve got lots of time to get to know each other dont rush it .
2006-09-20 18:00:39 · answer #7 · answered by donna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yet again you post this. *Sigh*
Listen to reason before I find you and kick you in the *** myself!
First thing she is to young!
Second you are to young!
Third "GET OVER IT ALREADY"!
Fourth GET OUT OF YOUR HOUSE AWAY FROM THE COMPUTER AND DO SOMETHING ELSE OTHER THEN THINK OF HER!!!!!
Hope this helps a little more then last time you posted, the time before that, the time before that and the time before that, etc, etc, etc. Hell get a life already.
2006-09-20 17:55:27 · answer #8 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To the guy before: The person said it was a long question before hand. you didn't have to reply asshole!!!
As for the advice she's too young.
2006-09-20 17:48:51 · answer #9 · answered by pezzle9 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I just love these complicated ridiculously-long, meandering, single-sentence questions that no one can possibly answer! How the hell can we offer any kind of reasonably good response when we have no idea about the situation?
Thank god there is a character limit, or we have to read even more of this pathetic tale.
2006-09-20 17:46:01 · answer #10 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋