Why emotional dependance? Why a better half? Why does loneliness exist? Why a strangely unassuming bond? Why call it love when its just a series of neural growth explosions? Why search for unconditional love from another?
LOL - It's just that I feel that this one thing clouds my judgement at times - In my line of work, emotions, take the back seat and its always clarity, perception and alertness that matters.
Looking forward to seeing an answer that actually takes the prize and I hope your responses are atleast a little well thought over.
2006-09-20 09:58:48 · 8 answers · asked by T-Rex 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I believe that not all people need to find another person to be with. My Great uncle is a Happy old Bachelor and loving life. There is a sense of freedom he says in being on your own that young married adults will never feel and that is why there are so many divorces at a younger age. I believe that this is also the cause of many middle age divorces the thrill of the sense of freedom when the kids "leave the nest" is overwhelming as well as retirement. You end up finding out that during the hassle and bussle of life you don't actually know the person who shares your bed. So if you can I suggest that you steer clear of 'Love"
2006-09-20 10:07:49 · answer #1 · answered by blue_dragoness5695 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can see where you are coming from. Love can be so tricky and at times so emotionally exhausting.
Yet when there is no one in our lives as a partner we feel so very alone.
I seriously feel that the aspect and motive of love these days is so twisted. I mean WHAT IS LOVE? It seems that some people have there own termonolgy of love and what it consists of.
The other day my friend and I were discussing this very topic.
I feel that we NEED someone in our lives because we want someone to be there in everyway that possibly a mother or father could not. For example, you can tell your partner you deepest or scariest secrets and have 100% faith that they will stand behind you, comfort you and keep you secret hidden from others. And you also want someone that will not judge you because they know maybe exactly where you are coming from in life.
I do agree that love can be blinding and have an effect on our everyday lives. But without love who are we??
I do not know if I am exactly answering your question....but after viewing a few questions out there, I felt an urge to try and shed some view points on this topic.
There are days that I wish NO one would love me, simply because of the obligations that come with it.
But when you sit down and take a moment to really view your life and think of the people that really love or loved you.....would you really wish to have never experienced that??
Hope you find what you are looking for.....and I too.
2006-09-20 10:20:28 · answer #2 · answered by midnitestar82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not emotional dependence, nor is neural growth explosions (whatever that might signify). Love is a lasting commitment to another human being. It is not a better half; it is not a half at all; it is an addition to an already strong whole. Emotion is use to express love, but it isn't love. Love does not complete a person it expands them. If you are not complete/whole, you shouldn't be looking for love because you don't have any to give.
2006-09-20 10:05:32 · answer #3 · answered by Answergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are mystical....wow, I'm very impressed. For someone who would seem to not believe.....if we take a closer look, you truly do believe in love. It seems to me that you don't know how smart you really are? But maybe you do. I was like you once. Somebody once told me that I had a wall around my heart and that it was there, because no one strong enough broke it. I've had that wall removed for almost 3 years now. But people like me and you are only happy when we are miserable. So don't change right away, just wait 'till you have some one to change for. Give them a hard hat and have them help remove your wall:) Good Luck!
2006-09-20 10:11:08 · answer #4 · answered by josiedickelman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you mean. Love seems to screw things up for me too. When I'm not in love or just recently broken up with someone the thought of going back to that scares the pants off of me. But what happens is that love finds you. I dont go looking for it that for sure, it just happens and there is nothing I can do about it.
2006-09-20 10:02:21 · answer #5 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are actually seeking for partnership ....I think one should seek friendship first and then fall in love, then you would have seen your friend in a clear state , not a fuzzy tainted love shape....then hopefully it will grow. However taking this way has its downside, your friend might be frustrated and go out and fall for someone and worse, commit to that person. One might try to make this ill fated match work ...will each of you suffer......love is complex..it is what makes you happy and sad ..it is what makes you fight or not ....it is what makes you human !!
2006-09-20 10:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by kydexa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mind is clouded alright... I hardly understand the question.
If you are pondering about human the origin of human emotions, read "The Evolution of Human Consciousness" (I think it is the title) by Carl Sagan. There you start right at the beginning, from the origin of primal, subconscious fears to human reactions...
2006-09-20 10:03:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mostly brood over the first part of you question: interrogation marks & denial, then again sometimes I just feel like relaxing & enjoying the momment without even wondering whether it could be defined by that hackneyed word: love.
2006-09-20 10:02:16 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Lasha♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋