That being gay is a choice if they are not gay themselves? I myself am not gay but think about it... if your not gay how would you know if it were a choice or not? I really don't get it....
sorry if this offends anyone or there faith but this is a Q&A and I would like to know.
A Wiccan and Proud
-Why?
2006-09-20 09:55:55 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
People are idiots. You are whatever you are. Everything is everything. More people should mind there own business and stop worrying about who is or isn't gay.
2006-09-20 09:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You are not offending if you are truly asking, that's what this forum is all about :)
My answer is "being" gay is not a choice, we do not choose our desires. Most often they are physiologically developed or results of environment (No, I don't mean they were born to gay parents, I meant more biologically environmental ... or perhaps chemical).
What we mean by "choice" is the decision to perform the homosexual act. We believe that IS a choice, that someone can choose to be celibate rather than commit such a sin.
BTW, we also believe that alcoholics can choose not to drink, drug users can choose not to do drugs, liars can choose to tell the truth, etc. Your actions are a choice, but no one should tell you that you have a choice in the desires of your flesh. A gay person is not to blame for that. Everyone has a different vice, as we all know.
Hope that helped, sorry it was so long lol
2006-09-20 17:09:45 · answer #2 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I like the way your mind works. It is a beautiful question. I believe they want to believe it is a choice becuase if it was not a choice that would mean gays were ment to be. In a limited view believing it is a choice provides a degree of comfert many have grown used to. If its not a choice, that means people with such strange actions are in fact "normal". They then have to follow this question further. If it is not a choice and they are normal why do they exist? Becuase they exist that means God gave them a purpose doesn't it? If they have a purpose what is it...
They choose to believe it is a choice, becuase they have no interest in the answers to all the other questions that go with believing it is not a choice.
Hails to the truth,
Silence
2006-09-20 17:41:17 · answer #3 · answered by Silent One 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think for some people being gay is a choice. A knew a guy who wasn't gay then suddenly changed his mind when he was at school, everyone agreed it was an attention seeking thing. That having been said i think some people are born attracted to the same sex. Its something i don't understand therefore i don't judge.
2006-09-20 16:59:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hey, I was gay, and it was my CHOICE.
You will discover the following FACTS:
1)For some strange genetic reason, the 5th or 6th male of all the same sibblings have a tendency to be gay.
2)The "straights" cover the entire spectrum of life. Gays occupy the following: (These are GENERALITYS, NOT FOR SPECIFIC PEOPLE)
A) The average gay has at least a 4 year degree, usually in something high tech.
B) The average gay is single.
C)The average gay has multiple partners, (vs a straights usually single partner)
D) Gays normally are in higher income brackets, making 50,000 or more per year.
E) People make the CHOICE of what goes up their butts or what goes in their mouths right? Don't believe me? Try getting a 3 year old to eat brussel sprouts!
F)Gays usually have had some kind of serious emotional trauma with memebers of the opposite sex- the emotional backlash is being gay or possibly bi.
G)Interesting that Gays who like to talk to kids in high school sex education about being gay become militantly intolerant when GAYS WHO HAVE GONE STRAIGHT are brought in to talk.
H) Stastically only roughly 3% of the population is gay.
Now, these are facts, and are documented.
2006-09-20 17:05:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
That's true; unless you have personal experience, you can't know if being gay is a choice or not.
I think it's because the majority of the anti-gay people are Christians, and they believe that their God is against homosexuality. Therefore, it must be a choice, because their God would never make people gay (and thus disobeying his laws just by being born).
Personally, I believe that people are born gay. I don't believe many people would choose such a life, just because it's hard to be gay.
Hope this helps!
2006-09-20 16:58:18 · answer #6 · answered by rita_alabama 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Im not gay so do not understand how someone can be attracted to the same sex,but i dont think they choose that way of life otherwise we would all have that same choice,and not a certain few.
2006-09-20 17:04:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They prefer to think of homosexuality as a choice, since if one were born gay, that might seem to imply that God meant it to be so, whereas "choosing to be gay" can be likened to "choosing to steal a car" or some other willful disobedience.
It's silly and dishonest, of course.
I cannot name the exact year, day, hour, and minute that I chose to be heterosexual because I never made such a choice. I was born with a predisposition to be heterosexual, as gay people were born with a predisposition to homosexuality and bisexuals for bisexuality.
2006-09-20 17:03:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it is a bit more complex than just a simple choice. I guess these people forget what they went thru during puberty, when hormones became the forefront of thought and what attracted them to the opposite sex. They can't apply that to someone who is attracted to one of the same sex. Since they can't conceive of having sex with someone of the same sex, they think the homosexuals could only have chosen to be that way. They ignore all valid reasons for it.
It's sad, really. Those are the same people who expect others to be open-minded enough to listen to them about their beliefs and feelings but can't bring themselves to do the same for others.
Pagan
2006-09-20 19:13:02 · answer #9 · answered by Kithy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...because every situation we are faced with demands a choice on our part - either to act on it or not to act on it. Eventually we will have to answer for the choices we decided to make to the One who created us and will eventually judge us. It is ours to decide - "free will"- but just because we think it is a good thing in our own minds doesn't necessarily mean it is the right thing. And even if you decide that you don't like the idea of God, or that He has any say in anything, doesn't change the outcome. God will stay God, regardless of whether we like it or not.
So - bottom line - we can decide to act on our "feelings" and impulses, or not - our choice. Just be aware of how God views it.
2006-09-20 17:12:46 · answer #10 · answered by Irishgal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I agree with you.
I don't think people would make a choice to be gay especially since there are so many issues they have to deal with that non-gays don't - hate crimes, non recognition of same-sex marriages, the social stigma that is still noticeable and being accepted by friends and families.
I think it is nature not nurture - there has been enought evidences among animal behaviour to establish that same sex relationship do exist (and in harmony) among animals - if animals can be so tolerant, why don't we humans learn from them?
2006-09-20 17:01:08 · answer #11 · answered by estee06 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋