He is disrespectful, childish, does not listen to anyone, does what he wants when he wants it, gets angry when disciplined.......goes to school but fails half the subjects, does not seem to care about anything or anyone........has a twin sister but hates her and fights constantly using abusive verbal insults.......Have taken him to counselling with no avail...........
2006-09-20 09:16:58 · 25 answers · asked by T 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know I have written rubbish before but this is important:
16 years is a very troubling age. A wrong move and your son can slip into the prison. You must find who is the dominant figure in his life, whether he is member of a gang. Your son is at age where he looks up to someone, respects someone or fears someone.
If you know a local cop, getting that person to drum some sense into your son might be a good idea.
A visit to a prison might also (just visiting).
Or the other thing is that your son just wants some space. Talk to him, show him love and find out what's wrong.
2006-09-21 00:18:05 · answer #1 · answered by Razor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where's his father?? What does he say about all of this? He's possible acting out because he has anger issues about something either happening in his life that you're unaware of or potentially the lack of something (??) Sorry Psych 101. I would definitely get his father involved in the solution (and discipline) maybe he'll listen to him more than you (some boys do). If he's not in the picture... perhaps that's the prob.
Counseling is never a bad option (it makes it difficult if he's not cooperating though).
Best wishes.
2006-09-20 09:33:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A couple of questions; do you and your son ever have moments where you think he might be listening to you. Are there any lines of communication open at all, I have a thirteen year old who was the same way until recently. Don't get me wrong he is still an a**, but he listens occasionally. If you get him alone will he talk to you,
I am also in agreement with the physical abuse thing, my parents would have beat me senseless had I acted like he did.
That's why I didn't.
2006-09-20 09:25:38 · answer #3 · answered by Becky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is all normal for teenage boys, most of that start when they are about 13 Yrs. and last till they are about 17teen or even 18teen. They usually are this way . Keep telling him that no one appreciates he's behavior and yes, taking him to counsel ling is a good . My son was this way and ,now, he's in college loves it . because they treat him like an adult. He did all t,he things yours was doing and evening drinking and his Buddy's were the same way also. It was all being a teenager and trying to fit in with the other kids. I even went to the school counsel and had him talk with my son . It did help some. I really wish you luck. I know what you are going thru......
2006-09-20 09:37:57 · answer #4 · answered by Becca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Military Academy
2006-09-20 09:31:29 · answer #5 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've tried the normal "recommended" ways to resolve the behavior to no avail. 1st, if the father is involved, then he needs to be the reinforcement behind your authority. 2nd, I'd take away his desires and only give him his needs. (Desires are phone time, video games, time outside the house, T.V./Cable, etc..). With the desired things in the closet or at another family member's house, he'd receive his privileges only on the "earn system" - You do what I want/say and you receive privileges accordingly... If that doesn't resolve the problem then you may have to have "tough love", meaning, at 18 you're out of my house and care, if you're grown enough to revolt and disobey, then you'd want to be grown enough to care for yourself..
2006-09-20 09:31:28 · answer #6 · answered by Keith C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about boot camp or scared straight tactics? Are you being too passive with him? You need to lay ground rules and stick to them even if he gets mad. Show him what his life will be like if he keeps up his lifestyle. You need to bring out the big guns and get him into some kind of boot camp. That will make him realize how good he has it with you and help him maintain his anger.
2006-09-20 09:21:01 · answer #7 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut him loose, and let him know that the only way he can come back is if he follows a structure you put in place for him. If he still won't listen boarding school. If he still won't listen, don't worry its no longer your problem he's making his own choices.
Speaking from experience.
2006-09-20 09:20:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to start making consequences for his behavior. If he just gets away with it there is no motivation to change. Take things away or dont buy new things. Dont let him start process on getting a drivers license. Hit him where it hurts for a teenager.
2006-09-20 09:20:08 · answer #9 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Military School!
2006-09-20 09:18:50 · answer #10 · answered by Robin A. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋