i feel like i'm never being taken seriously because i'm a blond with big boobs...?

Question

i'm not really interested in a long term relationship, and i do enjoy the attention and other benefits, that i'm receiving. but i'm 17 and sometimes it's weird tht i'm making out with much older guys, and i'm never considered more then a one night stand. if i dye my hair and dress less provocatively, would it help?

Answer 1

i hear you on that one for sure...it sucks being blond with big boobs

Answer 2

So, the fact that YOU put yourself out there like that with the clothes, and letting men one-night stand you, would give you no indication that most people that give you this attention don't respect you?

Have you noticed that Pamela Anderson has never been nominated for an academy award or an Emmy?

I know people with both (blond hair & big boobs). And they're taken very seriously because they carry themselves in a way that they don't look like "I look good enuf to lay, but not to stay"

You can still accentuate your positives without looking like you just came off the street corner.

As you can see, I'm using qute a few big words to show you that you can be taken seriously (if this question was serious) because I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt that you have some a semblance of intelligence to get what I'm saying here.

Answer 3

You don't need to do that. Treat yourself with more respect and don't make out with the guy on the first date. That way if he wants some he'll have to keep coming back. Don't give into your temptations because though you may feel loved in the moment you'll feel horrible when its all said and done and yet another guy leaves you in the dirt. I was once a blond in your situation and I learned something very valuable. You are underestimated but that doesn't mean that you deserve to be. Let them think you don't know whats going on because people everyday all around you are giving you more information than they would otherwise. And this, my blond friend, you can use to your greatest advantage. Instead of looking at this as a hindrance, use it! Let those doors fall open in front of you, but use your brain. After awhile those people will learn a lesson also, that you are not to be taken lightly. That you are smarter than they gave you credit for and that you were the one they should have been watching out for. You're more than a pretty face and a figure to be envied and they'll all see that eventually. But don't change yourself for others. Change only if it would make you happy.

Answer 4

It's no wonder you feel that way come on you are making out with older guys what like 10 years or more older than you. What do you expect them to think of you. All you are to them is a one night stand because maybe they have to get to their wives and children at home and you are nothing, but just a young girl who reminds them of when they were younger, you are just there to make them feel good about themselves especially if they are going on 30. Dressing less provocatively would help because the way you treat yourself is the way men look at you. If you are going to go around and dressing all provocative to get attention then you are looking for attention from the wrong guys. Because to get a respectable guy you don't need to do all that.

Answer 5

I don't think it's the hair. Maybe the fact that you do dress provocatively for your age. Men tend to respect the women who respect themselves & wanna just sleep with the ones who don't. Then again some men don't care & wanna sleep with anything that has a pulse. If you're not that interested in a long term relationship maybe you should have friendships for now. Do you show there is more to you than your looks? If that is the only thing you work off of that is what they will see you for. Get some depth to you. If you have it already show it.

Answer 6

No... quit putting out and then guys won't think you are a slut.... and yes dressing less provocatively would help also... Dressing like that is going to give some guy the wrong impression and they are going to end up hurting you..... but what do I know I am just a good looking brunette with big boobs that dresses like a lady....

Answer 7

You will never be taken seriously until you take yourself serious . You are 17 and having fun what is there to be serious about ? Changing your looks wont help changing your character will . How do you expect to be taken seriously when what it sounds like you put into a relationship is so shallow . The reason older Guys go for you is for that reason alone , so when they are done with you they can go home to their wives you know the serious woman in there life .

Answer 8

if you are a hot babe, you will always be a hot babe. Even if you dye your hair black. We men are dickheads, we are :-).

However, where I work, the clever ones be careful what to wear, and wear jumpers instead of button shirts and v necks. We still pick on the sexual nuances (some females ooze sexual attraction with every breath they take - sorry for being crass about this) but it doesnt drive our willies nuts and some of us can manage not to make complete arses of ourselves.

Being a b i t c h helps, especially once you land a man that you realise respects women despite what they look like, while of course appreciating what he has.

Answer 9

Yes. Try reducing your boobs size, dying your hair black and wear glasses. If you're serious that is. The short-term attention you're getting replaces your need to have a real personality and sacrifices your development of real character over the long term. It leads to serious personality flaws and a misconception of what a real relationship is about.

Answer 10

not really. I'm a brunette with big boobs and at 46, I STILL have trouble getting men to look me in the eye (although, I must admit, it's easier than it used to be). Just remember it's negative attention, demeaning to your intelligence. We should be able to dress the way we want without fear of "stereotyping".....but unfortunately, that is not always the case. Carry yourself with pride, don't exploit your looks, and take no crap. MAKE them look you in the eye, if you have to say "Hey, they're not gonna answer you, I'M up HERE"

Answer 11

for a young girl like you, I would have to say that you seem very intelligent and well spoken. I am so sorry that the creeps in your school are only noticing you for your physicality. Keep up the good work and you will go places my dear and make lots of money, don't sweat the small stuff because you are doing just fine!