me and my hubby have been married over 1 year, im 27 and he's 29. we both want kids but he still says he wants to wait. i feel that we both have great jobs, have traveled, and are ready, or, at least i am... what should I do? I really want to start. what if we have problems when we do want to start, or the timing then is not right!... please some ADVICE!
2006-09-20 09:08:38 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
This is a tough situation. My hubby and I went through this in deciding to have another one (me - 35 and he - 44) There is always an excuse like money, time, being tied down. If we all waited until we had enough money to have children, we would never get to it! As far as time, you'll make the time. Once you see that beautiful face looking at you; needing you, wild horses won't keep you from that child!
And you are only "tied down" if you want to be. You can still travel and do many things with children. Often times, you appreciate those activities more because you are sharing the experiences with others you love.
I can't tell you what to do, but by having some answers or responses to the same old reasons he gives may help. I know it worked for me. . . We are working on having another and both enjoying the closeness between us. Not just in the physical, but the emotional closeness.
Part of that is because we finally got our feelings out and we understand where the other is coming from. Let him know how important it is to you, but no ultimatums. That will only push him away. Listen to your heart and the right words will come.
Do keep in mind that it can take some time to get pregnant. It doesn't always happen in the first month of trying. Furthermore, you have 8 to 9 months to mentally prepare after you concieve before the baby comes. This will give you and he more time to get used to the idea.
I wish you the best of luck.
2006-09-20 09:38:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it all depends on way he wants to wait to have a baby. From personal experience I can tell you there is never a good time. I would tell him to keep in mind that the longer you wait the older you will be when they are grown. My husband is the youngest of six children and although his parents were amazing parents he missed out on the activities his brothers and sisters enjoyed cause his dad was too old to do as much with him. While his older siblings went hunting, and had their dad coach their little league teams he didn't get to experience that. He feels like he missed out on a lot simply cause his dad was too old. It took a long time foe him to understand why he didn't get the same experiences as his other siblings and he has vowed to have children young so our kids can enjoy the time with him. PS- I am twenty two and we are eight months pregnant with our second. :)
2006-09-20 16:18:53 · answer #2 · answered by Erin B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some hard advice , I'm 45 and just left my wife because of that same situation . She kept telling me to wait , then out of the blue last year she said she wanted her tubes tied. I still want a baby so I left!
2006-09-20 16:11:44 · answer #3 · answered by schlongy1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure all systems are go! We tried for our first baby, only to discover we had fertility problems and that can take years to correct. Make sure hubby is serious, maybe you should hook up with Shlongy~!
2006-09-20 16:23:25 · answer #4 · answered by dogriver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋