2006-09-20 09:05:19 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
ummm yea just a tad : / why dont you adopt one? hmm let me guess your pro - life? am i right? ilmao sad
2006-09-20 09:07:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
You're not too old, but you will be considered high risk just because of your age. Women past 35 oftenhave more problems with secondary infertility. You will be at higher risk for miscarriage, complications during pregnancy and during delivery, as well as an increased risk for a child with Downe's. If you can follow the advice of your dr...including keeping a sane schedule, resting and eating well..and are prepared to face any of the above challanges then go for it But be sure that is what you really want. YOu have two kids who can basically take care of themselves, don't wake up three times a night, don't follow you into the bathroom and give you a lot more freedom (both emotionally, time wise and financially) than you;ll have if you start over again. I was pregnant unexpectedly this year and while we were overjoyed, it was also overwhelming to realize how much my freedom was going to be affected. I ended up losing the babies (twins) at week 12. It has been a long recovery..physically and emotionally..but I realize now that it is ok.
Take some time to really talk about this..with your husband and your dr. and then decide. Whatever you choose, have fun with your new marriage and the next adventure!
2006-09-20 18:08:47 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that. Personally, I have 3 girls (16 months, 3 years, and 7 1/2 years) and turn 35 next month. I'd love to have a boy too, but I can't imagine having another baby now, as most days I feel like I am 90 (haven't had a good nights sleep in 3 1/2 years). However, I refuse to get my tubes tied. You never know what will come down the road later. I may change my mind. If you (and your husband) feel you really want a baby, you are healthy, you have the finances to comfortably raise another child, and most importantly you have the love and energy to care for the child- then go for it! Good luck!
2006-09-20 21:54:11 · answer #3 · answered by teacher/mother 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you're healthy in body and in your marital relationship, you certainly are NOT too old. As someone who had kids in my early 20s and in my very late 30s, I can tell you there's a lot to be said for having kids later. You're no longer in such a rush about everything, don't have the need to do everything perfectly, and because you've been around the block a little more, you know how quickly time flies and those little moments will never be had again, so you tend to treasure the small, precious moments more and stop and smell the roses with your kids more than you did the first time around. Plus, it's good for your teens because they have a chance to enjoy pseudo-parenting a little bit without having to assume full responsibility. Also, seeing firsthand how much work a baby is will probably do more as a birth control device than anything science has come up with to date!
2006-09-20 16:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by Trina P 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so, if that's what you really want. I'm 41 and at 37 I would not have wanted another baby, but that's just me. Have to admit I am looking forward to my kids having kids so I can be a Grandma, but they're 21 and 14 so I don't want this for at least 10 years if not more.
2006-09-20 17:58:21 · answer #5 · answered by Special Ethel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are trade-offs for having a child later in life. You may not have the energy level of a 20 year old, but you'll have patience. You'll have to work a little harder to be tuned into the latest trends, because you no longer need to keep up with the Joneses. But you're at the age to truly teach self acceptance. In short, you are probably better equipped emotionally to be a parent than you were in your 20's.
2006-09-20 17:11:12 · answer #6 · answered by mediahoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not to old you just have to talk to your doctor first to make sure that everything is still healthy and remember that with a man over 35 years he is much more likely to have autistic children, but the doctors will watch for that. A lot of people your age are having perfectly healthy little babies. Good luck and God bless.
2006-09-20 17:18:35 · answer #7 · answered by Sippy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A highly regarded study found that fathers close in age to 40 are 6 times more likely to have a child with autism. Autism is already diagnosed in 160 out of every 1000 kids.
2006-09-20 16:09:26 · answer #8 · answered by tatufreak1996 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you mentally ready for another child? Have you talked about it with your husband? Are you financially stable enough to put your current children through college? The risk of birth defects increases dramatically after age 35, so I'd talk about it with my doctor if the answers to the above questions are yes. I think a woman can be a wonderful mother at any age. Have you considered adopting? If you are wanting a little one, but decide not to go through with it, remember that you may have grandchildren to spoil in the next few years.
2006-09-20 16:11:13 · answer #9 · answered by morecowbelljim 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are not too old to have a baby but you may be running out of healthy eggs. Studies show the older you are the higher the risk of having a down's baby or baby with other complications.
Go for it if your family is stable and financially responsible! There are plenty of good doctors and good studies out there to support you.
2006-09-20 16:07:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
NO your not too old I am 36 and have a 16yr old a6yr old and 10mth old and my husband is 41 yrs old go for it just remember there will be no free time for a while if ya have any questions ya want to ask me e-mail me
Lori
2006-09-20 16:10:52 · answer #11 · answered by lspalletta 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋