YOU WERE WITH A BOY BEFORE, BUT HE WOULD NOT DO ANYTHING AFFECTIONATE IN PUBLIC SO YOU DUMPED HIM AND GOT WITH SOMEONE WHO IS AFFECTONATE ALL THE TIME. I MEAN MY EX WOULD NOT HOLD MY HAND IN PUBLIC, OF KISS OR HUG ME. BUT MY CURRENT BOYFRIEND WILL DO ANYTHING, HE IS ALWAYS HOLDING ME AND ALWYAYS KIND TO ME. BUT MY EX IS JEALOUS NOW. I NEVER WANTED TO CAUSE ANY BAD FEELINGS BETWEEN ME AND HIM BUT HE JUST COULD NOT UNDERSTAND HOW MUCH THAT HE HURT ME. I TRY TO EXPLAINT TO HIM THAT HE UPSET ME ALOT BY THIS BUT HE IS TRYING TO PUT ALL THE BLAME ON ME AND TOLD ME THAT I WAS NOT BEING FAIR. I JUST FELT HE WAS ASHAMED OF ME, EVEN THOUGH IM NOT UGLY AT ALL. I AM REALLY HAPPY WITH THIS GUY. WHAT SHOULD I TELL MY EX HE KEEPS RINGING ME EVEN THOUGH I HAVE TOLD HIM I DONT WANT HIM BACK, HE WANTS TO KNOW WHY I DUMPED HIM. WAS I BEING UNFAIR?
2006-09-20 09:05:05 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's pretty straightforward. You weren't happy. Now you are. What else are partners for if not to make you happy?
It sounds like you've told the old guy why you got rid of him but he just won't accept it. That is not your problem either. Tell him to stop calling you or you'll contact the police.
It's bad enough that he made you miserable while you were together... he has no right to do it after you split up!
2006-09-20 09:09:52 · answer #1 · answered by Doctor Why 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. You were not 'affectionately compatible' and therefore parting was inevitable. You are in a new relationship and shouldn't even bother justifying the past to your ex. I am sure when you dumped him you gave him some kind of an explanation as to why he was about to become an ex, so he now has absolutely no reason to phone you. Just ignore him. He'll get over it. Stop worrying, enjoy the company of your new man that you obviously mean a lot to.
2006-09-20 16:12:30 · answer #2 · answered by ribena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's being childish. As for your reason for dumping him - "WOULD NOT DO ANYTHING AFFECTIONATE IN PUBLIC", hardly justifies as a serious offence. I mean he might be too shy to show his affection in public.
Anyway, relationship is a two way thing, if you are happier with your new partner, then your ex has no right to be so obsessive.
Perhaps you need to talk to him, he might be confused. Be a bit philosophical, say life must go on etc.
2006-09-20 16:14:46 · answer #3 · answered by netwalker01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being tactile, and showing people that you are enjoying being with someone is very much an important part of a rleationship. You were right to want that, and you were right to dump your ex if you did not feel wanted, loved, or if you thought he might have felt embarrassed to be with you.
If you are happy now, do not justify your actions to your ex. He will only try and justify his own actions to you, make you feel bad and try to get back with you.
My advice: Steer well clear.
2006-09-20 16:35:52 · answer #4 · answered by silversilver3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your ex is upset now, I think that it means he still has feelings for you and has not moved on, but I don't think that this is unfair to him. He couldn't give you what you wanted, so why would you stay in a relationship that you were unhappy with? If he is jealous now and can't stay just friends with you, then maybe he shouldn't be in your life now. This new guy sounds great and you deserve to be happy!
2006-09-20 16:11:37 · answer #5 · answered by amerieb04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have the blame:
Tell your ex boyfriend the things he should improve in, but without insulting him.Your relationship wasn't any fun with him and you are presently going out with a boy that gives you more hopes and love.Ask him to improve for his next relationship but in the meantime, try to be just friends.
You are not being unfair, just moving to someone that understands, cares and loves you better.
Hope you solve the problem
Laura
2006-09-20 17:50:27 · answer #6 · answered by lpetela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were being totally fair to yourself....enjoy your time with this new guy. He obviously really digs ya so tell the other monkey, i mean your ex to jog on....he missed out first time around, dont be so foolish to give him a second chance. Your ex obviously has a hang up about perhaps looking like he cares about someone. What an idiot! Hope that helps with your problem....oh p.s. tell your ex to stop calling. unwanted calls are classed as harrassment.
2006-09-20 16:11:54 · answer #7 · answered by ADAM M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
>if your problem is still not solved.
if he calls you again to demand an explination. say, i liked our relationship we had list all the good things and nice things you liked.. then, list all the things you didnt like such as you were left feeling uncomfortable and hurt with him not being able to show any affection towards you in public. say this is an important thing in a relationship and you are sorry you didnt think about talking things through if you felt like this before you dumped him, thats your mistake,.but things dont always turn out the way people want them to, and now youve met someone who makes you happy. ok?? do this.
2006-09-20 17:22:12 · answer #8 · answered by M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you're not being unfair. some men just feel embarrassed to show feelings in public but if that made you feel bad then he wasn't right for you. your ex needs to get over you and move on.
2006-09-20 16:11:03 · answer #9 · answered by xxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No youre not being unfair you have to be happy in life and this new guy makes you happy and the old guy made you sad so you're well rid !!
2006-09-20 16:51:40 · answer #10 · answered by missfattyfudgecake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋