If a person stood you up a few times and have apologized, should you just keep forgiving? How should you deal with him? If the person does not even make an effort to make it up. Do you let him make the initiative for the next invitation? I don't want to get even. I just don't want to be played with.
2006-09-20 09:00:31 · 9 answers · asked by Wondering myself 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He claims that his job determines his schedule. He does not have a regular 9-5 job. There's no way for me to verify this to be true or not. I am just taking his word that this is due to his job.
2006-09-20 11:13:56 · update #1
Analyze your question. And if someone else was asking you what would say and do?
That person has made it a habit to ask you out and leave you hanging. And you keep on forgiving him. So don't fall for it next time and sure agree to go out with him, but because he is not so reliable then go out with your girls instead and when he calls you to let you know hes not coming, say "is o.k cause you were expecting that and you decided to go out instead".
And he won't do it again.
2006-09-20 09:07:29 · answer #1 · answered by latina lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a person has stood you up on numerous occassions... find a new date. To me there is nothing more disrespectful than that, it basically says that you aren't a priority. I guess it's okay for you to let them make the plans for the next attempt at getting together, but is it really worth it? They obviously shown you in the past that other things come up and are more important than calling you and cancelling. Even that would be better than a no show.
2006-09-20 16:05:04 · answer #2 · answered by kchivers-carter@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are more sticktuitive than I am. I drop someone after the first stand up unless there is some REALLY strange circumstance. If they have forgotten about it multiple times, I would guess that the person doesn't think highly enough of you to keep his promises. Show yourself some respect and drop him.
2006-09-20 16:04:14 · answer #3 · answered by renaissance_man_1981 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a fairly new person in your life ? If so then their behavior is telling me that they aren't that into you. They will spend time with you when its good for them and if something else comes up they blow you off. I wouldn't answer the next time they called.
2006-09-20 16:05:22 · answer #4 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try going on a group date first so even if they do stand you up, you won't be left all alone. talk to them about it, ask them why they do it. i can't really tell you what the physchology is, because i don't know the person, but definetly try talking to them about it, tell them how you feel. if they still continously stand you up with no excuse and no attempt at a rain check, move on, they aren't worth your precious time.
2006-09-20 16:03:49 · answer #5 · answered by umbrella journalist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they keep standing you up, consider the fact that they might have a substance problem. Cocaine users are habitual liars, for instance. I say, move on. You don't have the time and you ain't gettin' any younger.
2006-09-20 16:02:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really don't want to be played.....get in a different game. What I mean is....he isn't worth your time....go find someone that truly wants to spend time with you.....he doesn't
2006-09-20 16:04:08 · answer #7 · answered by seen-better-days 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way to not beplayed with is to not allow it!
if he calls again turn him down, even if u don't have other plans
quit being the toy my dear
2006-09-20 16:02:24 · answer #8 · answered by koleebear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then just walk away and move on with your life, cause it sure sounds like games to me.
2006-09-20 16:03:42 · answer #9 · answered by Peggy R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋