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a man will come in time.
It only scares broke men(no finances) when you have kids
Younger singled, no children having women are th scariest
They have no clue what responsibility is..
So its not your attraction level, most guys will go for a woman with kids
a) they will take better care of themselves because of the kids
b) they understand responsibility
so in time
2006-09-20 08:38:05
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answered by Xae 6
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No mean answers??? You sound like a super mom, I can tell you that, because I have 2 great kids and if dad left, I would fall apart. Congrats to you. I'm so glad that you can move on. If you're having a hard time getting a date believe this or not, but I don't think you're trying hard. If you are you're not looking in the right places. Try going to the library, a school meeting, or -dare I say- a neighborhood bar/club? You will meet a guy, when you do, don't feel obligated to tell him that you're a mom (especially if you don't look like one. lol) because guys tell lies all the time. Think about it....when you strike up a conversation, the first thing you want to be is honest, not guys. So take it easy, then if he wants to pursue it you can talk more on your first date. That way you can explain everything, but don't talk too much let him talk too:) Good Luck!
2006-09-20 08:50:28
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answered by josiedickelman 3
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Well there are several reasons why this could beand several questions you need to be asking yourself sauch as:Are you ready for a new relationship? Are you on the rebound and therefore giving out negative energy to the men you meet?Maybe you are telling them too much too soon as a result they are running a mile. Are you looking in the right places? What sort of relationship are you after, are u after a baby daddy or someone soley for you? Maybe you need a new look look, a different kinda man to what you are used to. Maybe you are looking too hard the good ones tend to come when you least expect it. Take it easy enjoy your time as a single woman and date, no strings attached that way you open yourself to new horizons and work on yourself esteem and trust issues (which will shift after a break up like yours) . Evaluate your last relationship what went wrong etc; that way you know what you want when you see it. GOOD LUCK LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS ARE A MAZE NONE OF US WILL EVER REALLY GET THE HANG OF IT.
2006-09-20 08:56:42
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answered by Anonymous
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The problem is that there are a lot of pretty good looking women out there who do not have any kids. Single guys that I know at work say that they usually end up running in the opposite direction rather than make that depth of commitment no matter how attractive the girl is. Someone is out there for you but it will be tough to connect - don't give up.
2006-09-20 08:40:19
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answered by Rich Z 7
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I'm not trying to be mean but in my opinion, I think you shouldn't be looking for a man until you're kids are grown. I mean, they've already lost their family unit and I'm sure their dad "visits" them and has turned his attention to his new girlfriend. Now they're going to lose their mom when she devotes her time to her love life? If I were you, I'd focus totally 100% on my kids. I would NOT spend any time or energy looking for a new man and all that drama. I think the poor kids have had enough of their parents' "love lives" - why add more?
Instead, I'd probably join some clubs, or get involved in my kids' school or activities, meet other moms, and build a network of great friends, rather than trying to date and all that drama. You can date when the kids are grown, but right now, don't you think the kids have had enough of their parents' fooling around with other people?
2006-09-20 08:44:04
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answered by Anonymous
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I do not believe that any fault belongs to you. I don't know how old you are, so the advice will differ pending age range, but; most guys between 21-30 are not looking for a family yet. I'm sure your kids are great, but if you are within that age range, you may want to try dating guys a little older than that and see how well it works. Most older guys don't conside the kids an issue, more of a bonus.
2006-09-20 08:43:04
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answered by Roy W 3
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I'm sorry about the cheating hubby. Where are you looking for guys? Try having friends/family hook you up with someone, maybe co-workers also. I know it's hard for a single mom with 2 great kids to find someone cause guys don't want the 'baggage'. Guys can be jerks.
2006-09-20 08:39:52
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answered by The First 3
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My guess would be the 2 kids. As you said, that scares a lot of guys away, regardless of how wonderful they are.
Give it some more time, not all guys are intimidated by the thought of a single mother. Some one out there is waiting for you to find them.
Good luck and best wishes.
2006-09-20 08:40:05
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answered by Anonymous
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I think you need to examine yourself to find the answer. There is one constant in this equation and it's YOU. I'm not saying it's a bad thing, but maybe there is some hang-up you have that's preventing you from moving forward with people. Not all guys are d*cks and treat you bad. Although, if you were with someone who treated you badly before, you are probably attracted to that type of person. Maybe you realize that and are avoiding it.
Again...look into yourself and find out what's wrong.
2006-09-20 08:39:41
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answered by Anonymous
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That is terrible. I have a friend in a similar situation. She lives in the UK where dating is maybe safer. She goes to speed dating and has started joining local groups and activities as if you are not out there you will not find anyone. She had met a nice guy, it is over now but she had some great dates with him. Don't go in looking for love as that is more scarier than your children. I believe in fate so go with it and get youself out there in respectable places to find your perfect man. Saying that i met my long term partner in a nightclub!
2006-09-20 08:40:59
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answered by Anonymous
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