when he smokes it, he is a total different person. His attitude changes and he accuses me of seeing other people and he kinda spazes out on me he'll try to make me feel like im the ugly person and all i want for him is to get help. ive even told him that he needs help and then he'll get mad and tell me "oh that's right i have a problem" and of course i do tell him yes you do have a problem and he'll get angry at me and will not talk to me and well get into a big argument and then he just wants to walk out on the marriage to me sometimes i feel that the drugs are more important than i am and it makes me feel like im doing something wrong with the marriage. CAN SOMEONE HELP ME OUT PLEEEEEAAAAASSSSEEEE!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-20 08:27:27 · 33 answers · asked by Isa L 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
My husband is in prison due to past drug use. He has been clean for a long time, even before he went back. He knows if he went back to the drugs like he did when he was a teenager, I would leave him. Unless he relapsed and is trying to get the issue resolved, I'll help him through the issues.
I do not need or want to have to deal with the issues with a drug addiction in my life. It is something I would not be able to tolerate. Not only it's damaging to their bodies, it ruins families, jobs, finances and it's against the law.
You are not the one with the problem, but because of his issues, it is problem for you and it is a serious and legitimate issue. If he does not want help, you could try drug intervention program. There should be a few different ones offered in your state.
Remember, you cannot control or change another person. You can change your life and have the right to be happy. Sometimes we have to make a tough decision in order to keep ourselves in line.
2006-09-20 08:41:15 · answer #1 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Eek, sounds like you have a real problem here and I can really sympathize. It's good of you to reach out though -- even if it's anonomously through the internet. Look, all I can say is that smoking crack is NOT OKAY UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES. I'm no angel and have done lots of different things at differnt points in my life, but crack is one of the most addictive substanced known to man and the act of smoking it even once means yes, he has a problem. The important thing to realize is that YOU ARE NOT WRONG TO FEEL THIS WAY, even if he can manipulate you into thinking that you're just overreacting or being a boring wife or being a b*tch. I can't tell you what to do, but if it was me, I would just come right out and say that he's not welcome back in your home until he is willing to get some help for his problem. I know it sounds harsh, but this is a pretty major problem and you have to protect YOURSELF before you can worry about your marriage. I'm not sure if you have kids -- but that would be even worse for them. Trust yourself. Trust your own conscience and good sense. You KNOW this is not ok or you wouldn't be posting here. You are absolutely NOT WRONG here. Good luck!!!!
2006-09-20 09:58:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-20 01:11:51 · answer #3 · answered by Marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have almost the same problem with my girlfriend O, we have been together for over 9 years, she is sneaking cocaine behind my back. I've caught her at least 3 times but she will deny it. She has a problem and will not listen to anything I suggest. Well i told her that if she does not stop I will leave her, even if it hurts me very bad, Intervention and Rehab sounds great but unless the person wants to stop it is a waste of time. You may have to give him a shot of reality LEAVE HIM let him know you meen business, and i do know how it hurts. Its your choice but if you really love him them make a point. Because if he continues its just going to get worse and alot can happen including you going to jail or if you have children together child services will take the kids and you have to much to say unless you can prove that you are clean. hope this helps Good luck
2006-09-20 08:44:03 · answer #4 · answered by cooterhead1964 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is a bad situation, first off you need to support your husband and get him help (no matter how you get it). No child needs to be in that kind of enviroment. There is a possibility of his sperm being effected by it, but chances of you having a normal child is very high especially when you do not do any of that. Birth defects from the sperm are unlikely in that situation usually from what i hear it can effect the mans sperm count and things like that. But I wouldn't be too concerned, just take care of yourself. Talk further about this with your doctor, they can explain more. Also look it up on the internet do some research.
2016-03-17 23:18:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay here goes... 20 years ago i too was addicted to the crack and the demons it came with. No one and nothing was as important to me as the drug. I lost my family, my job, children, and all self worth. I lived for my next hit, nothing else. I lost over 80 pounds in 3 months, becoming a litteral skeleton. I finally got off the crack when i woke up sleeping on the beach, alone and with no home! I can honestly say to this day it is the one time in my life i truly regret, stupidity...weakness...yes to both. This drug is the devil itself! Your husband won't quit because you want him to, he will lose everything important in his life first. He knows it is bad, he knows he has a problem, but he won't stop until he is ready to find help. You are not the Problem! You are not to blame! Walk away, but be there for him when he is ready to find help, if you truly love him. God bless.
2006-09-20 08:43:31 · answer #6 · answered by Ducky 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
On crack he is incapable of rational thought, he is right about one thing you do have a problem, him, and you must get rid of him before he brings you down with him and it is in his own interest to get you hooked too. you have tried to help him and he did not want to know, now run like hell and get the life you deserve. You will not be deserting him, he has long since deserted himself and you. You might try looking up a drugs help clinic for proper professional advice, remember he is probably extremely paranoid so be careful. Good Luck.
2006-09-20 08:45:24 · answer #7 · answered by guzzler 1 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all i will tell you that there is nothing that you can do for him. If you want him to get better he has to do it himself. I went through this with my husband and fortunatlly he stopped on his own, but it took me leaving him first. crack is so addictive more than you know they have to have it and the withdraws are something horrible. just pray to God for guidence and seek help for yourself, it is not you do you understand that? you are not at fault for this. He has gotten himself into something that you just can not get out of by stopping. I am very sorry that you are going thru this but you are not alone you should try to find a self help group that deals with this kind of situation. Good Luck and remember to pray it really does help ease your mind at least.
2006-09-20 08:42:11 · answer #8 · answered by twinki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
crack is serious! and usually they don't realize they need help until they hit bottom. This is affecting you not only emotionally but physically. what if you want to have kids you would never want your kids to be around him. And this habit is not cheap. I worked with teenagers that had drug addictions as a intern and its sad. Its easy to say leave him but he's your husband. but when he is not high you need to have a straight forward conversation with him and kinda let him know you mean business.
2006-09-20 08:33:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if he won't get help, you need to move on. If he's not willing to go to treatment, he IS making the drug more important than you and your relationship. Suggest rehad and marriage counseling and be FIRM. If he won't go for it, maybe you need to get out before he gets violent. Crack makes people really unstable. Good luck to you!
2006-09-20 08:38:46 · answer #10 · answered by mygooeygumdrop 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋