what do people really think of teenage parents?

Answer 1

i found out i was pregnant when i was 15,my family supported me so much,i fed my baby each time,fed her,changed and never once asked for help.i always say the same thing,it was a mistake getting pregnant,but not a mistake deciding to go ahead with the pregnancy.i have 4 children now,and i love them all so much,but through personal experience,i would try to advise any girl under 16yrs of age,it isnt easy,its damn bloody hard,its not a 9-5 job,its 24hrs a day,7 days a wk,and to all those narrow minded people out there,i got a job and became a qualfied care assistant,and no i didnt get a house,and money,i had to live with mum,and received £17 a week,a long hard struggle,but worth it.

Answer 2

Well, after reading all the comments, opinions differ greatly. As a former teenage parent, it was very difficult. I became pregnant at 15 yrs of age. Now 35 yrs old, teenage pregnancy back then was rare and you were a disgrace. I dropped out of High School, received my GED and got a job to support my child. I grew up quickly! Now I am an Early Childhood Educator with three wonderful children, the oldest in college, the second a Senior at a College Prep. School with a GPA of a 3.8 and a wonderful 8th grader. My parents did not teach me to be a responsible young adult; I do not regret my early pregnancy, but it was hard going to college with a young child, being a disgrace, losing all of whom I thought were friends and growing up rapidly. Please, think about what you are doing and be responsible. Remember, you are bringing a life into this world that deserves every opportunity out there.

Answer 3

I dont think a teenager is ready for the responsiblity of a child. It takes lots of work and lots of patients. A teenager should be having fun and being a kid. They shouldnt have to worry about a baby, but I know there are teenage parents out there. Just because they are a teenager doesn't automatically mean they are a bad parent. I applaued those who suck it up and take on the responsiblity if it comes, accidents happen. I dont think that a teenager should purposely get pregnant.

Answer 4

i was a teenage mum i found people (most) were fine but some are stuck in old ways where i live the youngest parent has just turned 16 and people give her an awful life she goes to school goes home minds her child puts her to bed and then goes to work for 6 hours 7 nites a week to support them shes got her priorities in order but there is a group of 16/17 year olds who all have kids and get social welfare payments and sit on there asses and go drinking every nite and no one thinks there's anything wrong with that people need to look before opening there mouths this girl might be young but at least shes taking care of her kid not like the others

Answer 5

I had such a wonderful time as a teenager, lots of going out, growing up and self discovery, that I think its very sad that someone would miss out on that!!

Plus an awful lot of teenage parents aren't adult enough or responsible enough to look after themselves, let alone a child!!

Having said that one of my best friends became a mother at 17 and she is one of the most responsible parents I know, even tho she is 12 years younger than me I quite often ask her advise about my son because her children are so together!!

Answer 6

Knowing what I know now- 3 children later (i'm over 30) I think its a shame that they are missing out on there young life - i'm too knackered now to go out and do anything!- I wish i'd made more of my youth!!- but saying that I don't think teenagers make bad parents I just think its harder for them!
However anyone can make a mis judgement ie one child but when having children becomes a way of life and in some cases a house and income then thats wrong- I work hard to support my three children!

Answer 7

I had a child when I was twenty and looked like I was fifteen and heard many comments from many people. Personally I think that if you are a teen parent it shows a lot of responsibility. In a time when there are other options keeping and raising your child (if you get the option) is a huge step in being an adult and a great parent. It is a rare quality in people now adays to except responsibility for choices that you make. I say any teen parent I meet gets my respect and support.

Answer 8

I feel for any teen in that situation because raising a baby is a challenge for anyone of any age; but, nothing makes it more difficult than not having any money. I would hope that they had family that could or would help them so that they can continue school and go to college or get some training.
I have a few friends who became mother's at around 15/16 years old. And even though it was difficult, they are some of the VERY BEST parents I know!
If my daughter ends up a pregnant teen I would allow her to FULLY make the choice that is right for her, and they FULLY support her choice - no matter what. I would insist that finish school all the way thru college - that would be my only hard rule concerning her decision.

Answer 9

I don't want to put parents of any age down, but I never felt as a teen that I was capable of being a mom. I knew a girl who had a baby in her sophomore year of high school and she practically gave her baby to her parents. She would say things like, "I played with the baby today," as if I should be proud of her. I think if you can get pregnant you need to take care of your child, even if it means giving up your social life. I am not sure most teenagers are mature enough to make such a sacrifice. I am aware that there are very mature young women who do amazing jobs of raising their kids and very mature young men who do their part with their children, but aren't they in the minority here? It makes me sad to see that teens may have to give up their childhood too early and that the children of those teens might have to pay the price.

Answer 10

People usually think of promiscuous and irresponsible teenagers that were too stupid to use contraception and couldn't even get an education and/or vocational training and are candidates for Welfare rolls. Why? That's what happens about 99,999 times out of a 100,000 couples or thereabouts. EVERY teenage couple thinks that they are going to be the exception to the rule... until they find out what it is all about to have adult responsibilities and what making sacrifices is all about. EACH and EVERY one of the teenage kids that I met that got married (even those that got married because of unexpected pregnancies) are today divorced... NOT ONE lasted more than 5 years! NOT ONE!