my 13 month old daugter has been waking up every night, as she always has, but normally she would go back to sleep, now , she wakes up at night and is up for at least 1 hour sometimes 2, she wants to play and I don't. we lay in my bed, she just tosses and turns and then she will sit up and laugh, I lay her back down, etc.. any suggestions??
2006-09-20 08:12:57 · 32 answers · asked by mommy2mymonkeys 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I put her to bed at betwen 9:30 and 10 pm
2006-09-20 08:36:32 · update #1
Mine did that too. You have to leave them in the room alone otherwise, she'll just keep trying to get you to respond.
I found with all my kids that around this time of year, they started doing this (and also in spring). Amazingly, when the time change happens, it seems to stop. I think it has something to do with the daylight getting shorter.
You may also want to try giving her more sunlight during the day to get her internal clock back to sleeping when its dark. This worked for me!
2006-09-20 08:17:50 · answer #1 · answered by pknutson_sws 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At her age, she should be sleeping 1.5 to 2 hrs in the day and going to bed at about 7 30 or 8 and sleeping for 10 or 12 hours. If a baby doesn't sleep during the day, they get over tired and can't sleep at night. Get her into a regular routine, calm bath and maybe a story before bed, then make her stay in her room/ cot until it is morning. If she wakes in the night, go into her tell her it's sleep time, lie her down and leave. Let her cry for a while go into her again, lie her down but don't talk to her and no eye contact. Don't let her in your bed. It might take a week of sleepless nights but you will get there in the end.
2006-09-20 09:23:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter tried to do this after we let her sleep with us a few time when she had a terribly stomach problem. the best thing to do is to go get her with a cup of warm milk or formula, rock her in a rocking chair. You could try singing to her or reading a story while she drinks her milk. Keeping the mood calm and the lights low is a plus. Then when she is done her milk or asleep lay her down and leave the room. If she is awake when you lay her down and crys check her every hour or so till she stops crying. After a week she should know what to expect when you come in and will comply. Just remember when you go in keep the room calm, voices low, and the lights dim. If you can help it don't let her out of her bedroom, complete all this in her room. It took us a week and Now she sleep threw the night and if she does wake up she goes right back out no problems. This also worked with colic.
2006-09-25 15:38:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will need about 3 nights when if you don't get enough sleep, you won't cause any great harm. I would not remove her from her bed. If she is crying, go to her, be quiet, leave the lights off/dim, and quietly say it is still night time. Go back to sleep. You are OK. Make sure she is not wet/hurt/soiled etc. and leave the room. You may have to go back many times (about every 5 minutes) but HOLD TOUGH. Do not remove her from her bed. Eventually, she will put herself back to sleep and she will know you will not play with her. The first night was awful with my guys, but by the third, I only had to go in once. Good Luck!
2006-09-27 02:41:14 · answer #4 · answered by Kim S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you put her straight back in her bed and that she understands nights are for sleeping. Never ever let her think it's fun to be up at night. You can do this by being calm and not smiling or encouraging play in any way. Simply ensure there is nothing wrong and go back to bed. She will soon realise that being awake at night is boring. It worked with both my two. Sometimes it's hard but it works
2006-09-20 08:45:40 · answer #5 · answered by L'il Tree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldn't she want to do this? You are rewarding this behavior by taking her in her bed and she gets attention. If she is in a crib she can't get out of, then ignore her. You could even put a few toys in the crib after she goes to sleep at night so she will find something to play with if she wakes up, then she will fall back asleep when she's tired. Do NOT give her any attention when she wakes up in teh night. If she sleeps in your bed at night, for pete's sake get her out of there and into her own bed.
2006-09-20 12:27:08 · answer #6 · answered by toomanycommercials 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make her go to bed a little later and see if that will work. Even if it's just an hour later. It will help. Let her outside and run around and play to wear her out and she won't wake up at all during the night.
2006-09-20 08:24:52 · answer #7 · answered by allison32401 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not abnormal behavior for this age group - but it is frustrating for the parents! Just continue to do what you have been doing, go in and soothe her, say goodnight, tuck her in and leave her. She will toss and turn, sit up and giggle, but eventually she will go back to sleep. At this age, babies are bombarded with tons of sensory information and input, and sometimes their little brains work overtime trying to make sense out of things. They aren't thinking in the same way you and I are, but they are processing information in their own way. But they will get over it and return to a normal sleeping schedule. As long as she is safe in her crib, and you can hear her if she cries, (and you can go in and comfort her if that happens) just make sure she is warm and dry, then leave her alone.
I know it doesn't seem real, but in 16 or so years, you'll be the ones sitting up waiting for the baby to come home....
2006-09-20 08:24:06 · answer #8 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your daughter sleep in her own bed? My 18 month old sometimes wakes up about 3 or 4 o'clock and wants to play. We just let her play in her bed and she usually goes back to sleep on her own. We have gotten her up and tried to get her back to sleep before and it just backfired and we were doing the same thing that you are doing. Good luck!
2006-09-27 00:34:32 · answer #9 · answered by Mama of two 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to my world. Mine is the worst sleeper. Went through this phase and suggest trying three things:
1. try an earlier bedtime--kids that are overtired have a harder time sleeping per what I've read.
2. don't go in when she wakes up, give her some time to put herself back to bed.
3. (this is what worked for us) limit naps. It may be time to eliminate a nap if she's taking two of them or limit each of them to less time. We experiemented with this and depending on what time she went to bed (usually around 9 ish for us) and how she slept is how we determine how long to let her sleep.
Good luck!
2006-09-26 07:09:24 · answer #10 · answered by crchkc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋