but the two women who volunteered to be this year's room mothers are behaving very much like two high-school girls. They don't answer my emails, ignore me when we are at meetings, etc. I'm trying to keep my cool and ignore all of that, since ALL I want is to help the teacher, the school, and the kids of course.
I've offered to help them with whatever they need only I often try to initiate conversation with them only to be left aside while they discuss things among themselves. What is also strange is that NO OTHER MOM in my son's classroom volunteered to do A SINGLE THING yet! I'm the only one so far. I wonder what is going on here. I wasn't born in the United States (where we live now) and I speak with a slight Portuguese accent. I wonder if that is not the reason they are acting weird like this. Anybody has any thoughts, advice, ideas on how to deal with a situation like this? I only want what's best for my son and the other kids. I'm sort of frustrated by this whole thing right now
2006-09-20 07:59:13 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I forgot to mention that my son is in a special-ed classroom because he has Asperger's Syndrome (high functioning autism) and the classroom is composed of children from K to 3rd Grade.
Also, I had so much fun serving lunch this morning with some of the PTO moms. Not EVERYBODY shuns me at my sons school. Just these two women...
2006-09-20 08:01:41 · update #1
Personally, I would ignore the attitudes of these two mothers, and deal directly with the teacher. Ask her what kind of activites she feels would benefit the kids best and between you and her, I am sure you can provide the children with the activities.
Eventually, either the other two women will come around and help out, or you will at the very least be helping the kids without them.
2006-09-20 08:08:24 · answer #1 · answered by buttercup89119 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well all my kids started preschool at age 3 so I was used to them going and they were used to going too. But really, its usually parents crying on the first day of school, the kids are excited and happy to go lol.. He might be all excited now but once the newness wears off he might start getting upset that he needs to go in there again. thats normal and theres always some kids in any class that go thru that. It doesnt necessarily mean hes gettin bullied etc. The only advice I really have is that dont let you son into how nervous you are and try to get a good relationship going with the teachers. If they know you personally they are much more likely to work with you in the future ( like if you request a specific teacher for 1st grade etc ) Also you can always voulunterr at field trips or jsut in the room, they always need some extra help. edit, I wouldnt worry about the k-12 just yet. No highschooler is going to bully a kindergartener ( or even a middleschooler, they do have a heart) I would be more worried about it when they go to middleschool that they have contact with highschoolers every day.. Now that would scare me lol
2016-03-26 23:14:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk directly to the teacher. Chances are she'll have plenty of things she would love a volunteer to do. In the younger grades, there is so much cutting and organizing. If you make it clear to the teacher that you want to help, you'll be put to work. Also, let the teacher know that you had been trying to help, but the class moms didn't get back to you. Either the teacher will work directly with you, or she will mention to the class moms that she would like them to work with you. It is wonderful that you would like to help. There are so few parents that are able to do so anymore with the busy lives it seems everyone leads. Don't get discouraged. Find a new way in. The teacher will appreciate it.
2006-09-21 08:04:03 · answer #3 · answered by caitlinerika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ma'am, what those women are doing is social activities. Teachers need so much help with in room activities that if you listed all of the things in a nice letter to the teacher, I am sure she would love to involve you in the daily learning of the classroom.
Offer to read books, run off copies for her, correct papers, cut out bulletin boards, listen to children read, there are tons of things that I am sure that you could do and she would be most appreciative. Don't wait for those mothers...go directly to the teacher!
2006-09-20 13:50:30 · answer #4 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask the "cats" if they have a problem with you. I believe in the direct approach. A lot of women think they are better than others and yes it may be because of your accent that they are snobbish. You probably have better manners than they do and that threatens them.
As everyone else suggested talk to the teacher but if they are all going to be in the same class for a long time then you need to nip this in the bud.
2006-09-20 17:21:09 · answer #5 · answered by MVAC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak with the teacher in private and see what she says! A willing parent is a wonderful thing to have! Some parents seem to think they are better then others. I ignore them to the best of my ability and sometimes it gets on my nerves and I end up blowing up at them! I do it though away from the kids!
2006-09-20 12:20:20 · answer #6 · answered by kolowski4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats sad that they are all about chatting and not bothering to really help you. I would talk to whoever is supervising you and just explain that you are concerened that time is not being used wisley. My mother in law is a preschool teacher and my brother in law has the same thing as your son. And it is very great that you are helping out. I am sure that the teachers really apreciate what you do. just hang in there. It is all about the kids. Just do your own thing.
2006-09-20 08:09:33 · answer #7 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the teacher what's going on. The teacher should be keeping order with the voluntary activites. If the teacher doesn't do anything, go to the principal.
2006-09-20 08:08:17 · answer #8 · answered by Conscious-X 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all you have a right to be in the classroom helping. i also know the laws of the special ed. students. i have one and by law you are allowed to help them out, just don't get in the way. i got my foot in the door by making games, simple games to help out in learning. special kids like ours need a lot of one on one help . keep pushing and let no one keep you from ur baby. its your right!!!
2006-09-20 08:11:07 · answer #9 · answered by lilhotrod065 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore these woman and just deal with the teacher and help all you can
2006-09-20 21:50:22 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋