we were together for several years and we lived together. Now that we moved out, we have decided to take a break from each other and date other people. She says that she does really love me, but she wants to make sure that this is whats right for her. We decided to cut off contact w/ each other for a couple weeks, but its so hard for me not to call. I miss her so much, and i just want her back. I dont want to seem needy or desperate, so im not going to call. Its just i cant get her out of my mind. What can i do? We both agree that we dont want eachother to get into serious relationships, and i know she really does love me. I guess im just one of those guys that cares so much, and is nothing but nice. By changing this and not calling or visiting, will this help me and make her want me? Thanks...
2006-09-20 07:50:37 · 23 answers · asked by t2006s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
word, move on to the next ho
2006-09-20 07:53:16 · answer #1 · answered by Ron Mexico 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaks or space isn't a bad thing sometimes it makes the people realize how much they want to be together, after seeing what else is out there. You can't make someone want to be with you if they choose not to be no matter what you do. If you are ment to be together you will be in time. But don't stop living your life waiting for her to want to be with you. That is to be determined. I have a friend going through this same thing. It is heartbreaking to watch him go through. Give it time and live in the mean time.
2006-09-20 08:00:36 · answer #2 · answered by TIA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This all sounds very strange.
I'd write her a nice letter and send her flowers. Tell her how you feel and how you miss her. Aim for romantic, not needy or pathetic.
If she wants to continue things as they've recently changed, I think maybe she thinks, "I love him, but we're not getting married, so it's time to move on." Why would she think that? Either because she's given you plenty of time to ask her and you haven't -or- because she doesn't want a permanent relationship.
You can fix one. You probably can't fix the other.
2006-09-20 07:54:58 · answer #3 · answered by jplrvflyer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah bud shes already over you. You could call and tell her your feelings but I bet she has already moved on.
You need to do the same.
She is just leading you on about...a break. What she really wants is another dick.
Heres a bit of women translation 101...
I think we need a break...I can't stand being with you anymore.
I am thinking about seeing other people...I am already sleeping with someone else.
I just need time to find myself...I need you to go away so I can find myself a new man.
We are all out of milk...get off your @ss and go to the store.
The trash is full...get off your @ss and empty the trash.
He's just a friend I can talk to...I can't talk to you so I am finding another 'friend'
I don't know how I feel...I feel nothing for you anymore.
etc.
etc.
etc.
2006-09-20 08:02:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you both love each other as much as each other, then the break that you guys are taking right now is not gonna hurt your relationship.. In fact it's gonna make it grow stonger because you guys are going to realize how much you miss each other and your love will grow stronger
2006-09-20 07:54:46 · answer #5 · answered by Foxxy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she says that she needs some time then let her have it. I know from experience how hard it is to sit there helpless to do anything about it. But show her that you can respect her and her time by letting her have it to think things through. If you call or try to talk to too soon it may end up much worse than you thought.
2006-09-20 07:54:02 · answer #6 · answered by limpkornrock7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on. When someone tells you they want to "see other people", it means they already are. When someone says, "they need to make sure a relationship is the right one for them" it means that they don't think it is.
She's stringing you along in case the new guy doesn't work out.
2006-09-20 07:55:20 · answer #7 · answered by C K Platypus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't "make her want you" but you can give her space. how old are you? she may really love you. she may not. she may really be looking for an 'acceptable" excuse to sleep with other people and still have you on the line.
my advice is to move on with your life. give her what she wants. space. and move on. if she comes back. try again if it's what you both want. but do not waste your time pining away and calling. live!
2006-09-20 07:53:43 · answer #8 · answered by lucky c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like she wanted the separation more than you did, go with it - maybe send her flowers and a note saying you miss talking to her but no calls- if she asked you for space you should respect her wishes. try to keep yourself busy- it will make the time pass faster. good time to take up a new hobby- or throw caution to the wind and go on a blind date.
2006-09-20 08:05:28 · answer #9 · answered by doyalikethatdaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats tough but you sound like a nice guy i would go out with some other girls to get her off yoru mind for a couple weeks and then she will see you have a new life and miss you so bad she will come cralling back or she might not but either way you have to get out with other people and get your mind off of it or it will drive you crazy
2006-09-20 07:57:01 · answer #10 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who truely love eachother don't need to take breaks. Sorry to be blunt, but it's true. Move on...
2006-09-20 07:54:02 · answer #11 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋