What age do think it's best to talk to children and how should start the conversation?

Question

i have a 4year old asking questions that she learns in shcool... i know you should be open and honest with your kids but at what age should i talk to my daughter about sex??

Answer 1

I think these days you have to be honest i think at that age you need to answer the questions bluntly but not graficly if you do they will not understand u and they will be disgusted i think if they are old enough to ask its better off you telling them then a stranger telling them and not getting all the information .. they should just eb satisfied with the answer you give them but if they are not tell them a lil more but remember they are 4 and keep it simple

Answer 2

If your child is wanting to learn about something, you should always take advantage. The child will either learn what they want from you, or from other people who may not really know. My personal oppinions is that no child is too young to have a question be answered. With your child being four, I would not go up to her, sit her down, and talk about sex. However, if she came and asked what a penis was, then tell her. But don't think that just because she asks the questions that you have to go into detail. Give enough information to satisfy her quesiton.

For example, I asked my dad when I was about 5 what a ***** was. His reply was, "A ***** is a slang term (do you know what slang is? good . . .) for an erection. It simply means that blood goes into the man's penis and makes it more firm than usual." And that's where he ended. Had I asked "why" then he would have went further, but his answer did answer my question.

I think if you just pay attention to her, and let her ask the questions, you'll do just fine. As she grows older, her questions may require a little bit of prompting. Good luck!

Answer 3

4 is good to start with difference b/w boys and girls. I always gave my daughter just enough info to answer the question or "tackle the situation" that has occured that needs explaination. Then I tell her "there's always more to learn that I will tell you about when you get to the right age." That satisfies her. i always timed conversations to her questions and what is going on in our lives that requires explaining. For example: when she asked why my "special band aides are for my pants" i explained the basics of periods, she wanted to know exactly how babies were made when I became pregnant this year, so I got a GREAT book (a little below her level, but simple is better) from the library called "where did I come from?" I used that as a spring board to explain sex.
I just have found that a direct- age appropriate explaination works great. KILLS my mom, but oh well...maybe our relationship would be better if she had been more up front with me about things.
Ha! Its funny..just last night on Seinfeld they were talking about guys and "shrinkage" due to George being in a cold pool. Guess what question arose! yep...so I explained that the sperm have to stay a certain temp in order for them to work to make babies. So guys bodies hold balls closer to keep em warm and in hot weather, they dangle a bit away from their bodies. She said "so its like a human thermostat?" YEP!

Answer 4

Tell her some things but not much. My 6 year old knows what sex is & what happens from it but no details. I did however have an in-depth conversation with my daughters at the age of 9. We go over that conversation about every 6 months to make sure they listen & don't forget any of it. You have to have the talk with them before their friends do. And we all know how they know EVERYTHING! I just wouldn't reccomend it quiet yet though.

Answer 5

I think 4 years old is a good time to talk about the differences between a boy and a girl. But not about sex yet. I think 8 is a good age to start the sex talk.

Answer 6

They say that by the time a child is 5 they have their personality set. Weather or not this is true, it is logical. I think that the Bible is the best way to go about teaching your kids. Weather you believe in God or not, it dosen't matter. There are values and morals there that will set children in a way that will last them a life time.
"raise up a child in the way he should go, and he shall never depart from it" i think it was God who said that. The book of Proverbs is full of knowledge after knowledge. that is how i would get ideas how to teach my own kin. Solomon speaks to the young in the entier book anyway. Kinda a conincedenc eh? lol. Well have a good day friend.

Answer 7

I, personally, think 4 is way too young for this conversation, but it's your child. You also have to remember that what you tell her, she will tell to someone else. Just explain the simple stuff if you have to!
The best age for this discussion is really dependent on the maturity of the child. My son is 10 and we still have not had the "talk". I do not think that he is ready yet.
If you decide to defer the answers to her questions, just tell her that she's a bit young right now and you'll tell her when she's a bit older. It worked for me.......
Good luck!

Answer 8

I told my kids at that age that when moms and Dads get married, love makes a baby and the baby grows in a special Mommy part called a uterus and comes out through the vagina (or insert your favorite term for female private part here).

I saved the actual details of the sex act for later !

Answer 9

When you child starts asking, you should be ready with an answer. Obviously she's curious, just answer exactly what she asks, don't go into more details unless she wants them. Just a simple answer will probably due for now. As she gets older, she'll ask really complicated/more in depth questions. Then she can have the entire story.

Answer 10

I have a 4 Year old daughter and I have talked to her about the differences between boys and girls