I was dating a guy and i'm sure i loved him. but we got in an arguement and he yelled at me and said some things that were unbelievably mean and i broke up with him. now he's heartbroken and is begging to get back together or else stay friends. i don't really know what to do?
2006-09-20 07:23:37 · 26 answers · asked by bubblegumpink_88 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The question is do you love him and do you miss him when he's not there beside you? Has he ever talked to you like this before. People say some rude stuff when they are ticked off, just remember that. Were you an angel in this argument or did you spit fire back? If your anything like every other woman, we don't take crap and we say what we think. People say hurtful things, has he tried to apologize, Im sure he has. A real man tries to fix what he has broke and Im sure he realizs what he has lost. If the relationship won't work, it is possible to be friends with an ex. I am best friends with which whom is my ex fiance and a father to my 2 1/2 year old daughter. granted, it takes time but time does heal. Give it some time, time will tell.
2006-09-20 07:30:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well there is really no way ex's can stay friends...but if you break up with guys just cause of an argument and some mean things were said you will never have a relationship. Every relationship has arguing or mean things said at one point in time whether it is you or the other person saying or doing them. If you are sure you love him then that is a pretty petty thing to break up with him for. Honestly I don't think you love him cause if you did you would have probably said some mean things back then had some mean I love you sex afterward...(which is pretty fun)...
2006-09-20 07:33:22 · answer #2 · answered by kikosgirl83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have several options open to you at least one of which is taking a short break to let your anger cool a bit. I'm sure you've every right to have broken up with him, but we don't always mean what we say in the "heat of the moment" and if you're sure you loved him, it would take more than that to kill your love.
After you have a little breathing time, talk things out. Ask him about what he said and try to listen and understand why he said it. This discussion will probably give you a very good sense of whether you want to try again, or not Being friends is essential to trying again... being friends after the relationship ends isn't quite so easy but it can be done.
2006-09-20 07:24:47 · answer #3 · answered by Loresinger99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay friends. But sometimes that is SOOOOO hard to do. I did the same thing once. He was mad and upset for about a month, then we started hanging out again, and it led to other things that we weren't even doing in our relationship.Fun tho. It is hard to stay friends with someone who you have a strong emotional connection with. My advice, if you don't want to end up with something like what I posted, is to just stay away from him, and find someone else. That is what I eventually had to do. No matter how much you love someone, if they say things that hurt, it is not worth it. Find someone who will love you without all the harsh words. Good luck.
I have always stayed friends with ex's. Tho that is the only one that turned into friend with benefits thing. it all ended tho when I met my husband. Everything will work out in the end. Hang in there.
2006-09-20 07:29:58 · answer #4 · answered by gin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the exact situation as you...except he lives with me still. It's been very difficult trying to be friends with him. The best thing you can do is stay away from him for awhile. Let him know that you need your space for now. Then after you've had time to get over the fact that you guys are over you can start to hang out with him again. Go out to eat or to a movie together. Make sure it's just friends going out and not a date. DO NOT have sex with him unless all you want from it is a friend with benefits.
2006-09-20 07:27:50 · answer #5 · answered by kater_tot01 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would think about taking him back, but only if you still really love him. Everyone makes mistakes, and just because you had an argument doesn't mean that you should break up with him. You're gonna have arguments in a relationship, that's just part of it. You two should sit down and talk about this and then maybe you will know whether you want to get back with him or if you just wanna call it quits for good. Follow your heart.
2006-09-20 07:26:50 · answer #6 · answered by kristy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot immediately stop dating, and then turn around and just be friends, because the feelings are still there and still raw. Don't talk much, or see each other much, for awhile. Then, after the strong romantic feelings fade away, you can be friends (might take about a year).
Tell him that you think that the two of you need to spend some time apart, and then don't answer any of his calls for awhile. He will get over you eventually.
2006-09-20 07:31:08 · answer #7 · answered by Randy G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you broke up with someone just stay away and calm down for a little bit and after a few days just start to say that you are really sorry for braking up with them and just start to make him or her laugh. The main thing is just be friends or if your confident just go for it and go out with him or her again
2015-06-08 12:09:08 · answer #8 · answered by Candice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can stay friends, but you both need to give each other time to get over the relationship. I would say, "well, eventually we can be friends, but for now we need some time apart while we are getting over the break-up." His "just friends" statement is a way to stay in your life. If he truly wants to remain friends, he will still want that after a month or more apart. Stay strong!
2006-09-20 07:27:41 · answer #9 · answered by J.Z. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Once you broke up you can't be friends anymore, same thing happened to me I yelled at my g/f and called her names, she broke up with me, but I'm not begging to get back or to stay friends. I'm sure that he didn't yell at you for no reason, I'm sure that he wanted to do something, or didn't want you to do something and you were repeating it over and over again
2006-09-20 07:26:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋