These three boys are handfuls. Iam a stay home mom and I am with them all the time and they never listen to me I am lost I am going crazy. I need help on getting them to obey me HELP!!!!!!!!
2006-09-20 07:17:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I know this is a serious question and you are probably very frustrated.
A lot of people tell their kids to stop doing something, and that is
ineffectual. why is this? it is because the children only work by imitation, and when being told not to do something, it does not process, rather, they only learn to imitate how their parents are telling them off. if a child is banging pots and pans, and someone yells at them "stop banging", they don't stop banging, they just learn to yell at other people like they were yelled at. the better thing to do in this case would be to pick up some crayons,
and start drawing--in other words, DEMONSTRATE the desired behaviour, and the child will imitate. knowledge of this one simple principle can make a tremendous difference in the ability of the parent to bring the desired behaviours out of the children.
I guess, what I am trying to say, is you have to be firm, maybe a spanking or two will help. If your kids are at the age where they understand, make sure you follow through, for example, if you don't stop doing that, you won't get cake, then makre sure yo do not give him cake. They need ot know that with their bad actions come consequences. I also suggest you don't yell at your kids, firm sturdy voice tones work better.
Good luck and remember to keep your cool, because no matter how bad they are, they are your children and you love them.
2006-09-20 07:28:05 · answer #1 · answered by belert08 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I too, am the stay at home mother of 3 boys. First off, I know how you feel!!! My boys are 8-3-1. The older goes to school, so I get a break for a while, but the others are horrible!! Im not sure there is a sure fire way of making them listen, but I try. My three year old is pretty good at playing, but refuses to clean or eat or whatever when I want him too. I started to make him repeat what I told him. Like if I said "next we are going to pick up toys" then I would say "right" and he would say "yes now we are going to pick up toys" that seems to be working so far. My one year old likes to chase around his brother and be just like him. So, I tell the older one that his baby wants to be like him so we have to teach him nice stuff. He likes to "help" and gets rewards when he teaches his baby brother nice things. I try not to yell because that just makes it worse and I try not to be too picky, they are only kids after all.
2006-09-20 16:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by holly w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SPARE THE ROD, SPOIL THE CHILD. My mother had 5 kids, all different dads. The was a mess. Tried states custody and everything. I am the middle child.... my mother is yet with another guy. My older bro and sis are in and out of rehab and jail. My little sister was taken by her father and haven't seen her in 9 years. My little brother is rebellious as can be.. I have seen them walk all up and down my mother. I am in college, i have my own place and 2 cars. I had to teach myself through this life. (((( if there was something that i would want more in my childhood, it would have been more diciplin, maby my family wouldn't be so destroyed now if she took a bit more controll)))) take it or leave it
2006-09-20 08:07:38 · answer #3 · answered by Hero-Of-Ages 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same boat!! My middle son is also ADHD & possibly bi-polar or scizophrenic. Having 3 boys is a HUGE handful!! You can try to sit down with them & explain that you really need their help. The more they listen, the better things will be for everyone! You can also have a male who they trust talk to them. I know my boys tend to listen to males more than me. I really hope this helps ya out!
2006-09-20 07:28:25 · answer #4 · answered by jo_w76 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with ya girl! I am stay home mom of 3 also. My girls don't listen for crap! They fight & tattle tale constantly!!!!! All I can manage to do is send them to their room. Thankfully they have their own rooms. I tell them not to come out for the rest of the day. They do but by that time they are chilled out a little. I say nothing unless it starts up again-then I make sure they don't leave their room for the day. GOOD LUCK!!!!!! Hope that helps you.
2006-09-20 07:28:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be STRICT with them, kids won't have respect or listen to you if you don't put your foot down. Take away things they like to do if they don't listen to you, keep being this way. Even if they say mean things to you or hurt your feelings, they're learning respect for you and learning to obey you. Your the adult figure, you put down the rules.
2006-09-20 07:26:58 · answer #6 · answered by Sydney 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get the book Super Nanny (From the ABC show) written by Jo Frost. It says how to get your children to actually listen to you.
2006-09-20 07:21:28 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do not spank them thell get worst take away things hey really like make them eat what they dont like until they listen i know it works with my 3 boys are u divored i am lets get married setup our wedding date im free 10/11/06
2006-09-20 10:39:41 · answer #8 · answered by nick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spank, spank, spank
2006-09-20 07:25:27 · answer #9 · answered by Beer Man 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋