I've been casually dating a guy for about 2 1/2 months, we've recently decided to be 'exclusive'. Well the other day I was running by his place to borrow a DVD and a male friend came with me. The guy I was seeing got very jealous wondering who he was, why we were hanging out ect.. and later told me that he had 'bad vibes from him' - I knew/know the guy i'm with has a jealous streak and it doesn't bother me.
Well anyways when I came by to see him that night he was more affectionate and sweet.. not much more sweet but def. more affectionate.
Do you all think this is because he got afraid for a moment that I could leave or just because he wanted to prove that he was better than my friend...
Seems odd to me.
Good or bad sign.
NOTE:
Since this was a common misconception from when i first asked.. I didnt MEAN to make him jealous. I didn't think anything of having my friend with me, he's heard of my friend just hadn't met him. Causeing jealousy wasn't a thought in my head.
2006-09-20 07:12:25 · 6 answers · asked by attila 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Very young because I have a male friend that I don't think is threatening to a relationship?
I have no romantic feelings for my friend so i didn't think about it... honestly I don't understand how that ages me.
We're both young - both early 20's
2006-09-20 07:21:35 · update #1
Like everything else in life, jealousy is okay in moderation... You are just starting an exclusive relationship so he is threatened when he sees you with another guy...
If the jealousy is constant and irrational, then there's a problem and u need to lose him...
2006-09-20 07:15:58 · answer #1 · answered by Andy FF1,2,CrTr,4,5,6,7,8,9,10 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe your boyfriend was feeling a bit embarrassed because he reacted the way he did earlier when you came by and that accounts for the extra dose of affection.
Now that you know, not just from what he's said but also from his reaction, how susceptible to jealousy he is, are you SURE you won't be tempted to play on his weakness? Because that is one dangerous game to play!
Does he have female friends he simply hangs out with? How do you feel about that?
It takes time to establish trust in any relationship. If you're both honest with each other about having an "exclusive" relationship and LIVE it as well as say it, the jealous feelings should diminish.
If they don't, or they escalate for no obvious reason, then he definitely needs help and you should steer clear of him.
2006-09-20 14:37:37 · answer #2 · answered by pat z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is good that he get jealous sometimes it just shows that he really likes you, but there is a point to where there can be to much if he gets to that point I would leave. If he didn't bring it up again about not hanging out with your friend anymore then I wouldn't worry about it. My husband has his moments also to where he might get jealous heck even I do at times but we don't take it to seriously we know that we love each other (not saying that you and him are in love). Just be carefull not to let it go to far, if he tells you not to hang out with him anymore then you need to just break it off because thats when the controlling stuff comes in. Trust me I know I have been there. Hope this helps you good luck
2006-09-20 14:22:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad.
You also must be very young to have a exclusive relationship and not have the smarts to NOT drag some other guy over.
My question to him is, why is he in a exclusive relationship with a young girl. He hasn't learned the hard way yet. He will.
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The fact that you dont understand ages you.
"I didn't think anything of having my friend with me".
That does. When you get out into the world of adults, careers..etc, you will learn the term "appearance of impropriety", it may be before or after you lose a husband and or thousands of dollars. Hopefully before.
2006-09-20 14:13:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He saw your friend as a potential threat and re-claimed his territory to affirm his dominant status in the pack.
2006-09-20 14:24:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your nuts
2006-09-20 14:15:18 · answer #6 · answered by gary_george48 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋